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Why do we need spiritual connection?

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  • We need spiritual connection because our lives are insignificant without it.
  • We need spiritual connection to help us weather stormy and difficult times.
  • We need spiritual connection when nature overcomes us with its beauty or its fearsomeness.
  • We need spiritual connection as a means to fathom life and death.
  • We need spiritual connection if we are lonely or hurt.
  • We need spiritual connection filling our lives with purpose, elevation, and reason for striving.

Spiritual connection can be found on one’s own or in a group. The main thing to know about spiritual connection is that it is available to all equally. No group has a claim on higher access to spiritual connection.

People who dedicate themselves to spiritual connection at the expense of connecting to the people around them are not living spiritual connection correctly. Spiritual connection is not an excuse for turning one’s back on the needs of other people.

Spiritual connection can be a way to understand the world around if we can see the spirituality in all living things.

Spiritual connection fills the world with beauty, drama, and interactions.

Spiritual connection is the basis for ethical and caring treatment of all living things, including people.

Overcoming Disappointment

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“Deserving” one thing and receiving something else brings on a bout of disappointment.

“Deserving” is an interesting word. We want many things, and the wanting can cause a sense of entitlement. When the feeling of deserving overshadows reality, the feeling of disappointment is close by.

Wanting something can also lead to disappointment if the fulfillment of the wants depends on someone else’s actions. Wanting carries expectations, and expectations have within them the seeds of disappointment.

Wanting someone else to do something for us or wanting someone else to say wonderful things to us or wanting someone else to give us just the right thing or wanting someone else to recognize our needs or wanting someone else to … (and so the list goes).

The expectation of certain actions or words or gifts or responses or outcomes brings disappointment whenever the expectation causes sadness. Sadness is the root of disappointment.

We learn to be disappointed; it is not a natural feeling. We learn it from promises unkept, from advertisements that create impossible results, from friendships betrayed, and from hopes thwarted. When we learn disappointment at an early age, it can sabotage future relationships and endeavors. Events outside ourselves influence our living, and when these events bring sadness, they deafen our resistance to feelings of self-pity. The sadness can become disappointment by self-pity becoming self-righteousness.  Believing that we deserved something or needed it very much builds the disappointment so that it overshadows outcomes that are fine. The fine aspects of life get forgotten and the disappointments come more easily.

What can we do to overcome disappointments?

Our perceptions influence our feelings of satisfaction or disappointment. Our experiences influence them as well. Accepting that perceptions and experiences have enabled disappointment to affect our viewpoints is the first step.

Here are other steps that can lessen the grasp of disappointment:

  • Smile at regular intervals. For example, smile when you arise and when you get out of bed, when you get dressed and when you put on your shoes, when you start eating your first meal of the day and when you have finished it, and while doing obligatory beginning-of-the-day routines, movements, or chores.
  • Practice surprise! Young children live surprise day in, day out. They gawk at animals, flowers, and brightly colored boxes. They experience wonder when they experience daily living. Surprise is their constant companion. As children age, societal pressures to conform destroy the surprise feelings. To bring back feelings of surprise, purposely look at things around your home that you really like and notice how you feel when you look at them. To encourage feelings of surprise, marvel at the mundane things in your life (like curtains, kitchen utensils, and dirt in the garden).
  • Don’t let feelings of disappointment fester. When you notice these feelings, push your stomach in and out several times and then consider why you are feeling this way. If your disappointment is at yourself, acknowledge your part in bringing about your current situation. If your disappointment is at someone else, let yourself be distracted by other things. If your disappointment is at an event that wasn’t to your expectation, force yourself to move on.
  • Find a volunteer cause that you can help and give time to the cause. Donating money is not giving time. Actually spend time helping the cause.

We can unlearn being disappointed. It’s worth the time and effort to banish disappointment from our lives!

Worshipping the Famous? Why? And How Not!

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The antics of the well known are followed slavishly. People follow their twitters, swear by their lifestyle advice, and search out juicy tidbits about them.

The well-known celebrities and celebrity-idols tantalize with their talents and distance with their successes. The well-known have larger than life personas so that their doings seem more important than the doings of non-famous people. Their relationships and choices sparkle (or so it seems) and their thoughts fascinate (more than our own).

Why do we worship the famous?

  • Because we are overloaded (too many distractions and too many expectations).
  • Or because we are lacking fascinating goals of our own.
  • Or because we are afraid to develop our own talents.
  • Or because we are discouraged by the words of others who dashed our dreams.

Turning away from ourselves and directing our attention on well-known people releases our expectations of ourselves and cancels our interesting factor (we don’t have to be interesting). The fascinating people–the celebrities and celebrity-idols–receive our potential, and we live live through them.

How can we stop idolizing the celebrities?

Holding onto celebrity fixations is not necessary when fixation on ourselves and on the real people in our lives happens. Here are three ways to release celebrity idolization:

  1. Remove the overloading distractions. These include irrelevant gadgets, extra stuff in your house, and celebrity publications (online and print).
  2. Focus on personal goals and relationships.
  3. If unrealized dreams can be realized, let yourself release the words or actions that held you back. (This step might require assistance from therapeutic counsel.)

Worshipping the famous is focus overwhelmed. Each person has focus for his or her own abilities and for influences that extend these abilities. Focusing on someone else’s abilities diminishes possibilities to extend one’s own abilities.

Celebrity and celebrity-idol fixation brings little that is positive for a balanced life. Letting that attention-thief go is best!

The Enlightened Way to Drive

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Driving is enormous. When we drive, we become larger than we were meant to be. The larger the vehicle, the smaller we actually are.

Encasing ourselves in a metal machine causes us to be effectors. We can affect movement and we can bring destruction. We can also soar.

