A Balanced Approach to Wellness!

failure at math

Several readers wrote to tell me that the blog posts “Failure addiction is taught” and “Addiction to failure” explained family members’ difficulties in life. Until they read those posts, they had not been able to understand the inability of their siblings/children to function.

The distressing state of drug addiction (legal and not) to combat anxiety, sleeplessness, and normal coping behaviors, is a reason to look more deeply at failure addiction and its causes. The lack of success in relationships and in achieving goals are additional reasons for looking at the causes of failure addiction.

As stated in “Failure addiction is taught”, children experience uncertainty and dejection when their parents–or other beloved caregivers–are emotionally distant, are consistently absent, and ignore their children’s natural interests. Children are sensitive to the words and actions of their loved ones, so that distancing and disinterest harm their sense of self, which in turn, causes them to doubt their abilities and thwarts their capacity for perseverance. Without perseverance and belief in oneself, a person cannot achieve goals.

Attentive parents can instill tendencies towards failure addiction when they require achievements that don’t suit their child’s abilities and interests, when they push away natural childhood demand for affection (from the parent), and when they purposely ignore their child’s expressions of himself or herself (for example, seeing that the child has a sensitive nature and pretending that the child is unflappable).

These “attentive” parents create people who may “succeed”, but feel unable to cope. Eventually, the inability to cope will affect work, self-perception, and/or appetite. The failure-prone people will struggle throughout their lives with relationships, unless they are able to adjust their self-images.

Failure addiction causes breakdowns, breakups, and breakaways. It is a cause of depression, compulsive behaviors, eating issues, and social withdrawal. Failure addiction indicates deep sadness, and deep sadness is the source of debilitating anger and aggression.

Failure addiction is a heart impediment. It stops the intangible heart from opening to oneself and to others, so that the intangible heart is stunted and enfeebled.

Note: This information has been received from Spirit.

Flu Prevention

no-to-fluWe can lessen the possibility of being sickened from flu viruses if we do at least five of the following things:

  • Sleep the proper amount for your body. The body requires enough sleep to fortify against invading germs. A weary body struggles against powerful flu viruses.
  • Breathe protectively. Shallow breathing cannot supply oxygen like deep breathing. The more rhythmic and deep the breathing throughout the day, the more the body can withstand flu vitality.
  • Create music or listen deeply to music during the winter season. Music has a protective effect on our bodies.
  • Wear clothing that protects. Don’t wear clothes for warm weather in the winter. Don’t overdress in overheated spaces. Don’t over-shiver (shivering is a normal reaction to cold, but over-shivering means the shivering has gone on for too long or the intensity of the cold is too much for your body).
  • Food: eat cruciferous vegetables (broccoli, radish, cabbage, cauliflower, arugula, etc.), parsley, lemon, orange-colored vegetables (carrot, sweet potatoes, pumpkin, etc.), pomegranate, mulberries, buckwheat, garlic, blackstrap molasses, kombu seaweed. Eat a reasonable amount of food each day. Too much food taxes the body’s defenses. Too little food lowers the body’s resistance.
  • Stay hydrated throughout the day. The body can flush out flu viruses when fluids are flowing optimally. Water is the best hydrator, followed by barley tea and parsley juice/tea.
  • Stay active. Keep exercising and moving throughout the winter months.
  • Stay away from people carrying a flu virus. The easiest way to spot a carrier is to notice their vitality. People carrying a flu virus that is transferable have given their vitality to the virus. (By the time carriers have the flu symptoms, they may have already passed the virus on to others, so looking for lack of vitality is an early clue to virus protection.)
  • Stay optimistic, which offers protection from many types of germs.
  • Aim to feel content, which also offers protection from many types of germs.

 

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

ten commandments

Oxygen gives us life that fits our bodies and our mental well-being. So too, the Ten Commandments! They are a source of many minor reactions and many major changes–both oxygen and the commandments. In their own ways they bring order, connection, and creation.

The Ten Commandments have pertinence today, although their focus has been seen by some to be irrelevant. Their messages are straightforward and yet, they have been held at bay by people who choose to enable contrary actions.

Here is a commandment to consider when facing your daily dilemmas:
  • Give your time to sensitivity: Sensitivity towards family, neighbors, and outsiders. Sensitivity to the needs of the animals that feed you. Sensitivity to the Earth’s treasures. Sensitivity to the ebbs and flows of all life.

Spirit shares this commandment, because sensitivity is missing in too many interactions and decisions. Sensitivity brings positive results and less illness.

transgender

Throughout history, men and woman have struggled with sexual orientation. Some have been able to live a life that suited their perceptions of themselves, because they lived in societies that were either accepting or they lived outside the confines of their society. Those who struggled to live within their society’s sexual boundaries often suffered from emotional and internal questioning and policing.

Sexual orientation is a DNA-related determination. DNA generally assigns sexual orientation in a standard process: female physicality with female perception, male physicality with male perception. The process can be disrupted or stunted so that the standard male-female perception-physicality are altered.  The changes to DNA occur in utero. (This alteration can also happen to various animal groups.)

Sexual orientation is felt through hormonal input. The hormonal push to be male or female is also standard. The hormones and their development can be rearranged because of external triggers so that behaviors of sexual nature become shifted. (This alteration does not happen to other animals.)

