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Bringing change using Exemplary Life contracts

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Health improvements, self-development, changes in behavior, changes in habits, and legacy building are goals that can be reached when Exemplary Life contracts are used. An exemplary life is lived when future generations are kept in mind, when habits reflect caring for oneself and one’s family and community, and when activities are chosen that create satisfaction with one’s life.

Improving health can be by eating more nutritiously, scheduling regular physical activity, and learning to lessen stress. Self-development can be by learning to play a musical instrument, developing hobbies, and meditating. Changes in behavior can be by becoming more appreciative and being kinder to oneself and others. Changes in habits can be by revising daily routines that are not nourishing and preventing procrastination. Legacy building can be by spending more time with younger people and evaluating the legacy you want to leave. These are but a few of the topics that can be addressed with Exemplary Life contracts.

Contracts for an Exemplary Life is spiritually received assistance that understands what people want. People want their lives to be expressions of who they are. They want to be actively engaged in living and they want to face the challenges that life presents in a confident and gratifying way. Unfortunately, as they go along, people lose their focus and mire themselves in distracting and destructive activities and habits.

With true-to-me contracts, a person can return to the natural way of being: expressing who the person really is, engaging actively in life, and facing challenges with confidence and satisfaction.

Contracts for an Exemplary Life—Using Contracts to Achieve Your Goals contains help for people who really want to bring change. Contracts for an Exemplary Life is available on amazon.com: http://amzn.com/1518880746

Deadlines

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When a deadline is looming, people respond in many, many ways. Each person has a way of coping or approaching or ignoring or using the deadline to achieve/fail. Some people aim for success; some people aim for failure. Yes, both are aims and both are normal reactions depending on each person’s attitude, history, and current bodily balance or imbalance.

This post is being presented to those who aim for success. (I bet you thought it would be the other aim.)

Aiming for success is usually a positive aspiration. Success in one’s endeavors is considered to be the goal that should be reached. Success. What is success? The dictionary says that success means the attainment of wealth, honors, position, etc. In society, wealth, the receipt of awards, CEOs, elected leaders, and celebrity are the coveted (eagerly wished for) ideals.

Let’s look at success in life. What are successful life goals?

  • Maintaining good family relationships—not always easy, but worth making a goal.
  • Maintaining community—very important and worth the investment.
  • Maintaining a healthy outlook about oneself—influences all the other goals and is vital for reaching the goals with health and self-esteem unharmed.
  • Maintaining work requirements—delivering (a performance or a report), showing up when expected, influencing others or work conditions,  performing duties properly and with concern (no matter the type of work), providing the needed skills (relearning or staying current as needed), and focusing when focus is required.
  • Maintaining a relationship with the environment and the creatures that inhabit the planet. “Creatures” include animals and people.

Success is large and small. Large and small successes. Public and private successes. Often, the small and private successes are the most important.

Getting back to deadlines—each person determines the approach that works or doesn’t work. Remembering to attend to all of the life goals should help keep focus and lessen wasteful fretting and wasteful actions.

Obsessing over celebrities

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What happens when we idolize celebrities? Idolizing celebrities removes a person from his or her reality, because the true reality is away from where the “star” is located. The “star” is living a life somewhere else, and the idolizing person lives in a place between reality and fairy tale.

Fairy tale living is half-living that renders the idolizer removed from reality and removed from time.  Idolizing excessively creates facsimiles of the people doing the idolizing and of the people being idolized. Neither facsimile is real.

Obsessively desiring to be like a celebrity prevents a person from seeing his or her own talents. When a celebrity’s achievements spur others to achieve their own goals, the teaching is uplifting. When the celebrity’s achievements become obsessions without causing positive results for the idolizer, the worship becomes destructive.

Celebrities can spread entertainment, innovation and information, but their lives are not worth idolizing. Their lives have corners that others cannot see, and the truth of their existences is often not so shiny.

Here are celebrity obsessive behaviors that cause removal from one’s own life:

  • Displaying a holiday card of the family of a celebrity financial planner as if you know this family is removal from your own life.
  • Following the tweets and instagrams of a celebrity instead of communications from family and friends is removal from your own life.
  • Changing your appearance or buying clothes you can’t afford to look like a celebrity is removal from your own life.
  • Changing your activities to watch a “star” walk by is removal from your own life.
  • Abandoning principles and close people for the chance of spending time with a celebrity is removal from your own life.

