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Sizing up the competition

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In the previous blog post, “The hidden conversation of hormones“, I wrote about the hormonal information that circulates around men and women. Today, Spirit is sharing information about another aspect of hormonal communication: the hidden sizing up of “competitors” by hormonal messengers.

The hormones emit signals that extend outwards from the body, usually from the solar plexus area to the abdominal area near the bladder. These hormonal signals are intangible emissions that notify about the person’s health status and hormonal levels. The signals are picked up by other people through receptors that are located throughout the body. The receptors are aided by intuition and the senses of sight and smell.

When men are in the vicinity of other men, their receptors can usually understand the state of their “competition” without interference. When women are in the vicinity of other women, their receptors have more difficulty understanding the state of their “competition” because of the various creams and hormone changers (birth control pills, estrogen pills) that women are given.

The sizing up of competition brings awareness of choices for coupling. Visual sizing up is not as accurate as hormonal sizing up. Physical appearance has influence, but the hidden influence from the hormonal communication can affect actions even more. The hormonal information provides information about one’s standing and confidence.

There are other factors that inhibit the accurate transfer of hormonal information. These factors are new and have come about because of technology. The hormonal signals may be emitted from areas other than the area between the solar plexus and abdomen because of interference from “smart” devices that are kept too close to these areas. Smart devices that are worn constantly interrupt the hormonal signal emissions more than the devices that are used intermittently. Biologic drugs affect hormonal signal emissions and receptors. The overuse of plastics also affects the transmittal of hormonal information.

Sizing up the competition is no longer accurately accomplished in modern societies. Losing the ability to accurately compare oneself to the competition has led to misjudgment of personal awareness and of the competitions’ deliverables. Also, without sizing up the others, the natural development of connections is stopped. Some might say that this change is not a negative thing, but it defies the natural rules.

Hormonal input on our lives is. Our design is so. Allowing the hormones to give their input is wise.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

 

The hidden conversation of hormones

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As men and women circulate in society, their hormones send out information that cause heads to turn and eyes to size up others.

The intricate dance of hormones in the spaces where people mingle is formulated to produce coupling. This dance occurs at levels beyond our perception, and it is intended to push the human race onwards.

As people share crowded spaces or similar paths, their hidden conversations generate thoughts of sexual encounters and future coupling with a set partner. The generation of these thoughts change with age, but they remain until the body is too tired to take part.

The force of the hormones is powerful. It is reined in by societal restraints, but it fuels intrigue and unexplainable attractions. The force of the hormones is why people keep striving for connection.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

Loneliness is complicated

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Loneliness has many faces: the face of a child sitting alone at lunch, the face of a foreign worker in a room of coworkers who are local, the faces of many on social media who appear to be celebrating or joyful, the faces of spouses who hunger for connection, the faces of children who hunger for parental attention, the faces of friends who long to unburden their hearts, the faces of those who invest in things other than friendships.

Loneliness creeps up, and then it overwhelms with its all-encompassing power. It is self-inflicted, yet it feels externally forced. Loneliness is strong in its grip.

Combating loneliness requires desire for connection. Wanting to connect with others is natural, but it can be difficult in today’s world of fractured social networks.

When loneliness comes from distancing between family members, the anecdote is holy time: time dedicated exclusively to face-to-face communications. Holy time can be declared for mealtimes, free time, or bedtimes. The rules are negotiable. Social media is forbidden.

When loneliness comes from friend deprivation, whether from time restraints or distance, the anecdotes are reorganization of time and intentional socializing. These changes take time and they require active participation. Making time for friendship is crucial. Pushing towards friendships is crucial too. We are all social beings, and friendships bring support and comfort.

