my poem for love neither rhymes nor idolizes, for my love is filled with jagged edges and hasty judgments. sometimes the judgments were on the mark and sometimes they led to heartache. the early love was sweet and pure, but also clingy and desperate. trial and error led to gathered friendships and effort wasted on fruitless encounters. advancing years brought wiser decisions and a deeper connection that was able to blossom. love for children built ecstasy and depth, but also fear and worry, the constant companions.
my poem for love neither fantasizes nor gushes, for my love is filled with realistic moments and dashed expectations. sometimes the expectations were unrealistic, yes, most times they were, that is true. when the expectations were put to the side and fantasy left for the writers, the moments of deep connection have been sweet and fulfilling.
my poem for love brings music and rhythm, for my love is filled with moments of unplanned dancing and laughter. sometimes the laughter is simply a release and sometimes it is heartfelt and pure. these are the moments that rush by and yet, they are the ones to remember.
my poem for love continues its journey. it neither rhymes nor gushes rather, it follows its meandering and flowing way.
We are born and bestowed with a body that functions (usually) and a brain that learns to protect us, guide our experimentations, and oversee our connections to people, plants, animals, and deity. We are given a life to live, with a soul that is like a fingerprint: ours and ours alone.
Having the body and the brains and the soul are not enough to create a life that is true. Our lives also requires vision: a vision that guides us towards the future and a vision that turns inwards and sees our struggles.
Showing up for life means to use the vision that comes from the eyes and from the brain. When we show up for life, we see what the others need and what we can’t do without. When we show up for life, we understand that the thing we need the most is Love.
“Joyful love is love that is bestowed without conditions and without expectations. Joyful love can be felt when overcome by the beauty of nature, when immersed in the attention of a playful animal, when mesmerized by the exquisiteness of an infant, and when experiencing the love of a person who has strong feelings of love in return. Joyful love is felt more strongly when it is allowed to spread and is given towards oneself as well.” –from the chapter “Unexpectant Love” in Exploring Energy Guidance Complete, My Journey
Loving oneself joyfully is not so simple. It requires acceptance, appreciation, and action. The three As.
Acceptanceis needed for love to grow boundlessly. Acceptance of physical handicaps, annoying habits, and learned criticisms is key to feeling loving towards oneself. Each person has physical handicaps, with some being more apparent than others. Accepting them and then working with or around them is joyful behavior. Each person has habits that irk others and oneself. Acknowledging these habits and either working to change them or embracing them is joyful focus. Each person has learned criticisms from caregivers, society, and authority figures. When the criticisms are internalized, they can cause emotional and mental damage. Understanding that the criticisms are harmful and then accepting and moving past them is joyful intention.
Appreciationis needed for self-love to be possible. Seeing oneself clearly and ignoring noise that calls for criticism is necessary for appreciation to occur. Noticing accomplishments–large and small, plus remembering to express gratitude for capabilities are necessary for self-appreciation and joyful expressions of confidence.
Actionis required to create expressions of self-love. The actions can be an intangible or tangible pat on the back, a daily ritual that includes acknowledgement of being alive, a prayer of thanksgiving, joyful activity (jumping for joy, dancing around, laughing, or silliness), and a vocal or silent statement of love for oneself.
Notes: This information has been spiritually received. I’m reading through Exploring Energy Guidance Complete, My Journey and delving into some of the topics. This book is available here.