Health improvements, self-development, changes in behavior, changes in habits, and legacy building are goals that can be reached when Exemplary Life contracts are used. An exemplary life is lived when future generations are kept in mind, when habits reflect caring for oneself and one’s family and community, and when activities are chosen that create satisfaction with one’s life.
Improving health can be by eating more nutritiously, scheduling regular physical activity, and learning to lessen stress. Self-development can be by learning to play a musical instrument, developing hobbies, and meditating. Changes in behavior can be by becoming more appreciative and being kinder to oneself and others. Changes in habits can be by revising daily routines that are not nourishing and preventing procrastination. Legacy building can be by spending more time with younger people and evaluating the legacy you want to leave. These are but a few of the topics that can be addressed with Exemplary Life contracts.
Contracts for an Exemplary Life is spiritually received assistance that understands what people want. People want their lives to be expressions of who they are. They want to be actively engaged in living and they want to face the challenges that life presents in a confident and gratifying way. Unfortunately, as they go along, people lose their focus and mire themselves in distracting and destructive activities and habits.
With true-to-me contracts, a person can return to the natural way of being: expressing who the person really is, engaging actively in life, and facing challenges with confidence and satisfaction.
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When a deadline is looming, people respond in many, many ways. Each person has a way of coping or approaching or ignoring or using the deadline to achieve/fail. Some people aim for success; some people aim for failure. Yes, both are aims and both are normal reactions depending on each person’s attitude, history, and current bodily balance or imbalance.
This post is being presented to those who aim for success. (I bet you thought it would be the other aim.)
Aiming for success is usually a positive aspiration. Success in one’s endeavors is considered to be the goal that should be reached. Success. What is success? The dictionary says that success means the attainment of wealth, honors, position, etc. In society, wealth, the receipt of awards, CEOs, elected leaders, and celebrity are the coveted (eagerly wished for) ideals.
Let’s look at success in life. What are successful life goals?
- Maintaining good family relationships—not always easy, but worth making a goal.
- Maintaining community—very important and worth the investment.
- Maintaining a healthy outlook about oneself—influences all the other goals and is vital for reaching the goals with health and self-esteem unharmed.
- Maintaining work requirements—delivering (a performance or a report), showing up when expected, influencing others or work conditions, performing duties properly and with concern (no matter the type of work), providing the needed skills (relearning or staying current as needed), and focusing when focus is required.
- Maintaining a relationship with the environment and the creatures that inhabit the planet. “Creatures” include animals and people.
Success is large and small. Large and small successes. Public and private successes. Often, the small and private successes are the most important.
Getting back to deadlines—each person determines the approach that works or doesn’t work. Remembering to attend to all of the life goals should help keep focus and lessen wasteful fretting and wasteful actions.
What happens when we idolize celebrities? Idolizing celebrities removes a person from his or her reality, because the true reality is away from where the “star” is located. The “star” is living a life somewhere else, and the idolizing person lives in a place between reality and fairy tale.
Fairy tale living is half-living that renders the idolizer removed from reality and removed from time. Idolizing excessively creates facsimiles of the people doing the idolizing and of the people being idolized. Neither facsimile is real.
Obsessively desiring to be like a celebrity prevents a person from seeing his or her own talents. When a celebrity’s achievements spur others to achieve their own goals, the teaching is uplifting. When the celebrity’s achievements become obsessions without causing positive results for the idolizer, the worship becomes destructive.
Celebrities can spread entertainment, innovation and information, but their lives are not worth idolizing. Their lives have corners that others cannot see, and the truth of their existences is often not so shiny.
Here are celebrity obsessive behaviors that cause removal from one’s own life:
- Displaying a holiday card of the family of a celebrity financial planner as if you know this family is removal from your own life.
- Following the tweets and instagrams of a celebrity instead of communications from family and friends is removal from your own life.
- Changing your appearance or buying clothes you can’t afford to look like a celebrity is removal from your own life.
- Changing your activities to watch a “star” walk by is removal from your own life.
- Abandoning principles and close people for the chance of spending time with a celebrity is removal from your own life.
Looking beyond oneself for inspiration is normal human behavior. Watching elders teaches customs and traditions. Listening to others with skills or knowledge as a way to improve one’s own skills or knowledge is useful. Studying the achievements of a person who has impacted others in a positive way is enlightening.
Note: Spirit shares this information as a reminder for each of us to develop our own soulfully gifted talents.
Addiction to failure is not a natural state. People are born to succeed, but caregivers, society, and natural phenomenon (like natural disasters) can redirect towards failure. Failure can be in one or two areas or can become a defining personality trait.
For example, parents who are emotionally distant to their child, are consistently absent from the child’s life, and ignore the child’s natural interests, can push the child towards feelings of uncertainty about choices and towards dejection. The dejection and uncertainty can then translate into actions that do not suit the child’s natural talents, which can then lead to feelings of failure. This type of failure addiction can affect all areas of a person’s life and can continue into adulthood if the behavior is not questioned and addressed.
Failure addiction that is localized in one or two areas can occur when people are unaware of their natural abilities, their internal pace (that is, the natural speed of a person), their seasonal preferences, and their soulfully felt interests. Localized failure addiction is also influenced by incorrect interpretations of natural floundering when attempting new tasks or by improper responses to a minor mistake that get multiplied into a general opinion of failure.
Failure addiction can be taught by coworkers who constantly criticize and sabotage. It can be taught by teachers who shame and belittle. It can be taught by family members who are demeaning. And it can be taught by a society that rejects and ostracizes members for their behaviors or differences.
Failure addiction is a strain on society, and it is a cause for suicide and illness.
See Addiction to failure
Note: In the spiritual realm, the perpetrators (those who teach failure addiction) are gently guided towards better behavior in future incarnations.
Autumn has arrived, and brings with it energy to create! This time of year is wonderful for starting projects and achieving goals.
Here’s a poem about Autumn from
Connection—A Collection of Wisdom Poetry.
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Children need love. Lots of it! They don’t need distractions. They need loving attention! They don’t need lots of toys. They need lots of hugs! They don’t need stern warnings. They need kind guidance. They don’t need fighting among family members. They need patience.
Children need loving care. And they need to feel loved.
Note: Spirit says that children are easily damaged. They carry the damage throughout their lives.
When an argument has ensued or a longstanding feud has been fueled, the accompanying feelings of energy, anger, or assault are actual expressions of EMPTY functioning.
We people are powered by creativity, not by dispute. Yes it seems that disputes produce enormous amounts of energy, but in the spiritual realm the disputes produce emptiness and fragmentation.
For people, the emptiness seeps into the psyche and distorts proper behavior. Rather than extend kindness, people build stumbling blocks.
It’s important to understand that conflict is as a virus, infecting and spreading a horrific disease.
For information about conflict, read Descending into War, Descending into Contempt.
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