Society is accepting or not accepting of the unstandard. Having unstandard DNA assignment is a fact. Living with it is the norm, but if society is unwilling to be accepting of unstandard DNA assignment, the people who receive homosexual or gender oppositing assignment are forced to live falsely. This type of living is difficult and diminishing.

Some societies are open to the reality of DNA assignment that is not standard. This openness enables living according to DNA assignment, and sometimes allows for additional acceptance of hormonal rearrangements. The societies that create space for the people who feel that their hormonal calls are for exploration of unfamiliar orientation (transgender) are societies that move beyond the ordinary.

The use of medical treatments to enhance transgender orientation is not enhancing to the people who receive it. They may think it will be valuable, but it creates restrictions rather than releases.

Note: This information has been spiritually received and is not based on scientific research.

 

Cover-Contracts for an exemplary life

Health improvements, self-development, changes in behavior, changes in habits, and legacy building are goals that can be reached when Exemplary Life contracts are used. An exemplary life is lived when future generations are kept in mind, when habits reflect caring for oneself and one’s family and community, and when activities are chosen that create satisfaction with one’s life.

Improving health can be by eating more nutritiously, scheduling regular physical activity, and learning to lessen stress. Self-development can be by learning to play a musical instrument, developing hobbies, and meditating. Changes in behavior can be by becoming more appreciative and being kinder to oneself and others. Changes in habits can be by revising daily routines that are not nourishing and preventing procrastination. Legacy building can be by spending more time with younger people and evaluating the legacy you want to leave. These are but a few of the topics that can be addressed with Exemplary Life contracts.

Contracts for an Exemplary Life is spiritually received assistance that understands what people want. People want their lives to be expressions of who they are. They want to be actively engaged in living and they want to face the challenges that life presents in a confident and gratifying way. Unfortunately, as they go along, people lose their focus and mire themselves in distracting and destructive activities and habits.

With true-to-me contracts, a person can return to the natural way of being: expressing who the person really is, engaging actively in life, and facing challenges with confidence and satisfaction.

Contracts for an Exemplary Life—Using Contracts to Achieve Your Goals contains help for people who really want to bring change. Contracts for an Exemplary Life is available on amazon.com: http://amzn.com/1518880746

Deadlines

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When a deadline is looming, people respond in many, many ways. Each person has a way of coping or approaching or ignoring or using the deadline to achieve/fail. Some people aim for success; some people aim for failure. Yes, both are aims and both are normal reactions depending on each person’s attitude, history, and current bodily balance or imbalance.

This post is being presented to those who aim for success. (I bet you thought it would be the other aim.)

Aiming for success is usually a positive aspiration. Success in one’s endeavors is considered to be the goal that should be reached. Success. What is success? The dictionary says that success means the attainment of wealth, honors, position, etc. In society, wealth, the receipt of awards, CEOs, elected leaders, and celebrity are the coveted (eagerly wished for) ideals.

Let’s look at success in life. What are successful life goals?

  • Maintaining good family relationships—not always easy, but worth making a goal.
  • Maintaining community—very important and worth the investment.
  • Maintaining a healthy outlook about oneself—influences all the other goals and is vital for reaching the goals with health and self-esteem unharmed.
  • Maintaining work requirements—delivering (a performance or a report), showing up when expected, influencing others or work conditions,  performing duties properly and with concern (no matter the type of work), providing the needed skills (relearning or staying current as needed), and focusing when focus is required.
  • Maintaining a relationship with the environment and the creatures that inhabit the planet. “Creatures” include animals and people.

Success is large and small. Large and small successes. Public and private successes. Often, the small and private successes are the most important.

Getting back to deadlines—each person determines the approach that works or doesn’t work. Remembering to attend to all of the life goals should help keep focus and lessen wasteful fretting and wasteful actions.

star sunglasses

What happens when we idolize celebrities? Idolizing celebrities removes a person from his or her reality, because the true reality is away from where the “star” is located. The “star” is living a life somewhere else, and the idolizing person lives in a place between reality and fairy tale.

Fairy tale living is half-living that renders the idolizer removed from reality and removed from time.  Idolizing excessively creates facsimiles of the people doing the idolizing and of the people being idolized. Neither facsimile is real.

Obsessively desiring to be like a celebrity prevents a person from seeing his or her own talents. When a celebrity’s achievements spur others to achieve their own goals, the teaching is uplifting. When the celebrity’s achievements become obsessions without causing positive results for the idolizer, the worship becomes destructive.

Celebrities can spread entertainment, innovation and information, but their lives are not worth idolizing. Their lives have corners that others cannot see, and the truth of their existences is often not so shiny.

Here are celebrity obsessive behaviors that cause removal from one’s own life:

  • Displaying a holiday card of the family of a celebrity financial planner as if you know this family is removal from your own life.
  • Following the tweets and instagrams of a celebrity instead of communications from family and friends is removal from your own life.
  • Changing your appearance or buying clothes you can’t afford to look like a celebrity is removal from your own life.
  • Changing your activities to watch a “star” walk by is removal from your own life.
  • Abandoning principles and close people for the chance of spending time with a celebrity is removal from your own life.

Looking beyond oneself for inspiration is normal human behavior. Watching elders teaches customs and traditions. Listening to others with skills or knowledge as a way to improve one’s own skills or knowledge is useful. Studying the achievements of a person who has impacted others in a positive way is enlightening.

Note: Spirit shares this information as a reminder for each of us to develop our own soulfully gifted talents.

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