A Balanced Approach to Wellness!


This post has taken me by surprise, but Spirit assures me that there is a failure addiction. Unlike addictions to heroin or gambling, failure addiction requires little investment in paraphernalia or cash. Failure addiction requires these three mindsets: determination to not succeed, creation of stumbling blocks, and inability to see opportunities.

Many people suffer from failure addiction; however, it is often subtle and sometimes even socially acceptable so that the sufferers feel justified in their inabilities to succeed. It often stems from childhood traumas that teach children to distance themselves from their internal dialogues and from their inherent abilities. The less people know themselves, the easier to set themselves up for failure.

Much more can be said about the causes of failure addiction, but Spirit wants me to turn to solutions. So here they are:

  1. A person cannot fail when he or she knows personal truths. Turning inwards, and focusing on true passions and abilities, leads to movement away from procrastination and sabotage. This step can take time, but is crucial in moving past cemented habits of failure.
  2. Connecting to the natural world opens a failure addict to external wonderment. Being outside in nature removes focus on internal suffering. Entering natural water sources or green surroundings lifts thoughts of self-misery, often completely but sometimes temporarily. These moments can counter negativity when the pursuit of connection with nature is done with awareness of the purpose to distance from failure expectations.
  3. Connecting to music that is soothing or melodic can aid the move from failure addiction. Choosing music that uplifts helps the mind move towards positivity.

Failure addiction can affect many areas of life, or just one or two. It can be temporary or long lasting. It can also be the beginning of other addictions.

Failure addiction is worth fixing.

Note: Spirit says we should really get to know our soulful gifts and talents. The more we know them, the more we will want to succeed!

sweets for children

My childhood contained many spoonfuls of sugar. It started off with sweetened formula. There were doughnuts and ice cream, sugar cubes and sodas. Lollipops and candy canes were gifts at doctor appointments and my parents’ business friends’ offices. Halloween provided weeks of sugary treats. The other holidays had their special sweet treats and customary sweet dishes. My family’s snack drawer was full of snack cakes, cookies, and sno balls. At school, lunches included a sweet treat and the food provided was often sweetened. For breakfast, I ate sweetened cereals, sweetened oatmeal, and instant breakfast drinks.  Family trips to the local ice cream parlors and baseball games led to sweet celebrations galore.  Iced tea was always sweetened as were the fresh strawberries. Sunday morning pancakes smothered with imitation maple syrup were the weekly food highlight. Crackers, canned savory foods, spreads, and fast foods were sweetened as well. My diet was sweet foods with occasional breaks for the unsweetened things. I think that my diet was typical of children growing up in the 60s and 70s in the United States. All that sweetness influenced my health, my eating habits, and my thinking.


This blog post is written to parents and grandparents to make them aware that their choices to sweeten the lives of their children and grandchildren delivers misery instead of the intended happiness. Sweetening a child’s life is love misguided.

Note: This blog post is not my opinion although I do agree with it. The wisdom presented here is straight from Spirit.

Parents and grandparents,

“Most of our diet is meant to be non-sweet. The sweet part should be about 8%, and of that 8%, all should be from natural sources—that is how our bodies are designed. .” …from the post “Sweeteners: The Facts

More than 8% sweetness leads to:

  • changed appetite (wanting foods for their sweetness rather than for their satisfaction of hunger)
  • emotional turmoil
  • malfunctioning of the processes that handle sweetness
  • reduced resilience of body parts (for example, teeth)
  • illness
  • compromised attention capabilities
  • over-desire for sweetness
  • reduced muscle activity
  • feelings of negativity towards self

from the post “The Facts: Living in a World of Sweetened Sustenance

Through sweets, well-meaning parents feed their children emotional turmoil and compromised attention capabilities. These changes to natural temperament and attentiveness cause problems with peers and in school.

Through sweets, well-intentioned parents offer their children reduced resilience of body parts as rewards for good behavior and grades. Even parents who know the facts about sweetness succumb to societal pressure to provide their children with changed appetite and over-desire for sweetness. Combating the pervasiveness of sweetness in society is not easy.

Rewarding children using sweets that contribute to feelings of negativity towards themselves is building people who are unsure of themselves. Rewarding children with causers of malfunctioning of the processes that handle sweetness is mistaken gifting.

Sweets that are natural, such as fruit and pure maple syrup, are building unless they exceed the 8% limit. Sweets that are destructive, such as sugar and corn syrup, cause disruptions in functioning and in future functioning.

Going against the typical way of pushing sweets onto children is not easy. Defying the advertisers and makers of sweet things is work. Understanding what you are doing each time you give your child a soda or a candy bar or a sweetened cereal, might help you change your outlook on how you stock your house and how you supply nutrition to the children you love with all your heart.

Post 80-Attention

How much time is unharmful for children? Which age is less harmful for a child to play on a smartphone? Which age is the most damaging to use a smartphone? Is a computer screen better than a smartphone screen? Do smartphones create less intelligent people? These questions are the ones that Spirit wants to address.

How much time is unharmful for children?

This question assumes harm. Smart device screens are harmful on many levels–socially, developmentally, and emotionally. The answer to the question is zero (0). More than zero, the harm begins, because the draw of the screen is too strong.

Which age is less harmful for a child to play on a smartphone?

The general answer is that until the age of 17, smart devices are too damaging.

Which age is the most damaging to use a smartphone?

Infants do not belong with smartphones and they should not hold them. Toddlers lose their sense of curiosity about the world if they play too much on a smart device. Young children are damaged by screen time when it is the “toy” given to keep them occupied. Young teens are the most susceptible to the social damage caused by unchecked usage of a smartphone.

