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Connection, 3 of 3

caring

People are suffering from flooding in one country. People are suffering from restrictive governmental policies in another country. Drought and food shortages create suffering in a different country. Armed conflict devastates people in other countries.

People are suffering throughout the world in different ways and in different circumstances. The suffering is connected in that the world reverberates with cries of the desperate and weak. Their cries might not be heard, but the tears swim in an ocean of anguish that flows into the lives of those who are not suffering.

The suffering alternates: sometimes these people and sometimes those people. The people who suffer less have joyful respite from difficulties, but their joy can be lessened by self-inflicted anguish.

When one person suffers, those around can uplift when possible. When whole groups of people suffer, the uplifting activities are harder to do because they require investment of resources and interest.

Connected anguish may be invisible, but it winds its way through the lives of all. Taking time to see the anguish is humanity bettered. Helping those nearby and those afar gives back to empathetic souls, because the ocean of anguish quiets. Connecting through empathy and awareness eases the times that are hard.

“Connection, 3 of 3” is the reminder to care.

See also “Connection, 1 of 3” and “Connection, 2 of 3

Suffering unexplainedly

pain

Pains in the back or the teeth or the head or the abdomen or the back fontanel or the legs. And in other places as well. Pain that is suffered day in and day out or intermittently without reason for years or months or always. Pain that is debilitating or sort of debilitating or debilitating but withstandable. Pain that is examined and named and dulled and excised—with a scapel or a drill or a laser. Pain that is medicated away or pressed away or slept away.

Pain that always comes back.

Pain can be unbearable, bearable, or determinedly-bearable.

Pain that a person is determined to bear gives strength when the pain is caused by irreparable damage. Overcoming the pain of an amputation or a paralyzed limb is not an easy task and it requires determination and ability to disregard the reality of the pain.

Pain that is unbearable requires attention, not determination to bear it, if the pain is overwhelming yet solvable. The solutions may not be straightforward, but there are solutions.

Pain that is bearable also requires attention. Chronic pain requires solutions that also may not be straightforward. The causes of chronic pain often require attention to physical, emotional, and even spiritual issues. Chronic pain is explored in this blog post: Life with pain.

The causes of pain are mutifaceted. Usually they can be overcome by awareness of emotions and behaviors. Yes, it might be easier to swallow a pill to make the symptoms abate temporarily, but relieving pain through solutions that have effects on the pain and on the underlying causes brings well-being.

 

 

The world according to SUFFERING

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SUFFERING appears when expectations are unrealistic.

Expectations of life lived with ease and conveniences are expectations of life for china dolls in a display case. Ease and convenience are available, but they are subjective components of life. Ease is not real life. Ease is obtained after much investment in tasks and trials. Convenience has become Want number 1, with a focus on as little investment in energy as possible. Ease and convenience are possible, but when they are expectations of daily life, the appearance of SUFFERING is increased.

SUFFERING is subjective. One person suffers when  social  engagements are erratic. Another person suffers when a sneeze interrupts the train of thought. Another suffers when a meal is too boring. Someone else suffers because sleep is disturbed by the urge to urinate. Another suffers through inability to move parts of the body. Someone else suffers from other peoples’ successes.  Others suffer from too much air conditioning. Subjective SUFFERING.

SUFFERING is no choice but to give up. That is true suffering. Pain in the body hurts, but it usually does not lead to no choice. Pain in the body means “Hey person, notice me! Take care of me! Change something!”

Pain in the body is meant to be a conversation between physical and thought:  “My _____ (fill in the blank) hurts. I feel it and I need to invest in thought, attempts, and changes to help the pain recede. If I keep doing what I’m doing, the pain might become a permanent part of my existence. If that happens, I must adjust my expectations of life and create living that includes the pain.  Adjustment of habits and lifestyle or adjustment of life expectations? I decide and I choose.”

SUFFERING can be removed from the realm of daily life by choosing to see life as an interesting challenge, whatever happens. Choosing to leave SUFFERING for the very final moment of life and living all the life that comes before that moment with gratitude, appreciation, and vibrancy.

To see the world with eyes of gratitude is to see the small and large contributions of nature’s creatures (including people). To experience the world with appreciative intention is to experience majesty. To move through the day with vibrant life force is to feel the full offering that living presents. The world according to ATTITUDE!

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