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Objectivity–Is there such a thing?

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Objectivity exists in the world of the spirit. Subjectivity exists in the world of the corporal.

That “objective” is a word which is used to describe news or research or competitions or opinions is faulty. People are inherently subjective. Given that people are subjective in their thinking, the expectation that people or communications can be objective is misdirected expectation.

We all have opinions, ideas, thoughts, and reactions that are influenced by society, upbringing, and historical events. Our soul-given abilities, likes, and dislikes also influence our opinions, ideas, thoughts, and reactions.

From our birth, we are destined to see the world through a subjective, individualistic periscope. Our view is limited by design.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.


What’s up with “fight or flight”?

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Are “fight or flight” our main responses to fear and stress? That’s what everyone says, but is that so? I’ve asked Spirit, because I want to know. Here’s what Spirit informs me:

People have built-in mechanisms that evaluate danger. (We can call them signals and pulls.) These mechanisms help us evaluate situations and feel how to respond. Our responses depend on many things: age, health status, physical impediments, mental breadth, hunger or thirst, breath capacity, emotional attachments, emotional memories, abdominal state, vision, fears, and awakeness. Besides these uniquely personal statuses, we are influenced by our family, neighbors, responsibilities, and desires.

When a situation requires a response, our bodies (intangible and tangible) must process a response that suits our personal statuses and our outer circle. If the outer circle (family, neighbors, etc.) has strong influence, then our response will be geared towards others. If our response is completely our own, then the personal statuses will force us to devise a response to suit our current situation. If we choose a response that doesn’t suit (for example, choosing to hide when we are too exhausted to move), our signals or pulls will usually join to give us the ability to pursue the chosen response.

Here are typical responses to fear and stress: hiding, lowering to the ground, pulling inwards to be physically compact, freezing in place, falling asleep, entering a shock state, denial, emotional displays (crying, sobbing, begging, anger), and confusion. And possibly, fight. And possibly, flight.  Fight and flight are two responses among many so that to speak only of fight or flight is an incorrect characterization of human response.

Each of the responses has a different effect on the body, some effects being more destructive than others. Stress that is handled through freezing in place or denial has differing effects than fight or angry actions. Stress that is denied can be more destructive than stress that is released through tears. Fear that is handled by hiding can be permanently installed in the body, while fear that is handled through entering a shock state can be forgotten. Each response yields a different effect on the body depending on the personal statuses and the forces of the outer circle.

Characterizing the effects of fear and stress as fight or flight is too broad. Each person is an individual response being, and no two people are alike.

Why do people yell?

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Yelling is a design feature in humans. It is a way to attract attention and change focus. Yelling can prevent disasters when it is produced from a natural desire to protect. Yelling can weaken relationships when it is produced from a natural feeling of uncertainty.

When yelling takes place, the person yelling has elevated blood pressure and suppressed immune system, no matter the reason for the yelling. The yeller is in a position of vulnerability, because of the physiological changes. When the yelling is accompanied by lack of sleep or dehydration, the yelled messages are less controlled. Lack of sleep affects yelling volume; dehydration influences the words that are yelled.

When yelling takes place, other systems in the body slow down. If the yeller is a pregnant woman, the fetus is protected but the other systems are slowed even more. If the yeller is angry, the systems are slowed to the same extent as the pregnant woman.

Yelling is a natural expression of impatience released, and it forces its way out when not controlled. Yelling naturally expresses frustration, discomfort, and desire to be heard.

Young children yell when their caregivers ignore them or refuse to give them what they want. They naturally express their state-of-being, unless they have been socialized to withdraw.

In relationships, yelling is an expression of human desire to be heard, to be agreed with, to be supported, and to be wanted. The yelling can rage out of control if lack of sleep, hunger, intense sadness, or hormonal imbalance are present. Yelling can be beyond control, sometimes because of physiological causes and sometimes because of developmental limitations.