When loneliness comes from circumstances—working in a foreign country or new location, caring for a family member who is ill or dependent, personal illness or incapacitation, or death of a beloved family member or close friend—the anecdotes are often harder to fulfill. Each case has its difficulties, but the need for social interaction is strong. There are local sources of support like religious institutions, social organizations, and support groups. For those who are far from their loved ones because of distance or responsibilities, there are messaging and multimedia communication services, letters and email, local support networks, and interaction with local people who provide services. The importance for building social connections remains high, and the forging of close or casual friendships is urgent.

Each person’s feelings of loneliness are unique, yet they blend into a universal rhythm of sadness that can affect societies in very significant ways.

Loneliness is a call to action that requires recognition and determination. It is remedied through laughs, time together, and emotional expressions. Loneliness is a call to be aware of relationships and needs. It is useful, and it is fixable.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

Choosing a life partner

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With so many marriages ending in divorce and so many others filled with frustration and anger, I decided to ask Spirit about marriage. (Also, my daughter recently married so I have marriage on my mind 🙂 ) Here is the answer I received:

People are meant to pair. The pairing is necessary for support in an uncertain world and for a viable environment for children. Children are more secure in a paired family.

Choosing the person who will be suitable for navigating an uncertain world requires knowing oneself. The partner should be someone who looks at life with similar hopes. Less important are skin color, religious affiliation, and sex appeal; however, devoutly religious people pair better with others who are similarly devout.

The choice of partner requires evaluation of one’s own hopes for the future and the hopes of potential partners. Physical appearance and compatible personalities narrow the choices. The partner who is chosen must make the same evaluations.

Marriage and committed devotion are equally valid in creating pairings. Marriage makes the pairings socially and legally recognized. Committed devotion is different, depending on societal expectations.

When hopes for the future are compatible, the couples can weather crises better. When hopes for the future have no common ground, crises—no matter the size—become obstacles to relationship investment. Each person must be invested in the relationship for it to flourish.

Throughout the togetherness, there will be misunderstandings, kindnesses, celebrations, sadness, expectations missed, expectations met, differences, and comfort. Those who focus on the negative aspects will be unhappy. Those who focus on the positive aspects will be secure.

Pairings that are not based on common hopes occur frequently because of societal pressures and misunderstanding about oneself. These pairings are less compatible, yet they deserve the same efforts to keep them flourishing. Common hopes can be developed over time.

No matter the reasons for pairing, each partner is active in the success or chaos that exists between the partners. Pairings that are forced are difficult to endure. Pairings that are untrue (such as homosexuals marrying heterosexuals or unions based on lies), are debilitating. Pairings are best when there is honesty in the relationships.

Choosing a life partner

hearts-love

With so many marriages ending in divorce and so many others filled with frustration and anger, I decided to ask Spirit about marriage. (Also, my daughter recently married so I have marriage on my mind 🙂 ) Here is the answer I received:

People are meant to pair. The pairing is necessary for support in an uncertain world and for a viable environment for children. Children are more secure in a paired family.

Choosing the person who will be suitable for navigating an uncertain world requires knowing oneself. The partner should be someone who looks at life with similar hopes. Less important are skin color, religious affiliation, and sex appeal; however, devoutly religious people pair better with others who are similarly devout.

The choice of partner requires evaluation of one’s own hopes for the future and the hopes of potential partners. Physical appearance and compatible personalities narrow the choices. The partner who is chosen must make the same evaluations.

Marriage and committed devotion are equally valid in creating pairings. Marriage makes the pairings socially and legally recognized. Committed devotion is different, depending on societal expectations.

When hopes for the future are compatible, the couples can weather crises better. When hopes for the future have no common ground, crises—no matter the size—become obstacles to relationship investment. Each person must be invested in the relationship for it to flourish.

Throughout the togetherness, there will be misunderstandings, kindnesses, celebrations, sadness, expectations missed, expectations met, differences, and comfort. Those who focus on the negative aspects will be unhappy. Those who focus on the positive aspects will be secure.

Pairings that are not based on common hopes occur frequently because of societal pressures and misunderstanding about oneself. These pairings are less compatible, yet they deserve the same efforts to keep them flourishing. Common hopes can be developed over time.

