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Growing up to fail

failure at math

Several readers wrote to tell me that the blog posts “Failure addiction is taught” and “Addiction to failure” explained family members’ difficulties in life. Until they read those posts, they had not been able to understand the inability of their siblings/children to function.

The distressing state of drug addiction (legal and not) to combat anxiety, sleeplessness, and normal coping behaviors, is a reason to look more deeply at failure addiction and its causes. The lack of success in relationships and in achieving goals are additional reasons for looking at the causes of failure addiction.

As stated in “Failure addiction is taught”, children experience uncertainty and dejection when their parents–or other beloved caregivers–are emotionally distant, are consistently absent, and ignore their children’s natural interests. Children are sensitive to the words and actions of their loved ones, so that distancing and disinterest harm their sense of self, which in turn, causes them to doubt their abilities and thwarts their capacity for perseverance. Without perseverance and belief in oneself, a person cannot achieve goals.

Attentive parents can instill tendencies towards failure addiction when they require achievements that don’t suit their child’s abilities and interests, when they push away natural childhood demand for affection (from the parent), and when they purposely ignore their child’s expressions of himself or herself (for example, seeing that the child has a sensitive nature and pretending that the child is unflappable).

These “attentive” parents create people who may “succeed”, but feel unable to cope. Eventually, the inability to cope will affect work, self-perception, and/or appetite. The failure-prone people will struggle throughout their lives with relationships, unless they are able to adjust their self-images.

Failure addiction causes breakdowns, breakups, and breakaways. It is a cause of depression, compulsive behaviors, eating issues, and social withdrawal. Failure addiction indicates deep sadness, and deep sadness is the source of debilitating anger and aggression.

Failure addiction is a heart impediment. It stops the intangible heart from opening to oneself and to others, so that the intangible heart is stunted and enfeebled.

Note: This information has been received from Spirit.

Addiction to failure

heart-drugged

This post has taken me by surprise, but Spirit assures me that there is a failure addiction. Unlike addictions to heroin or gambling, failure addiction requires little investment in paraphernalia or cash. Failure addiction requires these three mindsets: determination to not succeed, creation of stumbling blocks, and inability to see opportunities.

Many people suffer from failure addiction; however, it is often subtle and sometimes even socially acceptable so that the sufferers feel justified in their inabilities to succeed. It often stems from childhood traumas that teach children to distance themselves from their internal dialogues and from their inherent abilities. The less people know themselves, the easier to set themselves up for failure.

Much more can be said about the causes of failure addiction, but Spirit wants me to turn to solutions. So here they are:

  1. A person cannot fail when he or she knows personal truths. Turning inwards, and focusing on true passions and abilities, leads to movement away from procrastination and sabotage. This step can take time, but is crucial in moving past cemented habits of failure.
  2. Connecting to the natural world opens a failure addict to external wonderment. Being outside in nature removes focus on internal suffering. Entering natural water sources or green surroundings lifts thoughts of self-misery, often completely but sometimes temporarily. These moments can counter negativity when the pursuit of connection with nature is done with awareness of the purpose to distance from failure expectations.
  3. Connecting to music that is soothing or melodic can aid the move from failure addiction. Choosing music that uplifts helps the mind move towards positivity.

Failure addiction can affect many areas of life, or just one or two. It can be temporary or long lasting. It can also be the beginning of other addictions.

Failure addiction is worth fixing.

See Failure addiction is taught

Note: Spirit says we should really get to know our soulful gifts and talents. The more we know them, the more we will want to succeed!

CONFUSION’s physical impact

Distracting colors

Confusion fills our lives, and some of us handle it better than others. Some of us get autoimmune diseases and some of us get psychological imbalances and some of us get cancer and some of us even get suicidal. The confusion is more destructive than we realize.

What is Spirit saying here? That confusion causes our self-destruction? Spirit wants us to know the role that confusion plays in our modern lives so that we can find ways to make them less confusing.

Modern life is filled with so much confusion, and it is getting more and more confusing as we achieve additional technological and societal advances. People today have so many choices, and the choices can overwhelm in a way that eventually translates into physical harm.

