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Growing up to fail

failure at math

Several readers wrote to tell me that the blog posts “Failure addiction is taught” and “Addiction to failure” explained family members’ difficulties in life. Until they read those posts, they had not been able to understand the inability of their siblings/children to function.

The distressing state of drug addiction (legal and not) to combat anxiety, sleeplessness, and normal coping behaviors, is a reason to look more deeply at failure addiction and its causes. The lack of success in relationships and in achieving goals are additional reasons for looking at the causes of failure addiction.

As stated in “Failure addiction is taught”, children experience uncertainty and dejection when their parents–or other beloved caregivers–are emotionally distant, are consistently absent, and ignore their children’s natural interests. Children are sensitive to the words and actions of their loved ones, so that distancing and disinterest harm their sense of self, which in turn, causes them to doubt their abilities and thwarts their capacity for perseverance. Without perseverance and belief in oneself, a person cannot achieve goals.

Attentive parents can instill tendencies towards failure addiction when they require achievements that don’t suit their child’s abilities and interests, when they push away natural childhood demand for affection (from the parent), and when they purposely ignore their child’s expressions of himself or herself (for example, seeing that the child has a sensitive nature and pretending that the child is unflappable).

These “attentive” parents create people who may “succeed”, but feel unable to cope. Eventually, the inability to cope will affect work, self-perception, and/or appetite. The failure-prone people will struggle throughout their lives with relationships, unless they are able to adjust their self-images.

Failure addiction causes breakdowns, breakups, and breakaways. It is a cause of depression, compulsive behaviors, eating issues, and social withdrawal. Failure addiction indicates deep sadness, and deep sadness is the source of debilitating anger and aggression.

Failure addiction is a heart impediment. It stops the intangible heart from opening to oneself and to others, so that the intangible heart is stunted and enfeebled.

Note: This information has been received from Spirit.

Children’s most important need

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Children need love. Lots of it! They don’t need distractions. They need loving attention! They don’t need lots of toys. They need lots of hugs! They don’t need stern warnings. They need kind guidance. They don’t need fighting among family members. They need patience.

Children need loving care. And they need to feel loved.

Note: Spirit says that children are easily damaged. They carry the damage throughout their lives.

Unintentional child abuse through sugar

sweets for children

My childhood contained many spoonfuls of sugar. It started off with sweetened formula. There were doughnuts and ice cream, sugar cubes and sodas. Lollipops and candy canes were gifts at doctor appointments and my parents’ business friends’ offices. Halloween provided weeks of sugary treats. The other holidays had their special sweet treats and customary sweet dishes. My family’s snack drawer was full of snack cakes, cookies, and sno balls. At school, lunches included a sweet treat and the food provided was often sweetened. For breakfast, I ate sweetened cereals, sweetened oatmeal, and instant breakfast drinks.  Family trips to the local ice cream parlors and baseball games led to sweet celebrations galore.  Iced tea was always sweetened as were the fresh strawberries. Sunday morning pancakes smothered with imitation maple syrup were the weekly food highlight. Crackers, canned savory foods, spreads, and fast foods were sweetened as well. My diet was sweet foods with occasional breaks for the unsweetened things. I think that my diet was typical of children growing up in the 60s and 70s in the United States. All that sweetness influenced my health, my eating habits, and my thinking.

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This blog post is written to parents and grandparents to make them aware that their choices to sweeten the lives of their children and grandchildren delivers misery instead of the intended happiness. Sweetening a child’s life is love misguided.

Note: This blog post is not my opinion although I do agree with it. The wisdom presented here is straight from Spirit.

Parents and grandparents,

“Most of our diet is meant to be non-sweet. The sweet part should be about 8%, and of that 8%, all should be from natural sources—that is how our bodies are designed. .” …from the post “Sweeteners: The Facts

More than 8% sweetness leads to:

  • changed appetite (wanting foods for their sweetness rather than for their satisfaction of hunger)
  • emotional turmoil
  • malfunctioning of the processes that handle sweetness
  • reduced resilience of body parts (for example, teeth)
  • illness
  • compromised attention capabilities
  • over-desire for sweetness
  • reduced muscle activity
  • feelings of negativity towards self

from the post “The Facts: Living in a World of Sweetened Sustenance

Through sweets, well-meaning parents feed their children emotional turmoil and compromised attention capabilities. These changes to natural temperament and attentiveness cause problems with peers and in school.