No matter the reasons for pairing, each partner is active in the success or chaos that exists between the partners. Pairings that are forced are difficult to endure. Pairings that are untrue (such as homosexuals marrying heterosexuals or unions based on lies), are debilitating. Pairings are best when there is honesty in the relationships.

Lead from the heart

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The heart—a wondrous organ that focuses life!

The heart infuses life with emotion, with strength, and with direction. The heart reaches to the soul for guidance and brings the guidance in, even when soulful living has been abandoned or denied. The heart feels the connection to guardian angels, urging wisdom flow and urging sensations of comfort and support. The heart ties us to the rhythms in nature and in the spiritual realm, pulling us into the flows and into the stillness.

Refusing the heart’s functioning dulls the eyes and constrains the decisions. Without heartfelt guidance, life opens to embitterment and to loneliness. The heart infuses the senses with robustness, so that a lack of heart in decision-making or behavior skews the senses’ abilities to properly inform the mind and body. Without the heart’s input, conflict and apathy can rage.

When we lead from the heart, we live authentically! Heaviness can disappear and joy can guide our actions!

Note: This post was delivered to me through my heart’s connection to Spirit. Spirit offers us love and kindness whenever we are ready to receive them.

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The Season of Consumption

HeartsGifts must be bought. Meals must be sumptuous. Family gatherings must be filled with surprises and wish fulfillment. Holiday clothing must be special. ‘Tis the season of consumption.

Advertisers push the idea of holiday consumption. Schools add to the pressure. Supermarkets provide over-the-top holiday incentives to festoon your home and deplete your wallet. Department stores and online stores do too. ‘Tis the season of consumption.

How about viewing this season as the season of connection? Coming together to spend time, exchange stories, entertain through laughter and music, and build relationships. Eating together without exhaustion from too much food preparation or nausea from too much food ingestion.

This season can be the season for opening your eyes and seeing the beauty of the connections. Let everyone know that this year is about you and them, and not about the things that don’t really matter. Buy gifts that are socially responsible and plan gatherings that will be filled with laughter and foods that nourish. Quality over quantity can be the guide. Connection rather than consumption can be the focus.

‘Tis the season of connection!

Connection, 3 of 3

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People are suffering from flooding in one country. People are suffering from restrictive governmental policies in another country. Drought and food shortages create suffering in a different country. Armed conflict devastates people in other countries.

People are suffering throughout the world in different ways and in different circumstances. The suffering is connected in that the world reverberates with cries of the desperate and weak. Their cries might not be heard, but the tears swim in an ocean of anguish that flows into the lives of those who are not suffering.

The suffering alternates: sometimes these people and sometimes those people. The people who suffer less have joyful respite from difficulties, but their joy can be lessened by self-inflicted anguish.

When one person suffers, those around can uplift when possible. When whole groups of people suffer, the uplifting activities are harder to do because they require investment of resources and interest.

Connected anguish may be invisible, but it winds its way through the lives of all. Taking time to see the anguish is humanity bettered. Helping those nearby and those afar gives back to empathetic souls, because the ocean of anguish quiets. Connecting through empathy and awareness eases the times that are hard.

“Connection, 3 of 3” is the reminder to care.

See also “Connection, 1 of 3” and “Connection, 2 of 3

Connection, 2 of 3

 

Spiritual connection

Finger presses is how I receive connection to spiritual wisdom (see “How I get the information” on the About page). Sensations of pressure in the gut—that are not physically or emotionally caused—are messages from spirit to others. Tugging at the heart is another notice from spirit.

Each person has connection to spirit. It is built in to the soul. The access is always open, but the messages can be camouflaged. Finding the messages within the hum requires familiarity with inner rumblings and productions. So much noise inside the body can overwhelm the messages from spirit. External pressure to reject the connection further distances from the messages.