Consider the confusion in the lives of modern four-year-old children. Many children have too many toys, and having to choose what to play with can be confusing. There may be too many clothes in the closet, and choosing what to wear is confusing (nonetheless, children should choose rather than their parents). The children may go to play group, day care, or kindergarten, where the staff rotates, the number and temperaments of children is in flux, the foods offered are unfamiliar, and the choices of activities overwhelm and confuse. The afternoons and evenings can be confusing too, as the children navigate the relationships in the home—short tempers sometimes, inconsistent parenting, and tiredness. Happy times can be confusing too, as they are often filled with bending of the rules and stimuli that overexcite. Exposure to the world of smartphones and computers adds a confusion that children have never had to face—a confusion that will only be understood in about thirty years.

The confusion these children face daily can lay the groundwork for difficulty with choices, anxiety, and self-doubt. These emotional responses can cause malfunctioning in the systems that protect and nurture the body. The confusion maneuvers its way into the future lives of these unsuspecting children.

As for the rest of us past the age of four, confusion has become a subtle, and not so subtle, companion. Too many choices when choosing a career path, when planning a day, when choosing mindless time fillers and when feeding our bodies, overwhelm our ability to process information. Our bodies weren’t designed for all the stimulation that comes our way on a daily basis. The overstimulation over-occurring, day after day, is confusing for the body to process. When inadequate sleep, improper nourishment and regular use of stimulants tax the body, the confusion maneuvers its way in further, causing havoc and imbalance.

The confusion is the cause of many of today’s afflictions. It’s a hard source to blame, and an even harder source to study. It’s the modern source of new afflictions. Confusion binds with the other sources of imbalance, and dynamically increases their impact.

Confusion is confusing to understand. Spirit is sharing wisdom to help us open our minds to confusion’s place in our world. I’m very surprised. How about you?

Note: Like all the information in this website, the information in this blog post was spiritually received.

Posture–so much more important that people think!

posturePosture gives possibility of movement sublime. Freedom of movement extends from posture excellence. Excelling at posture is a worthwhile goal. The better the posture, how much better the living!

Extending the body upwards lengthens the spine and enhances the flows in the body. Bending the body forwards, sideways, or backwards for too long stresses the spine and disturbs flows. When flows are constricted, the body works harder to maintain balance. This unnecessary exertion can lead to permanently compromised health when the spine is held in the bent posture constantly.

Young children who maintain bent posture cause their bodies to work harder during times of healing and exertion. Teenagers who maintain bent posture cause their bodies to work harder during times of healing and exertion and create pressure on their vertebrae and musculature.

Adults in their 20s and 30s who maintain bent posture from their teenage years usually experience back pain, radiating pain from the back, and shortening of muscles. If the bent posture starts in their 20s and 30s, these adults may still have the direct and radiating pain, but the shortening of muscles will probably not yet take place.

When the bent posture begins in middle age, direct and radiating pain will accompany the bent posture and organ functionality may be affected. If the bent posture continued into middle age from the earlier years, the muscles will shorten, direct and radiating pain will occur, the intervertebral discs will age more quickly, the flows will slow, and the liver may be affected, as well as digestion.

If people begin to bend after reaching late middle age (60s) or into their 70s, the damage is less severe. A life of standing tall will have contributed to better health, so that the bending later on is less harmful. If the bent posture continued from earlier years, other organs and bodily processes will be negatively affected as well.

The vertebrae are masterful supporters of the body. They align in accordance with the parts of the body they protect. Their placement enables a strong steadfastness that is flexible in its limitations. The vertebrae enable bending, curving, and resilience.

Posture naturally expresses the positions of the vertebrae when the posture is extended upwards. The vertebrae are one on the other, stacked to support and provide space for all the internal body parts. When the vertebrae are forced into stacked crookedness, the space for the internal body parts is shifted. This shifting can be inconsequential or it can compromise functioning. If the stacked crookedness becomes chronic, the shifting of internal body parts can induce improper blood flow and elimination issues (sweat, urine, and others depending on the location of the shifting).

Movement is unnatural when the posture is slouched or crooked. Slouching and crooked walking have become fashionable, and the fashionability of walking improperly hurts whole populations. Slouching models encourage young men and women to slouch. Fashion that encourages wearing shoes with high heels creates generations with unnatural posture and movement. The slouching that comes from hours spent on mobile devices is equivalent to confinement in a cell that is too small; they both cause internal shifting.