Is a computer screen better than a smartphone screen?

Too much time on either of these screens is harmful. Smartphone screens are more harmful to posture, although sitting at a computer without taking regular breaks is also harmful to posture. The safety aspects of a smartphone provide security which a computer screen cannot provide.

Do smartphones create less intelligent people?

The answer to this question depends on the age and frequency of usage. The younger the child is when he or she craves the smartphone, the more chance for creative thought to diminish. The intelligence isn’t affected, but the ability to tap into deeper thinking can be impaired. Also, internal dialogue becomes less frequent.

How can parents proceed when smartphones are so pervasive?

  • Resist the temptation to give a smartphone to a child to keep him or her quiet! Keep interesting things with you at all times so you don’t turn to the smartphone.
  • Limit the time you are on your smartphone around your children. The smartphone will have less appeal for the children if you use it infrequently.
  • If you give your child a mobile phone for safety reasons, choose a mobile phone that is just a phone–no games and no internet access.
  • Do not allow smartphones at mealtimes.
  • Collect all smartphones and other smart devices before bedtime and do not allow them to be in the bedrooms. Do not use them in place of alarm clocks.

Here are posts to read about children and screens: Kids and LCD (screen) addiction, Relief from LCD addiction, and Screen! My beloved screen!

Note: Spirit has pushed me to provide this information.


This tip is for parents, grandparents, and caregivers. It applies to children being raised in today’s world of constant external stimulation.

  • The most important thing to limit is your time away from the children.

The children require your time and your attention. They require material things less. They require your eyes on them, not you looking at a screen or you placing them in front of a screen.

Children thrive when their loved ones give them security. The security develops through loving touch, words, and facial expressions.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

Vape destruction

vaping equipment

There are headlines about the problems with vaping and the unknown consequences of vaping, especially by young people. I read that vaping is too new to know the consequences, so I decided to ask Spirit for a prognosis.

Here is what Spirit is sharing:


There are other problems as well, and this table is not exhaustive.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.


soul connection

What brings salvation?

Seeing with the heart brings salvation! Listening with ears that are open-minded brings salvation too!

Releasing mean-spirited thoughts is helpful. As is choosing to stop mean-spirited actions.

Salvation can come when the thoughts and actions align in kindness. And when the thoughts and actions align in sympathy.

Note: This blog post contains a strong message from Spirit!

(Note from Renee: I have a lot to work on.)


Common sense leads us to build our lives in generally wise ways. Sometimes though, our common sense gets derailed when we listen to others who cause us to question our wisdom. Many of these influencing people have a vested interest in us following their “advice”, because doing so enriches them or increases their influence. We can’t know everything so we do need to rely on information from others, but we have to be aware of the interests of the people who provide the information. Also, wisdom from the past that was once useful doesn’t always translate into wisdom for the present.

Here are four things we get wrong because of the various forces that cause us to think unrealistically.

1. Thinking that love is fairytale possible

People are meant to build deep relationships, but the relationships are not fairytale fantasies.  Relationships require gentle nurturing. They require realistic expectations and perceptions.

Storytellers and movie producers create fantasies of fairytale love, but the reality is different.  Many industries push people to teach their children that fantasy is possible, but reality is different and parents unintentionally raise their children to be disappointed and unhappy.

Life is lived in a more balanced way when love is understood to be a sense of obligation, a show of appreciation, an attraction to the inner character as well as to the outer appearance, a commitment of constant consideration, an openness to coexistence, and an unfailing commitment to kindness and acceptance.

“LOVE that is fantasy is love that is too unreal. This type of love is misunderstood and unattainable. This type of love is difficult and tiring. Falling in love is real as is feeling strong love for another person; however, “true love” is fabrication. Investing in the myth of a perfect love match is non-sustaining. Non-sustaining in terms of health and self-esteem and perception. Attaching to fabled storytelling is abusive, self-abuse.”

Fairytale love is explored, together with realistic loving relationships and unrequited love in the book Oneself–Living.

2. Thinking that people have a right to eat as much meat as they want

Many meat advocates push the consumption of meat products at one or more meals a day. They convince others that the meat is required to maintain strength and vitality.

The ease at which meat is obtained has led to a devaluation of its role in our diets. It has become underappreciated and disrespected. Meat consumption has become inhumane.

Meat is food that can be nourishing and satisfying.  Meat is meant to be eaten in moderation and with appreciation. Read more about meat consumption in these blog posts: Devouring delicious meat, Too much meat, and To eat farmed salmon or not?

3. Thinking that a religion is superior to others

“Religion is an accessway for connecting to God; it is not the destination. Elevating the religion, rather than the divine connection, disconnects people from God. Religions are approaches, they are not possessions to be coveted or aggrandized. ”

Throughout the wisdom writings I have received, the message has been clear:

Come justly without harm
To any others”

The quotes are from the books Descending into War, Descending into Contempt and Faith–A Wisdom Poem Sharing Spiritual Connection.

4. Thinking that toddlers want to sit in a forward-facing stroller/pushchair

Compared to the other misunderstood subjects, this one might seem small, but it impacts development of children. Most stroller/pushchair manufacturers tout the benefits of those that are forward facing (the child and parent are both facing forward). Common sense dictates that the toddler should face the beloved parent, but the parents are swayed by the marketing of the companies.

The direction that is best for children is explained in the blog post Strollers–which direction is best for the children.


Note: This information has been spiritually received.

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