Whether or not people connect to spiritual care—it exists! The caring is apparent through the possibility of connection. The caring constantly calls to us when we are open to receiving spiritual input.

Following intuition is a first step to receiving spiritual input. Moving beyond intuition to notice the other sensations of input is the next step.

“Connection, 2 of 3” is direct input to remind us to listen intently.

See also “Connection, 1 of 3” and “Connection, 3 of 3“.

Connection, 1 of 3

Muslim and Jewish women

Last week, there was a gathering of women—Jewish women, Muslim women, and Christian women. This gathering took place in the north of Israel in an Arab village. The gathering was an opportunity to hear an Arab member of the Israeli Knesset (parliament) speak about her work for women’s rights.

I attended this gathering, together with friends from my community. There were women from cities and villages, some in traditional dress and some in tight jeans. The atmosphere was warm and inviting, and I felt welcomed.

The first speaker, a woman from the village, told us about her meaningful life advocating for women. She described her struggles in a patriarchal community—within her family and within the society—to reject a traditional role, and instead, build a place in society that gives her challenge and satisfaction. Her determination felt contagious and her words were inspirational.

Sharing a sense of sisterhood, we received her words. Some in the room face the same struggles, giving up or pushing forward. Some, like me, have freedom to choose our paths, held back only by self-imposed barriers. Connection was built that night through the shared space and receiving of emotions and inspiration.

Each opportunity to connect with unfamiliar is an opportunity to experience sameness and surprise. I received warmth from women who seem different from me and I returned it in kind. We experienced connection for a short time, and that connection can lead to familiarity, understanding, and acceptance.

Opening to others can open ourselves: opening through shared experiences and determination to connect.

“Connection, 1 of 3” is the first look at connection possibilities.

See also “Connection, 2 of 3” and “Connection, 3 of 3“.

Communal Involvement

 

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Each person is capable of affecting the community in which he or she lives; each community is a reflection of accumulated actions; and the sum of the efforts and actions influence the future inhabitants of the community.  All actions made in a positive manner uplift the community…” These words from the “Introduction” in “Pond a Connected Existence” remind us of the importance of communal participation.

Communal involvement is olog-ful. An olog is a new descriptive method for describing relationships mathematically. Communal involvement is relationship possibility realized. Each community effort contains objectives and means to the objectives that beckon people in varying numbers and with varying purposes. The development of and continued need for communal efforts require awareness by community members who are available and willing to act. The connection of one communal effort with another communal effort is achieved through preservation of each individual effort while recognizing the requirements of other communal efforts.

In other words, a community has various needs that are ever-changing and that differ in importance. The elderly need to be cared for, as do the teenagers. The animals require attention and so does the regional government. Trees and plants give shade and beauty, and they require upkeep and protection. The poor must be seen and the recycling must be gathered. Each person in a community can participate in an endless number of community efforts, and the more each person does, the more the community radiates warmth and support.

Affect is the goal for each community member. Caring for self and caring for others. Acknowledging needs and addressing them. Connecting with people, relating to the environment, tending to animals. Developing oneself through the attention to community.

Relationships develop when communal involvement occurs. These relationships sustain and uplift when times are difficult or saddening. When a community has mixing of peoples of all ages and ideas, the community is enriched and the people are support for one another. Searching out ways to better the community sustains its members and leads to more satisfying living.

In societies that exist within large metropolitan areas, the importance of communal involvement grows. Rather than be anonymous in these large settings, people must find connections that nurture the feeling of community and shared experiences.

