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EGC sessions with God: Choosing a life partner

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With so many marriages ending in divorce and so many others filled with frustration and anger, I decided to ask God about marriage. (Also, my daughter recently married so I have marriage on my mind 🙂 ) Here is the answer I received:

People are meant to pair. The pairing is necessary for support in an uncertain world and for a viable environment for children. Children are more secure in a paired family.

Choosing the person who will be suitable for navigating an uncertain world requires knowing oneself. The partner should be someone who looks at life with similar hopes. Less important are skin color, religious affiliation, and sex appeal; however, devoutly religious people pair better with others who are similarly devout.

The choice of partner requires evaluation of one’s own hopes for the future and the hopes of potential partners. Physical appearance and compatible personalities narrow the choices. The partner who is chosen must make the same evaluations.

Marriage and committed devotion are equally valid in creating pairings. Marriage makes the pairings socially and legally recognized. Committed devotion is different, depending on societal expectations.

When hopes for the future are compatible, the couples can weather crises better. When hopes for the future have no common ground, crises—no matter the size—become obstacles to relationship investment. Each person must be invested in the relationship for it to flourish.

Throughout the togetherness, there will be misunderstandings, kindnesses, celebrations, sadness, expectations missed, expectations met, differences, and comfort. Those who focus on the negative aspects will be unhappy. Those who focus on the positive aspects will be secure.

Pairings that are not based on common hopes occur frequently because of societal pressures and misunderstanding about oneself. These pairings are less compatible, yet they deserve the same efforts to keep them flourishing. Common hopes can be developed over time.

No matter the reasons for pairing, each partner is active in the success or chaos that exists between the partners. Pairings that are forced are difficult to endure. Pairings that are untrue (such as homosexuals marrying heterosexuals or unions based on lies), are debilitating. Pairings are best when there is honesty in the relationships.

Lead from the heart

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The heart—a wondrous organ that focuses life!

The heart infuses life with emotion, with strength, and with direction. The heart reaches to the soul for guidance and brings the guidance in, even when soulful living has been abandoned or denied. The heart feels the connection to guardian angels, urging wisdom flow and urging sensations of comfort and support. The heart ties us to the rhythms in nature and in the spiritual realm, pulling us into the flows and into the stillness.

Refusing the heart’s functioning dulls the eyes and constrains the decisions. Without heartfelt guidance, life opens to embitterment and to loneliness. The heart infuses the senses with robustness, so that a lack of heart in decision-making or behavior skews the senses’ abilities to properly inform the mind and body. Without the heart’s input, conflict and apathy can rage.

When we lead from the heart, we live authentically! Heaviness can disappear and joy can guide our actions!

Note: This post was delivered to me through my heart’s connection to Spirit. Spirit offers us love and kindness whenever we are ready to receive them.

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Real Connections

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The Season of Consumption

HeartsGifts must be bought. Meals must be sumptuous. Family gatherings must be filled with surprises and wish fulfillment. Holiday clothing must be special. ‘Tis the season of consumption.

Advertisers push the idea of holiday consumption. Schools add to the pressure. Supermarkets provide over-the-top holiday incentives to festoon your home and deplete your wallet. Department stores and online stores do too. ‘Tis the season of consumption.

How about viewing this season as the season of connection? Coming together to spend time, exchange stories, entertain through laughter and music, and build relationships. Eating together without exhaustion from too much food preparation or nausea from too much food ingestion.

This season can be the season for opening your eyes and seeing the beauty of the connections. Let everyone know that this year is about you and them, and not about the things that don’t really matter. Buy gifts that are socially responsible and plan gatherings that will be filled with laughter and foods that nourish. Quality over quantity can be the guide. Connection rather than consumption can be the focus.

‘Tis the season of connection!

Connection, 3 of 3

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People are suffering from flooding in one country. People are suffering from restrictive governmental policies in another country. Drought and food shortages create suffering in a different country. Armed conflict devastates people in other countries.

People are suffering throughout the world in different ways and in different circumstances. The suffering is connected in that the world reverberates with cries of the desperate and weak. Their cries might not be heard, but the tears swim in an ocean of anguish that flows into the lives of those who are not suffering.

The suffering alternates: sometimes these people and sometimes those people. The people who suffer less have joyful respite from difficulties, but their joy can be lessened by self-inflicted anguish.

When one person suffers, those around can uplift when possible. When whole groups of people suffer, the uplifting activities are harder to do because they require investment of resources and interest.

Connected anguish may be invisible, but it winds its way through the lives of all. Taking time to see the anguish is humanity bettered. Helping those nearby and those afar gives back to empathetic souls, because the ocean of anguish quiets. Connecting through empathy and awareness eases the times that are hard.

“Connection, 3 of 3” is the reminder to care.

See also “Connection, 1 of 3” and “Connection, 2 of 3”

Connection, 2 of 3

 

Spiritual connection

Finger presses is how I receive connection to spiritual wisdom (see “How I get the information” on the About page). Sensations of pressure in the gut—that are not physically or emotionally caused—are messages from spirit to others. Tugging at the heart is another notice from spirit.

Each person has connection to spirit. It is built in to the soul. The access is always open, but the messages can be camouflaged. Finding the messages within the hum requires familiarity with inner rumblings and productions. So much noise inside the body can overwhelm the messages from spirit. External pressure to reject the connection further distances from the messages.

Whether or not people connect to spiritual care—it exists! The caring is apparent through the possibility of connection. The caring constantly calls to us when we are open to receiving spiritual input.

Following intuition is a first step to receiving spiritual input. Moving beyond intuition to notice the other sensations of input is the next step.

“Connection, 2 of 3” is direct input to remind us to listen intently.

See also “Connection, 1 of 3” and “Connection, 3 of 3“.

Connection, 1 of 3

Muslim and Jewish women

Last week, there was a gathering of women—Jewish women, Muslim women, and Christian women. This gathering took place in the north of Israel in an Arab village. The gathering was an opportunity to hear an Arab member of the Israeli Knesset (parliament) speak about her work for women’s rights.

I attended this gathering, together with friends from my community. There were women from cities and villages, some in traditional dress and some in tight jeans. The atmosphere was warm and inviting, and I felt welcomed.

The first speaker, a woman from the village, told us about her meaningful life advocating for women. She described her struggles in a patriarchal community—within her family and within the society—to reject a traditional role, and instead, build a place in society that gives her challenge and satisfaction. Her determination felt contagious and her words were inspirational.

Sharing a sense of sisterhood, we received her words. Some in the room face the same struggles, giving up or pushing forward. Some, like me, have freedom to choose our paths, held back only by self-imposed barriers. Connection was built that night through the shared space and receiving of emotions and inspiration.

Each opportunity to connect with unfamiliar is an opportunity to experience sameness and surprise. I received warmth from women who seem different from me and I returned it in kind. We experienced connection for a short time, and that connection can lead to familiarity, understanding, and acceptance.

Opening to others can open ourselves: opening through shared experiences and determination to connect.

“Connection, 1 of 3” is the first look at connection possibilities.

See also “Connection, 2 of 3” and “Connection, 3 of 3“.

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