Improper posture from car seats, airplane seats, and embarrassment (the posture that is assumed when a person is embarrassed) affect the posture in connection with other posture damagers. The worse the posture, the more the car seats, airplane seats, and embarrassment impact pain and internal damage.

Lack of exercise contributes to posture deterioration. Insufficient movement breaks when sitting for long periods of time contribute to posture deterioration. Negative viewpoint (of the world, of oneself, of society) and negative societal position also contribute to posture deterioration.   Other contributors to posture deterioration are too little manganese in the diet, sleep that is regularly diurnal rather than nocturnal, and irregular work schedules.

Proper posture contributes to lack of back and neck pain, relaxed muscles, better digestion, deeper breathing, correct blood flow, reproductive efficiency, and protected brain functioning. The vertebrae may look staggered, their importance may seem questionable, and their evolution may be misunderstood, but the vertebrae should be looked at as one solid piece of engineering with all the parts placed in the exact positions with the exact connections to create amazing possibilities—possibilities of movement, well-being, and balance!

Note: This information is from the first draft of the upcoming book Invented Afflictions and Muscular Conditions. This information has been spiritually received.

 

Generalizations about Good Health

Breathe

The importance of eating well, exercising, and sleeping enough are well known. Here are reminders about steps towards good health.

  • Sitting at a table while eating improves digestion. Eating while cooking, while moving, and when driving do not.
  • Each person determines the amount of water that is right for him or her. Time of day and season influence. So do age and stress.
    • Everyone should drink water when they arise.
    • Young people need more water than old people.
    • Seasonal considerations for drinking water: shorter daylight (in winter months) requires less water than longer daylight (in summer months).
    • Warm water is better than cold water when the body is tired. It is also better when the immune system is stressed physically or emotionally.
    • General guidelines for water consumption can be considered when determining amounts of water to drink, but the variables listed here should also be considered.
  • By breathing deeply, the body handles emotional changes better. Whenever emotional turmoil occurs, deep breathing and water can help regulate the turmoil.
  • The requirements for movement depend on food consumption, personality, attention capabilities, and seasons.
    • Eating the amount of food the body needs fuels the appropriate amount of exercise based on the three other variables.
    • More movement is required by people who are high energy personalities.
    • The environments in which focus is required add or subtract from movement needs: focus during physical work uses extended expenditures of movement; focus during sedentary work pressures muscles and elimination processes to accelerate reminders to use them.
    • Variations in temperature influence the body’s push towards movement.
  • Activity in the body during sleep is different from activity during awake time. Both types of activity are equally important, just different. Sleep should be scheduled and should be evaluated for appropriateness to age, habitat, and season.

One step at a time–a step towards proper nutrition, a step towards proper sleep, and towards proper breathing–step by step leading to good health and satisfaction!

Posture! So important!

spine

I’ve just finished receiving the chapter about posture for my latest book “Invented Afflictions and Movement Conditions”. I can’t wait to publicize this information so I’m posting it now.

I hadn’t realized just how important posture is, and you can believe me when I say I’ve been sitting up much straighter since I started this chapter!

Here’s to better posture for us all!

Note: The information presented is from Spiritual Presence.

Posture in Staggered Solidity

Posture gives possibility of movement sublime. Freedom of movement extends from posture excellence. Exceling at posture is a worthwhile goal. The better the posture, how much better the living!

Extending the body upwards lengthens the spine and enhances the flows in the body. Bending the body forwards, sideways, or backwards for too long stresses the spine and disturbs flows. When flows are constricted, the body works harder to maintain balance. This unnecessary exertion can lead to permanently compromised health when the spine is held in the bent posture constantly.

Young children who maintain bent posture cause their bodies to work harder during times of healing and exertion. Teenagers who maintain bent posture cause their bodies to work harder during times of healing and exertion and create pressure on their vertebrae and musculature.

Adults in their 20s and 30s who maintain bent posture from their teenage years usually experience back pain, radiating pain from the back, and shortening of muscles. If the bent posture starts in their 20s and 30s, these adults may still have the direct and radiating pain, but the shortening of muscles will probably not yet take place.