Defensive driving is critical because it prevents destruction. Enlightened driving is defensive driving uplifted. It requires awareness, compassion, and gratitude. Enlightened driving is nourishing.

To drive with enlightened awareness

  • Breathe deeply at traffic lights and in traffic jams.
  • Look at the movement. Notice the movement of the traffic and the movement of your vehicle.
  • At overpasses and underpasses, sit up straight and think about your posture.

To drive with compassion

  • Consider the environment and reduce unnecessary driving to lessen your contribution to air pollution.
  • Consider the animals and people, and don’t leave your vehicle running unnecessarily.
  • Consider the vehicles around you. They protect their inhabitants as your vehicle protects you. Think of the inhabitants of the other vehicles as you think of inhabitants of your vehicle–all have significance.

To drive with gratitude

  • Before a drive, breathe deeply and say a thanks for your vehicle and for your ability to drive it.
  • During a drive, notice the working of your vehicle. If something feels or sounds off, get it checked. Notice the working of your body. If something feels off, breathe and then focus on your driving. If the feelings are painful, consider how to resolve them. If the feelings are mild, consider addressing them after the drive.
  • After a drive, breathe deeply and say a thanks for arriving safely. If there were moments of fear in your drive, also add a thanks for handling your fear. If there was risk or actual harm in your drive (to you or your vehicle), breathe deeply and save the thanks for when you feel grateful.

Enlightened driving can be applied by passengers in a vehicle and when riding on public transportation.

Driving with awareness and with compassion and with gratitude provides many opportunities for balanced living. Enormous are the benefits of enlightened driving–even more enormous than the enormity of driving!

(The car in the photo was an electric car that I once owned. Unfortunately it was ahead of its time, and the company that provided the electricity went out of business.)

Surfacing

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I have been underwater. Well, not literally. The last five weeks I have been in the US visiting family and friends, attending important family gatherings, and being not-Energy Guidance. I have submerged my connection to Spirit in order to fit in and be the person I used to be. That submersion of my true self has left me without words and without energy to share Spiritual wisdom. Now that I have returned home, I am slowly returning to the true person that is Renee Rothberg, voice of Energy Guidance.

A friend who reads my blog faithfully told me that she is waiting to hear my reactions to my time in the US. I reminded her that I write what Spirit directs me to write. I don’t write what I think, although I often, but not always, agree with Spirit. The words that appear in this blog are given to me; they are not my original thoughts. When you read the wisdom presented here, know that it is not from me but through me. Yes, through me.

Now that I am surfacing, I can sit quietly and receive. Here are the messages that Spirit wants me to share about my visit to my old life:

  • Environmental care should come before convenience. Think twice before using disposable plates, bowls, cups, etc.
  • Making time for family is nourishing and supportive. Even the folks that drive us crazy add to our well-being.
  • Airplanes are unnatural environments. Take care to be well-hydrated and well-nourished on flights. Be kind to the stewards and stewardesses and greet fellow travelers sincerely.
  • Trees are beautiful wherever we go. Taking time to notice them is as important as going to a tourist site.
  • Viewing people with a kind heart helps them be their true selves. Keep kindness before judgment.

Most of us know these wise pieces of advice, but we often forget to heed them. Knowing that they come from Beyond is helpful in remembering to follow them.

The Power of the Smile

Smiles

The most powerful weapon that we all possess is the smile. It’s not our muscular strength or our quick witted tongue. The smile is the weapon of choice.

The smile disarms aggressive opponents. The smile acknowledges existence. The smile soothes sorrowful feelings. The smile releases tension.

Many studies have proven the health benefits of the smile. Study after study proves that we should smile more, even when we don’t feel like smiling.

So with all the research that has already proven the reasons for smiling more, what does Spirit want us to know? Here it is…

When we smile, our connection to strength is renewed. The strength of the smile makes us able to face life’s changes and ties us to all others.

Dis tr a c ting

 

Distracting colors

I should be working on activities for my next workshop and I should be immersed in one of the several books I am writing, but instead I let myself get distracted by Facebook and news stories about politicians and topics that have little meaning in my life. I get distracted by unimportant errands and Sudoku. I even focus on dusting rather than on the writing that is SO much more important.

You would think that I, with the constant prodding by Spiritual Presence, would stay focused, but no, I rebel and waste time. Even though I know how precious the passing time is! I guess I don’t really understand the meaning of this poem from Unfolding:

The Flash

Flash!
Life is so quick—
Quickly over,
So quickly over.

Why don’t we notice?
Why don’t we realize?

Living fully
Is living life right!
Ready to attempt,
Ready to strive,
Ready to attempt again,
Ready to strive more.

Life is so quick—
Flash!

Almost all of my spiritually received books remind me about the need to stay focused, and yet I “focus” on the wispy fluff*.

“There are temptations aplenty that lure and distract us. Staying focused on elevating pursuits is difficult. Our natural inclination is often to choose the less demanding option over the more rewarding, but harder-to-achieve, goal. Continuous bombardment by advertising and entertainment cause us to choose unwisely. The lure of gaiety wins out over its sober cousin, responsible selection of pastimes. So many worthwhile endeavors are waiting to be embraced, but the lightness and instantaneous nature of distracting endeavors deter. Learning to choose wisely is an important sign of understanding the importance of balance.”

This quote is from the chapter “Distractions Along the Way” in The Gift of Intuitive, Dedicated Comfort.

Perhaps writing a blog post about this waste of precious time will help me stay focused. I hope that my confession helps some of you too.

From Connection:

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on and on
the clock ticks on
and ticks some more

*wispy fluff was first defined in Pond a Connected Existence. It is empty and valueless time wasters. It is unimportant and un-elevating.

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