This blog post is from the book, Exploring Energy Guidance Complete, My Journey. The book is available on amazon.com:  https://amzn.com/1508539715cover for Exploring EGC

Experiencing Nature’s Outline

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 “Living with compassion and with understanding lends color to life, adds substance and texture to being…‘Helping those who need help!’…Compassionately approaching, the preferred approach, relieves tension, balances health…‘Spending time with loved ones! Playing with babies! Teaching children in the customs and traditions of one’s forebears!’…pitching in, helping out, lifting up…‘Watching animals! Caring for pets! Preventing abuse of animals! ‘” – from “Oneself-Living” and “Pond a Connected Existence”

The outline of nature is the framework for connected living. The outline of nature has headings and symmetry and subdivisions. Rules and extensions bound the experience of living within the outline. Definitions and relationships fit within Nature’s outline, deviating when dramatic conferral occurs. The entirety of creatures with vegetation is a cyclical, rhythmic composition.

Connected living requires seeing the participation of all the parts. Living within the seasons and within the boundaries of the lightness and the darkness bring the body into alignment with melodious cycling of life and death. Recognizing that part of all is me brings overwhelming satisfaction and calm.

There are magical moments that occur when Nature’s outline is recognized and received!

Gatherings are opportunities

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“A wedding. A funeral. A baby naming. Coming of age ceremonies. Important anniversaries. Unimportant occasions. Unimportant? All occasions that bring people together are important. Gathering together forges ties and friendships, support and community. Whether the occasion is happy or sad or tension filled or relaxed, gathering together leads to emotional release, emotional awareness, or emotional expression,…

… Sometimes people don’t gather because of fear of judgment by others or because they fear outbursts or trouble between attendees. Sometimes they don’t gather because they don’t value the gathering or the occasion or the societal norms…

… People are meant to gather. People are meant to intertwine. People are meant to do for one another, support one another, receive from one another. People have the ability to enrich and entertain and inform one another. Gathering and intertwining, supporting and participating, empathizing and sympathizing are natural aspects of humankind…

… Attending an event is not enough. Being there physically is not enough. Mouthing nice words without meaning them is not enough. Criticism is best left at home. Envy, too. But, heartfelt joy can stay! As can supportive thoughts!…”

Gatherings are opportunities for people to connect and forge relationships. Their importance is presented in Pond a Connected Existence:  http://amzn.com/1494793008

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Expanding Roots

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People were meant to root like plants, to stay attached to the area in which they were born and attached to the people living around them. People are adjustable, though, and when events happen to uproot them they can adapt to new environments and different ways of functioning.

How do these facts relate to the modern world of less attachment to one place and movement from place to place?

Rootedness is an internal, deep characteristic that can’t be ignored. Rootedness is a mechanism for developing physically and emotionally. Rootedness contributes to feelings of security and the ability to identify expressions, such as expressions of concern and disdain. When a person feels rooted, the displays of personal responsibility are more frequent.

How to increase development of rootedness

  • If you live in an area that is very different from where you lived as a child, aim to create a network of support that provides emotional support and intellectual stimulation.
  • If you live in an area that is similar to where you grew up, aim to create a network of support that challenges you to be involved and influential.
  • If you live in an area that you dislike, create a “What I like about this place” tour and aim to find positive aspects of your location.
  • If you move from place to place, aim to develop relationships at local businesses, religious institutions, and organizations that are similar to ones you were active in in the past or do work that appeals to you. At each place, strive to build friendships, even if they are temporary.
  • If you live where you grew up, take part in the running of the city/town/community. Allow new residents into your network of support.

Personal responsibility through rootedness

When a person feels a sense of responsibility towards a place, natural desire to take part in its care usually occurs. People who are connected to their community tend to involve themselves in communal betterment and social networks. These connections contribute to well-being and health. When a person feels rooted, personal actions take on larger significance and personal contributions to the community are felt. Involvement in outside-of-one’s-own interests brings satisfaction that contributes to balance—balance of the person and balance in the community. Feelings of attachment to a place, whether through birth or through choice, brings gifts that are not often realized.

Wherever we live, we do good for ourselves when we send out roots.

Connections, Your choice

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The previous post contained two words after the Connections graphic: “Your choice”. Not a lot of words, but a lot of meaning.

We get to choose how connected we want to be–to others, to our community, to our friends, to nature, to animals, to spiritual existence, even to ourselves and our own needs.

