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Death at the door

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I’m at the age where my friends’ parents are dying. My own parents are long gone, as are most of my aunts and uncles, and a few older cousins. Conversations with neighbors often focus on retirement ideas, aging, and occasionally, on death.

Death is always at the door, but it has seemed to be a distant thing, or a fluke of a younger person dying. Tragedies have been all around, but not personally felt. Actually that’s not completely true. A dear colleague died many years ago, and so too, a close acquaintance. Those deaths were over twenty years ago, and I have learned to live without those people in my life.

Spirit is pushing me to write about death, and I ask, why? I’ve written about death before in several books. What is there new to say?

Here’s what Spirit tells me: The people who write about the connection of the dead with the living are writing truth. There are strong connections that can be felt. An openness is needed to feel the messaging, and a willingness to stay still and hear is required. The dead have apologies to impart, explanations to make, and guidance to give. The line between alive and not alive is thinner than we think. Crossing over is a natural thing.

For my friend whose father is edging towards the crossing over: hold his hand and listen for his silence. The silence will end when the crossing over takes place, and then, if you stay still and hear, the messaging may start.

When tragedy strikes


I’ve just learned that a family from a nearby community has suffered a terrible loss. Their eldest child has been killed in a car accident. The funeral is soon.

The tragic loss of a loved one is devastatingly reverberating. The death overcomes the ones who loved the person. The death scares the people who know the family and who fear for the lives of their own loved ones. The death wounds friends and close acquaintances.

Comforting the family of the suddenly bereft is hard. Here are the words of Spirit from the chapter “Concrete Living” in Oneself-Living:

“Natural death is painful for the survivors, but because it is “natural” is easier to accept. Deaths through accidents, disasters (natural or not), struggles such as wars and territorial conflicts, or other human-handed causes are harder to digest. These deaths cause more lingering effects…”

The message: Those left behind, the ones who remember and despair, must be comforted and supported. They must be allowed to mourn and feel overwhelming sadness. The comforters must be patient and open to the mourners’ grief. Slowly, as time passes, the mourners will be pulled back into the world of living, because that is the natural flow of life.

I will visit the house of mourning in a few days. I will bring compassion.

Natural death

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This blog post is from Exploring Energy Guidance Complete, My Journey.

“Natural death, through illness or disease, body mis-function, or aging, causes people to struggle with sadness, anger, relief, confusion.” The process of living and dying is considered in the chapter “Concrete Living” in Oneself—Living.

My mother died from metastasized cancer when she was 66 years old. She had cancer of the sinuses that metastasized to her lungs. She was 55 when the sinus cancer was diagnosed. She underwent radical surgery to remove the cancerous growth, which left her disfigured and disabled. Her life was dramatically changed, yet she still had life. Her slow decline was difficult for her and for our family.

When she died, we struggled with sadness, anger, and confusion. There was no relief. No matter how much she suffered, we wanted her with us. The letting-go was fought. We fought to make her stay and we fought to not let her go. Our efforts made her leaving harder for her, and she tried to hang on when she needed to let go.

The dying process is one in which the person who is dying is affected by those around.  Children, siblings, partner, parents, friends, and even acquaintances cause pull in the wave that is taking the life-leaving-person out to sea. Death is like the sea and each person like a small living object on the shore living life and fighting the draw of the waves. Shelters can be built and the inevitable can be ignored, but the process moves on naturally and ever distressingly. Life, like death, flows and ebbs, bringing new circumstances and similar challenges.

The dying process ends one life and begins the after-life processing of the soul. The after-life processing of the soul connects the people who were left with the one who left. Through openness, desire, and intuition, the soulful essence of the one who left can be felt. The dying creates a different reality that can be a continuation of the relationship at the soulful level. Knowing this information does not lessen the pain of losing a loved one, but it can make the moving on easier.

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