Looking beyond oneself for inspiration is normal human behavior. Watching elders teaches customs and traditions. Listening to others with skills or knowledge as a way to improve one’s own skills or knowledge is useful. Studying the achievements of a person who has impacted others in a positive way is enlightening.

Note: Spirit shares this information as a reminder for each of us to develop our own soulfully gifted talents.

SALVATION!

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What brings salvation?

Seeing with the heart brings salvation! Listening with ears that are open-minded brings salvation too!

Releasing mean-spirited thoughts is helpful. As is choosing to stop mean-spirited actions.

Salvation can come when the thoughts and actions align in kindness. And when the thoughts and actions align in sympathy.

Note: This blog post contains a strong message from Spirit!

(Note from Renee: I have a lot to work on.)

The person that I am truly meant to be

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Oh if life were so easy
I would be the person I was meant to be
I would take on challenges and handle them with ease
I would be open and funny and clever
I would look fabulous and sing on key
I would not be cranky or defensive
And I would not get upset over silly things.

But life isn’t easy
So I let myself off the hook
And often don’t try
And blame others
And wallow in misery
And even give up
Sometimes.

Perhaps there is a place where
I can find respite from my too-difficult me
Where my mind shuts up
And my gut finally stills
Where I let myself accept
And I let myself free
The person that I am truly meant to be.

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Too many people let themselves sink too low. Rather than rejoice in their living, they choose their misery. Sometimes the cause is nutritional, sometimes the cause is hormonal, and sometimes the cause is just habit. When the reason is laziness or lack of appreciation, the way out is through communal service. When the reason is nutritional or hormonal, the way out is through intervention by a nutritionist, naturopath, doctor, or other healing specialist.

There are other causes as well for the spiral downwards, and often spiritual connection can aid the situation. Energy Guidance Complete is spiritual healing focused on balance and elevated living. Making changes in one’s focus can lead to changes in one’s self-centeredness. Finding guidance that is larger than oneself can loosen self-absorption.  Accepting that the difficulties are just difficulties that can be handled releases self-indulgence.

Making changes is not difficult when we truly want to change. Yes, we can make changes when we truly want to change. The first step is to want to bring change. The next step is to truly want to change. Then the search can begin for how to change so that we can live the life that fits who we are.

Standing up for the body

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Our bodies are so wondrously composed that to question their capabilities is silly. Our bodies beat out rhythms that move us upwards and forwards. They protect us and guide us when we listen. And they constantly communicate when we are open to listening. People who listen to their bodies recognize hints of illness and shouts of desire. The hints lead to proper care and the shouts lead to connections.

People who don’t listen to their bodies require wake up calls and intervention from experts (who don’t know them).

The body, in its exquisite design, is capable of pushing towards movement, of pushing towards sleep, of pushing towards satisfaction, and pushing towards wellness. The key to tapping into the capabilities is to feel what’s happening, what’s really happening: Are the eyelids drooping? Are the bones tightening? Is the stomach grumbling, and is it quiet when the foods eaten are nourishing? Is the heart feeling joy or is it sad? Is the time to drink water now, and am I drinking water (and not a carbonated beverage)? Am I noticing the signs of illness and am I slowing my pace? Is this my third cold this season, and what does that mean? Have I enjoyed the company of people I love and have I shared my love with them? Is now the time to reach spirituality, and can I be open to new ideas? When will I open my mouth to say what I need, and when will I use my wisdom to advance the welfare of the community? More and more hints on how to proceed in life.

By standing up for the body—by recognizing its gift that is guidance—we can live with wonder and satisfaction. The way we are designed!

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

Success with New Year’s resolutions!

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Set yourself up to succeed with your New Year’s resolutions! Here is a book that can help you reach your goals.

The book is Contracts for an Exemplary Life.  It is  filled with forms and examples that can be the basis for success with your resolutions. It contains contracts that can help you commit to resolution goals and bring focus to the steps that will accomplish your goals.

“There are over forty examples of contracts to help you write a contract for your personal betterment, for your relationships within your family and with other people, for your legacy, for your influence within your community, and for your impact on yourself and others. There are contract forms to help you develop the contracts that will work for you.”  – from the back cover

If you would like help keeping resolutions and making true-to-yourself goals, read Contracts for an Exemplary Life—Using Contracts to Achieve Your Goals. It is available on amazon.com: http://amzn.com/1518880746

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