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Four things that people get wrong

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Common sense leads us to build our lives in generally wise ways. Sometimes though, our common sense gets derailed when we listen to others who cause us to question our wisdom. Many of these influencing people have a vested interest in us following their “advice”, because doing so enriches them or increases their influence. We can’t know everything so we do need to rely on information from others, but we have to be aware of the interests of the people who provide the information. Also, wisdom from the past that was once useful doesn’t always translate into wisdom for the present.

Here are four things we get wrong because of the various forces that cause us to think unrealistically.

1. Thinking that love is fairytale possible

People are meant to build deep relationships, but the relationships are not fairytale fantasies.  Relationships require gentle nurturing. They require realistic expectations and perceptions.

Storytellers and movie producers create fantasies of fairytale love, but the reality is different.  Many industries push people to teach their children that fantasy is possible, but reality is different and parents unintentionally raise their children to be disappointed and unhappy.

Life is lived in a more balanced way when love is understood to be a sense of obligation, a show of appreciation, an attraction to the inner character as well as to the outer appearance, a commitment of constant consideration, an openness to coexistence, and an unfailing commitment to kindness and acceptance.

“LOVE that is fantasy is love that is too unreal. This type of love is misunderstood and unattainable. This type of love is difficult and tiring. Falling in love is real as is feeling strong love for another person; however, “true love” is fabrication. Investing in the myth of a perfect love match is non-sustaining. Non-sustaining in terms of health and self-esteem and perception. Attaching to fabled storytelling is abusive, self-abuse.”

Fairytale love is explored, together with realistic loving relationships and unrequited love in the book Oneself–Living.

2. Thinking that people have a right to eat as much meat as they want

Many meat advocates push the consumption of meat products at one or more meals a day. They convince others that the meat is required to maintain strength and vitality.

The ease at which meat is obtained has led to a devaluation of its role in our diets. It has become underappreciated and disrespected. Meat consumption has become inhumane.

Meat is food that can be nourishing and satisfying.  Meat is meant to be eaten in moderation and with appreciation. Read more about meat consumption in these blog posts: Devouring delicious meat, Too much meat, and To eat farmed salmon or not?

3. Thinking that a religion is superior to others

“Religion is an accessway for connecting to God; it is not the destination. Elevating the religion, rather than the divine connection, disconnects people from God. Religions are approaches, they are not possessions to be coveted or aggrandized. ”

Throughout the wisdom writings I have received, the message has been clear:

“NO GROUP IS CLOSER TO SPIRIT THAN ANY OTHER.
NO GROUP SPEAKS FOR SPIRIT.
SPIRIT IS FOR ALL
= EQUALLY=
SPIRIT IS ALL-COME-TO-ME-JUSTLY!
Come justly without harm
To any others”

The quotes are from the books Descending into War, Descending into Contempt and Faith–A Wisdom Poem Sharing Spiritual Connection.

4. Thinking that toddlers want to sit in a forward-facing stroller/pushchair

Compared to the other misunderstood subjects, this one might seem small, but it impacts development of children. Most stroller/pushchair manufacturers tout the benefits of those that are forward facing (the child and parent are both facing forward). Common sense dictates that the toddler should face the beloved parent, but the parents are swayed by the marketing of the companies.

The direction that is best for children is explained in the blog post Strollers–which direction is best for the children.

 

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

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The pursuit of ease leads to …

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The pursuit of ease leads to…

  • Parents giving mobile phones and other handheld devices to their young children –> future physical ailments like back pain, muscle atrophy, and neck pain in the children.
  • Lifestyle diseases –> restricting movement, limiting activities, and refusal to try overwhelm the body and open it to unwellness.
  • Settling for undesired results and things.
  • Dissatisfaction –> “too easy” sabotages experiences of learning and pride.
  • Unrealized goals –> the ease outweighs the investment in effort to achieve goals.
  • Mounds of plastic waste that thwart efforts to provide livable urban environments –> the creation of plastics and the disposal of plastics create enormous amounts of pollution and problem-solving that boomerang back to the people.
  • Contributions to the horrible treatment of people –> easy-to-use products require people making the products easy to use, in work conditions that are often appalling.
  • Possible trouble.

Ease seems good, and it can be—when it is not the goal.

Here are three of my favorite ease producers. Suitcases on wheels have made traveling easier and more pleasant. GPS applications have made navigation less daunting. Food processors have led to the wonders of raw chocolate desserts! The list of ease-producing products is long.

Ease—when it becomes the goal—turns poisonous. The pursuit of ease has repercussions that are not always discernible at the time ease is pursued.

The pursuits of empathy, giving, and kindness are always worthwhile!

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Religious Zeal

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Direction unclear
Which way to go
Directions needed

Faltering
Missing guidance
Future being unwanted
Solution sought

When a person is faltering in the way to go in life, religious zeal can grab hold. When guidance from respected family or peers is lacking, religious zeal can offer appeal. When future possibilities cause resistance or disappointment, religious zeal can uplift.

Religious zeal takes place when imbalance resides in a person. The imbalance can be emotional or spiritual, in one’s family or in one’s society.

Religious zeal is not living a religious life—when a person is balanced, religious living can add to the intensity of the living. Religious zeal is imbalanced, incorrect living. Religious zeal is overly focused living with emphasis on a portion—only a portion—of life.

Religious zeal can apply to aspects of life other than religious beliefs. Zealousness about money or possessions or relationship avoidance stem from imbalance. Zealousness about righteous causes and politics are extensions of imbalance.

Religions are guided paths towards spiritual connection and community building. Religious zealousness is misguided and community destructive. Religious zealousness may appear as intense spiritual connection, but in actuality, it is distancing from spiritual connection. Overdoing never solves anything.

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