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“Love Leads the Way” is published!

Hi everyone! I’m back to let you know that I finished the book about love and the heart, and have had it published. Here are excerpts:

“There are countless songs, poems, and stories about love and the heart. Often they come from places of wishful thinking and buried reality. “Love Leads the Way” contains no wishful thinking, rather it provides information about love and the heart that is important to know so that we can build nourishing relationships that guide us.”

– Forward

To be connected to the soul requires an ability to harness the intangible knowledge that resides in the heart.

The heart knows the way of the man or woman who carries it. Hearts are physically similar (with variations according to body size; nutritional care received during gestation, infancy, and childhood; and weather [hot/cold/ damp/overcast/ intensely sunny]); and yet they are intangibly different from person to person, with no two hearts the same (as with a fingerprint).

The intangible heart is the best judge of character and motives, but it must overcome the forces that prevent it from working its magic…

– Introduction

The work begins within! When we are unkind to ourselves, we inhibit our ability to relate to others in a balanced and caring way. Their idiosyncrasies annoy us rather than entertain us. We relate to them in harshness and in impatience. When we are kind to ourselves, we expand our caring for ourselves and for others.

– Learning to Love “I”

…A broken heart is part of living. Our hearts break when loved ones die or when love is unrequited or when once-in-love is no more.
Our bodies are designed to help us through the heartache, but the help comes by turning inwards and listening: listening to the feelings of pain and acknowledging them; …listening to the memories and cherishing or releasing them; listening to our inner voice and following its lead; … The more we listen, the better we heal.

– Heartache is a Holistic Response

Know that social connections keep your heart strong. They can’t mend a heart with physical defects, but they can encourage its daily functioning. Seek out opportunities to interact with others and eschew too many solitary endeavors. We are social animals. That’s part of our design.

– Strengthening the Heart

The heart infuses life with emotion, with strength, and with direction. The heart reaches to the soul for guidance and brings the guidance in, even when soulful living has been abandoned or denied. The heart feels the connection to guardian angels, urging wisdom flow and urging sensations of comfort and support. The heart ties us to the rhythms in nature. In the spiritual realm, it pulls us into the flows and into the stillness.

– Leading from the Heart

Love Leads the Way is available in paperback or Kindle. Click here for information.

A Poem for Love

my poem for love
neither rhymes nor idolizes,
for my love is filled with
jagged edges and hasty judgments.
sometimes the judgments were on the mark
and sometimes they led to heartache.
the early love was sweet and pure,
but also clingy and desperate.
trial and error led to gathered friendships and
effort wasted on fruitless encounters.
advancing years brought wiser decisions
and a deeper connection that was able to blossom.
love for children built ecstasy and depth,
but also fear and worry,
the constant companions.

my poem for love
neither fantasizes nor gushes,
for my love is filled with
realistic moments and dashed expectations.
sometimes the expectations were unrealistic,
yes, most times they were, that is true.
when the expectations were put to the side
and fantasy left for the writers,
the moments of deep connection
have been sweet and fulfilling.

my poem for love
brings music and rhythm,
for my love is filled with moments of
unplanned dancing and laughter.
sometimes the laughter is simply a release
and sometimes it is heartfelt and pure.
these are the moments that rush by
and yet,
they are the ones to remember.

my poem for love
continues its journey.
it neither rhymes nor gushes
rather, it follows
its meandering and flowing way.

my poem for love is real.

From my upcoming book, Love Leads the Way.

Showing up for life

We are born and bestowed with a body that functions (usually) and a brain that learns to protect us, guide our experimentations, and oversee our connections to people, plants, animals, and deity. We are given a life to live, with a soul that is like a fingerprint: ours and ours alone.

Having the body and the brains and the soul are not enough to create a life that is true. Our lives also requires vision: a vision that guides us towards the future and a vision that turns inwards and sees our struggles.

Showing up for life means to use the vision that comes from the eyes and from the brain. When we show up for life, we see what the others need and what we can’t do without. When we show up for life, we understand that the thing we need the most is Love.

Loving ourselves joyfully!

hugging oneself

“Joyful love is love that is bestowed without conditions and without expectations. Joyful love can be felt when overcome by the beauty of nature, when immersed in the attention of a playful animal, when mesmerized by the exquisiteness of an infant, and when experiencing the love of a person who has strong feelings of love in return. Joyful love is felt more strongly when it is allowed to spread and is given towards oneself as well.” –from the chapter “Unexpectant Love” in Exploring Energy Guidance Complete, My Journey

Loving oneself joyfully is not so simple. It requires acceptance, appreciation, and action. The three As.

Acceptance is needed for love to grow boundlessly. Acceptance of physical handicaps, annoying habits, and learned criticisms is key to feeling loving towards oneself. Each person has physical handicaps, with some being more apparent than others. Accepting them and then working with or around them is joyful behavior. Each person has habits that irk others and oneself. Acknowledging these habits and either working to change them or embracing them is joyful focus. Each person has learned criticisms from caregivers, society, and authority figures. When the criticisms are internalized, they can cause emotional and mental damage. Understanding that the criticisms are harmful and then accepting and moving past them is joyful intention.

Appreciation is needed for self-love to be possible. Seeing oneself clearly and ignoring noise that calls for criticism is necessary for appreciation to occur. Noticing accomplishments–large and small, plus remembering to express gratitude for capabilities are necessary for self-appreciation and joyful expressions of confidence.

Action is required to create expressions of self-love. The actions can be an intangible or tangible pat on the back, a daily ritual that includes acknowledgement of being alive, a prayer of thanksgiving, joyful activity (jumping for joy, dancing around, laughing, or silliness), and a vocal or silent statement of love for oneself.

Notes: This information has been spiritually received. I’m reading through Exploring Energy Guidance Complete, My Journey and delving into some of the topics. This book is available here.

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