When the bent posture begins in middle age, direct and radiating pain will accompany the bent posture and organ functionality may be affected. If the bent posture continued into middle age from the earlier years, the muscles will shorten, direct and radiating pain will occur, the intervertebral discs will age more quickly, the flows will slow, and the liver may be affected, as well as digestion.

If people begin to bend after reaching late middle age (60s) or into their 70s, the damage is less severe. A life of standing tall will have contributed to better health, so that the bending later on is less harmful. If the bent posture continued from earlier years, other organs and bodily processes will be negatively affected as well.

The vertebrae are masterful supporters of the body. They align in accordance with the parts of the body they protect. Their placement enables a strong steadfastness that is flexible in its limitations. The vertebrae enable bending, curving, and resilience.

Posture naturally expresses the positions of the vertebrae when the posture is extended upwards. The vertebrae are one on the other, stacked to support and provide space for all the internal body parts. When the vertebrae are forced into stacked crookedness, the space for the internal body parts is shifted. This shifting can be inconsequential or it can compromise functioning. If the stacked crookedness becomes chronic, the shifting of internal body parts can induce improper blood flow and elimination issues (sweat, urine, and others depending on the location of the shifting).

Movement is unnatural when the posture is slouched or crooked. Slouching and crooked walking have become fashionable, and the fashionability of walking improperly hurts whole populations. Slouching models encourage young men and women to slouch. Fashion that encourages wearing shoes with high heels creates generations with unnatural posture and movement. The slouching that comes from hours spent on mobile devices is equivalent to confinement in a cell that is too small; they both cause internal shifting.

Improper posture from car seats, airplane seats, and embarrassment (the posture that is assumed when a person is embarrassed) affect the posture in connection with other posture damagers. The worse the posture, the more the car seats, airplane seats, and embarrassment impact pain and internal damage.

Lack of exercise contributes to posture deterioration. Insufficient movement breaks when sitting for long periods of time contribute to posture deterioration. Negative viewpoint (of the world, of oneself, of society) and negative societal position also contribute to posture deterioration.   Other contributors to posture deterioration are too little manganese in the diet, sleep that is regularly diurnal rather than nocturnal, and irregular work schedules.

Proper posture contributes to lack of back and neck pain, relaxed muscles, better digestion, deeper breathing, correct blood flow, reproductive efficiency, and protected brain functioning. The vertebrae may look staggered, their importance may seem questionable, and their evolution may be misunderstood, but the vertebrae should be looked at as one solid piece of engineering with all the parts placed in the exact positions with the exact connections to create amazing possibilities—possibilities of movement, well-being, and balance!

Sleeping with the Nanny

oops

Another headline blares the news that a celebrity couple is divorcing because the husband slept with the nanny.

What does Spiritual Presence have to say about this situation? (I was curious, and so I asked.)

Close proximity triggers hormonal activity. That is why coworkers pair up and the frolickers at parties hook up. The hormonal activity creates desire. The situation in which a household welcomes a nanny into its midst is a fluctuating arrangement in which hormonal messaging misdirects.

When the nanny is stable in her outside relationships, the hormonal messaging misdirects, but is non-connecting.  The husband and wife might experience unintentional disturbance from the nanny, but her hormonal influence is surmountable.

If the nanny is responsive (because she is relationship-free and is desirous of attachment), the hormonal messaging that is misdirected can cause distancing of the couple. The husband and wife distance emotionally and subconsciously, and the unstable relationship requires investment to restore stability. The nanny intentionally or unintentionally upsets the balance, and she can contribute to the restored stability when she creates a relationship external to the household.

Hormonal functioning for each of the affected parties (husband, wife, nanny, teenaged children) varies depending on stage of life and cycle position: pregnancy, post-birth, lactating, menstruating, and testosterone oscillation. Each of these influences affects the possibility of nanny-husband hookup.

Understanding that hormones contribute to the travails in a relationship, helps a couple keep their marriage stable. Understanding that the hormones of an outsider influence the marriage, helps a couple choose the nanny who is being hired to care for their beloved children.

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