Over and over, we are told how important these connections are for our health and well-being, yet we can choose to build the connections or live disconnectedly. We get to choose.

 The choice to connect is yours.

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Connections = living that is correct

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By design, people are meant to connect. They are meant to connect with other people and with their own needs, with the seasons and with the environment, with the animals who roam the earth, and with spiritual energy. Yes, that means each of us. Each of us, you and I, are designed and programmed to connect. Connection is built-in. Part of the people blueprint.

Although the connections are very different, they intertwine and inform one another. People are meant to depend on one another. They are designed to work in groups: to build together, to create communities, to help one another in times of difficulty, to find common purpose, and to help those entering and exiting life. People are meant to learn from the world around and to contribute to its betterment.

The natural world has its rhythms and cycles, cycles of seasons and cycles of beginnings and endings. People are meant to fit into these rhythms and cycles, and to gain self-awareness through their observations. Observation of the animals adds to self-awareness and to appreciation of ourselves and of the amazement of life. Amazing too are the heights people can ascend when they allow their own self-abilities and personality to lead their lives. Opening to sharing in the wonder of the world with spiritual energy is opening to more vital and glorious living.

Each of us, you and I, are designed and programmed to connect and care and feel. Connecting to and feeling part of, caring for and feeling empathy, and feeling intertwined. The design is the design.

Houston—a city to be digested

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I am currently in Houston, Texas where I am visiting family and friends whom I cherish. I just finished a walk/slow jog along the bayou and I am inspired to write about Houston.

Houston is a city that gives a lot to its inhabitants and visitors. One simply has to be open to receive the City’s gifts.

The people who live in Houston are diverse, willing to help, and friendly, and their community awareness is generally a part of day-to-day living. The people of Houston face urban living with acceptance and acknowledgment, even handling the traffic with awareness that it is part of the gift of living in the City.

The municipal services are apparent with orderly neighborhoods, constant roadwork, and regular signs of services being performed. The City encourages recycling and care of property. Community religious institutions often perform community service together and other groups are active in promoting care and help for the lesser fortunate members of the City.

There are green areas and art exhibitions, musical performances and theater productions galore. Opportunities to hear talks by local and celebrity speakers are constantly available. The zoo is a humane one and the animal welfare groups are active. Cultural events are ever present and opportunities to experience different cultures abound.

Houston is vibrant and comforting. The more its inhabitants involve themselves in its goings-on, the more they love it. Houston offers never-ending opportunities for connection and living fully. City living that is nourishing, entertaining, and rewarding!

Most large cities in the United States are like Houston. One simply has to be open to receive the city’s gifts.

Two-ness, a different look

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There is an accepted idea that a man and a woman become “one” when they marry. This “oneness” occurs through the sexual union and through the societal belief that oneness is the product of marriage. In reality, oneness never occurs. Moving in parallel can occur. Clinging to one another can occur. Adapting to one another can occur.

People cannot become one. Each person is a distinct entity with a body designed to prevent intrusion. The partner can come close, but can never enter. The idea of oneness sells fantasy, not reality. The idea of oneness fuels failure, disappointment, and impossible-to-reach expectations. The reality of oneness is “2-ness”. Each person is whole; each person is part of the equation.

Rather than expect to conjoin, people must learn to merge. Merge can mean to combine but that meaning leads back to oneness. Merge also means to meet and join. Like merging traffic. Like sea and sand. They come together but stay in their own form. Merging means finding a way to be together without creating chaos. Merging means giving way or staying firm as needed. Merging means keeping intact while accepting differentness. 2-ness, two-ness, too-ness.

from Pond a Connected Existence:
http://www.amazon.com/Pond-Connected-Existence-Insights-Existence-Me/dp/1494793008/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1423498522&sr=8-1&keywords=pond+a+connected+existence

Thank you to Karen Kozek for photo and arrangement.

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