Cultures that discourage yelling rely on skills of listening thoroughly to one another and on development of clear expression. Cultures that glamorize yelling often have an emphasis on spontaneity, which can lead to uncertainty in a person’s standing with others. Cultures that inhibit personal expression often produce highly volatile members. They may not yell, but they may explode through destructive actions.

When the feeling to yell occurs, depending on one’s culture, the feeling can be examined or actualized. Yelling is a natural release, but it only brings satisfaction if the listener is prompted to act judiciously. When yelling occurs, it is an opportunity to examine communications and feelings. If the feelings have sad or uncertain undertones, the yelling is simply a symptom and an opportunity for better energy (atmosphere, physical state [balance, hunger, sleep], communication, education).

Our design is exact, and the ability to yell in order to be heard is part of that exact design.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.


Why do people …, a series

Why do people

Some of the things we do are individualistic and some are caused by our similar design. For example, people yell at one another because of a design feature!

When we create, we express individual personality, ideas, and experiences. When we interact, we pull on instinct, hormonal influences, and gut reactions. The interaction forces are grounded in the design features that make us similar to one another.

By understanding our design, we can know how to deal with others properly. The next few blog posts will be about the reasons we people do some of the things we do.

Note: Spirit is sharing the design information so that interactions can be more understanding.

Happiness & Joy–twinned reactions

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Like double-strand yarn or the double helix of DNA, happiness and joy wind and twist around each other. The reaction that gives joy also gives happiness, and the sense of happiness brings.joy.
They aren’t the same, but they are simultaneous.
The question, “Are you feeling Joy or are you feeling happiness?”, is difficult to answer, because the two are so connected. A joyous moment provides happy memories, and a happy event sends in joyous sensations. One without the other is rare.

caringHappiness & joy–twinned reactions are part of our design! 🙂

Note: Spirit shares this information to give us insight into our design.

A spiritual look at transgender


Throughout history, men and woman have struggled with sexual orientation. Some have been able to live a life that suited their perceptions of themselves, because they lived in societies that were either accepting or they lived outside the confines of their society. Those who struggled to live within their society’s sexual boundaries often suffered from emotional and internal questioning and policing.

Sexual orientation is a DNA-related determination. DNA generally assigns sexual orientation in a standard process: female physicality with female perception, male physicality with male perception. The process can be disrupted or stunted so that the standard male-female perception-physicality are altered.  The changes to DNA occur in utero. (This alteration can also happen to various animal groups.)

Sexual orientation is felt through hormonal input. The hormonal push to be male or female is also standard. The hormones and their development can be rearranged because of external triggers so that behaviors of sexual nature become shifted. (This alteration does not happen to other animals.)

Society is accepting or not accepting of the unstandard. Having unstandard DNA assignment is a fact. Living with it is the norm, but if society is unwilling to be accepting of unstandard DNA assignment, the people who receive homosexual or gender oppositing assignment are forced to live falsely. This type of living is difficult and diminishing.

Some societies are open to the reality of DNA assignment that is not standard. This openness enables living according to DNA assignment, and sometimes allows for additional acceptance of hormonal rearrangements. The societies that create space for the people who feel that their hormonal calls are for exploration of unfamiliar orientation (transgender) are societies that move beyond the ordinary.

The use of medical treatments to enhance transgender orientation is not enhancing to the people who receive it. They may think it will be valuable, but it creates restrictions rather than releases.

Note: This information has been spiritually received and is not based on scientific research.


Unmistakably positive quirkiness


People are positively quirky!

Each person develops an individual way of fathoming the world and of relating to others. No two people are the same, even if they look alike or they like similar things. The quirkiness lies in the depths of the personality and in the soul. No two souls are the same, and the differences manifest in words and actions.

Quirkiness is the word to describe people. The funny faces, unconventional comments, artistic individuality, musical expressions, unusual habits, and movements when unobserved are typical quirky people actions.

Quirkiness celebrates the reality of people. People are naturally quirky and that’s a positive reality of people!

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