Through sweets, well-intentioned parents offer their children reduced resilience of body parts as rewards for good behavior and grades. Even parents who know the facts about sweetness succumb to societal pressure to provide their children with changed appetite and over-desire for sweetness. Combating the pervasiveness of sweetness in society is not easy.

Rewarding children using sweets that contribute to feelings of negativity towards themselves is building people who are unsure of themselves. Rewarding children with causers of malfunctioning of the processes that handle sweetness is mistaken gifting.

Sweets that are natural, such as fruit and pure maple syrup, are building unless they exceed the 8% limit. Sweets that are destructive, such as sugar and corn syrup, cause disruptions in functioning and in future functioning.

Going against the typical way of pushing sweets onto children is not easy. Defying the advertisers and makers of sweet things is work. Understanding what you are doing each time you give your child a soda or a candy bar or a sweetened cereal, might help you change your outlook on how you stock your house and how you supply nutrition to the children you love with all your heart.

A tip when raising children

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This tip is for parents, grandparents, and caregivers. It applies to children being raised in today’s world of constant external stimulation.

  • The most important thing to limit is your time away from the children.

The children require your time and your attention. They require material things less. They require your eyes on them, not you looking at a screen or you placing them in front of a screen.

Children thrive when their loved ones give them security. The security develops through loving touch, words, and facial expressions.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

Reaction #3 to “The health effects of the latest technologies”

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The future holds so much promise, yet our advances—the ones that make our lives more easy and predictable—are the ones that will upend the advances’ promises of better.

The advances of “smart” technologies will create entrenched changes in people that will defy treatment. Besides the effects from the smart technologies, the lessening of joyous movement by children and the withdrawal from nature will cement the entrenched changes further.

Offering young children smartphones as playthings is the beginning of the entrenched changes. The children will be affected in the eyes, in the cardiovascular circulation, in the olfactory abilities, and in the processing of emotional thoughts. The addictive draw of the screen’s amazingness pulls from the children their natural rush to move, which will affect their spinal and muscular development. The wondrousness of the screens’ offerings will lessen the wondrousness of the natural world and the children will lose their connection to the Earth’s glory, which will affect their senses of taste, touch, and intuition.

Adults who wear the smart gadgets will have less ingrained changes than the children, but if they also reduce their movement and distance from nature, then their bodies will respond unhappily. The changes depend on age, length of exposure, and time spent with other people.

Distancing from nature and lessening of movement, when accompanied by the side effects of the latest generation of medications, will exacerbate the side effects. People who take these medications require continuous connection to nature and joyous movement to lessen the side effects.

Here ends input from God about the impact of smart gadgets and medication side effects combined with sedentary lifestyle and little exposure to nature. This response relates to the blog posts EGC sessions with God: The health effects of the latest technologies,  Reaction #1, and Reaction #2.

I am sad to be the bearer of this information, but I do hope that people will heed these messages of warning.

 

 

Reaction #1 to “The health effects of the latest technologies”

smart gadgets

IN yesterday’s blog post, we were informed that the latest technologies are causing new types of illnesses. That knowledge is distressing, to say the least.

I pushed for advice about dealing with the onslaught of external changes (like smartphones, smart watches, activity trackers, wearable computer glasses, and to-be-announced-soon footwear, that uses computer tracking).

In today’s blog post, we will receive advice from God about protecting ourselves from the latest invasive technologies. I know these new devices seem helpful and are appealing, but we’re being warned about their future bad effects, and we really need to pay attention–me too!

  1. Wearing computer devices is harmful. They disrupt the body’s functioning. The longer they are next to your bodies, the more harm they cause. Keep them at a distance. [This advice also applies to smartphone that are kept in pockets or in arm bands and other containers very close to the body.]
  2. Tracking steps is confused desireability. Knowing exactly how far you’ve walked or how many steps you’ve actually taken seems desireable, but the devices that provide this information will cause illnesses and changes in body functioning. Don’t use these devices.
  3. Placement of the devices is very important. The farther away from the body, the better. Keep smartphones in a container [backpack, thick waist pack, purse, or messenger bag]. When holding a smartphone, hold it for short periods of time. For children, no more than twelve minutes and no more than three times a day (no more than 36 minutes); for ages 20 and up, no more than fifteen minutes and no more than four times a day (no more than sixty minutes). For extended viewing of the screen, place the smartphone in a holder and don’t hold the holder.

A reminder from yesterday’s blog post: the younger the age of exposure to these devices, the more havoc created for the body. If you have young children, resist the pull to use these devices to pacify your children.

 

A child’s heart

heart of a child

Note: This information was received through my heart’s connection to Spirit.

 

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