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“Capital punishment has emotional side effects for the people who administer it…”

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Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 30-31:

Capital Punishment

Capital punishment is a payment that should never be extracted. No matter what another person did, capital punishment is not for people to use. Death that is deliberately meted out is improper for people to do. It creates imbalance in the people who cause it to happen—in the judges, in the juries, in the officials overseeing the event, and in the general populace.

Capital punishment has emotional side effects for the people who administer it, not for the people who receive it. Yes, those who die because of capital punishment have fears and other emotions. The side effects they don’t feel are indifference, hardening, and stonyheartedness. Yes, they may have been in-different, hardened or stonyhearted, which allowed them to commit offenses deemed worthy of death, but their mental state before execution contracts.

The feelings of the people who participate in government-sanctioned executions, from the people who administer the deaths to the people who voted for its use, are indifferent to the enormity of purposefully administered death, are hardened to changes that have happened to them because of their indifference, and have become stonyhearted—desensitized, remorseless, and indurate. The full extent of capital punishment effects are not understood, but they are wide and rippling.

Judging others is appropriate. Confining some who cannot control their misanthropic behavior is prudent. Insisting upon restitution is instructional. Bringing society towards helping the offenders before they hurt others is wise. Allowing capital punishment is misguided.

Next section: “Facing Death”

“Feelings of resentment infect relationships, self-esteem, and perceptions of society.”

Previous section: “Ferocity

Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 30-31:

Casualties of Resentment

Resentment is felt throughout the presence of conflict. Conflict naturally arouses the feelings of resentment, and it feeds the feelings, even after the conflict has resolved or disintegrated. Feelings of resentment infect relationships, self-esteem, and perceptions of society.

The casualties of resentment are many. Some of them are listed here:

  • Stubbornness in negotiations
  • Aggressive speech
  • Feelings of emasculation
  • Acceleration of feelings of despair
  • Hurtful actions
  • Armed confrontations
  • Mistreatment of children
  • Inability to protect children
  • Fractured relationships
  • Covetous view of one’s own possessions
  • Annoyance at the daily interactions with others, even when the interactions are kind
  • Conflict and ill will towards segments of the population
  • Lowered performance of work
  • Envy of friends and close people (family, coworkers, etc.)
  • Rejection of society
  • Escape through numbing substances
  • Investment in destructive thoughts and actions

Resentment casualties hurt. They damage others in many ways and damage the resentful ones with each resentful feeling. Resentment brings on foolish decisions, failed agreements, and pain. The effects of resentment are wide and lasting, and they destroy. From individuals to nations, resentment fosters distancing and grief.

When resentment is felt, the best solution is acknowledgement of the feelings and openness to exploration of solutions. Letting resentment fester is the wrong approach. The right approach is acknowledging resentful feelings, and then evaluating them and rectifying the thinking or the situation.

Next section: “Capital Punishment

“…people continue to teach unkindness and hatred.”

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Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 28-29:

Ferocity

The viciousness that conflict enables buries humanity in quicksand. It pulls all down down, thinning the resources to stop the expectation that ferocity and viciousness are normal behaviors.

Ferocity is an innate quality in people—in all people, but it is usually contained. When ferocity is allowed to take hold, the results are often tragic.

Unkindness is not an innate quality; it is learned. Children learn it from caregivers and people who affect their lives when they are young. If unkindness is doused on people, it drenches but does not pass into the behavior, unless the unkindness is consistently administered or is traumatically experienced. Unkindness that has become part of a person opens the person to release ferocity.

Uncontrollable hatred is also not an innate quality, but it is felt when it has been experienced or when it is lived by example. In other words, children who experience uncontrollable hatred directed at them may internalize it and use it against themselves or others, or children who see and hear demonstrations of uncontrollable hatred towards other people may unconsciously digest the hatred towards others and display it in the future. When uncontrollable hatred is felt and unkindness has been learned, ferocity develops.

Throughout history, people have viciously hurt other people. The cycle of ferocity does not change, because people continue to teach unkindness and hatred.

News stories focus on salacious and hurtful events so that people become inured to vicious and degrading actions. Books and movies describe loathsome and reprehensible characters, because people have become conditioned to see them as “entertainment”. Ferocity can be controlled, but it requires conviction, understanding, declaration (public statements), patience, vigilance, kindness, and action by participants and sideliners so that the ferocity remains inactive. Conviction is the solution to ferocity—conviction that ferocity can be controlled and neutralized.

Next section: “Casualties of Resentment

This section saddens me and I can’t find a sentence to emphasize in the title.

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Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 25-27:

Preparing for the Fight

Similarities exist in gearing up for battles. There are physical preparations and mental conversations. Smaller battles require the same preparations as larger battles, if the stakes are crucial to either side.

In ongoing conflicts, preparation is muted by the need for constant engagement. These conflicts usually experience reduced physical and mental preparations. For fighters in from the beginning, the training and encouragement they received before feeling the endlessness of the conflict can sustain until it ends, if they believe in the cause. Fighters who enter midway, whether or not they receive preparations that rev them, experience the relief of the in-from-the-beginning fighters, and that welcome gives them a sense of purpose, or a sense of hopelessness, from the moment they arrive.

Involvement of commanders in the fighting is not the main motivator for engaging in the activity of death. The motivators are revenge, duty, and devotion to the cause. Commanders can rouse fervor, but even if they are absent, the fighters immerse themselves in the iniquities.

Fighters who are in it for financial reward or excitement have less motivation to wholeheartedly commit themselves to dying. For them, a commander’s presence influences performance.

Fighters who are forced to fight, those who have been brought in against their will, also require commander presence to engage in indignations.

When judgment-altering substances are used in “motivating” fighters (drugs [legal or illegal] or alcohol), brutality increases in the activity of death. For the fighters who live past their participation in brutality, whether or not they were given mind-altering substances, nightmares and visualizations will plague them in the current life and in the next life to come. (Nightmares and visualizations of blood-filled scenes plague all who participate in brutality that is excessive—even for those who only followed orders.)

Circumstances often influence the age of those fighting. Organized induction of fighters or the rise of an armed conflict create fighters of set ages. In these circumstances, age affects training and performance of responsibilities. Vigilantes, who gather their fighters through force or brainwashing, usually take children and very angry people so that they can mold them. When fighters join forces for financial gain, they usually do so to support a family, and are of varied ages.

Preparing for the fight uses cleverness, wits, and intuition. These things cannot overcome massive weaponry, but they are helpful in struggles where strategy is needed. Preparing for the fight when exhaustion has set in, leads to mistakes and lack of confidence by the fighters. No matter the preparations, though, the moments of meeting to kill are valueless.

Next section: “Ferocity

“The stage before experiencing calamity is filled with hope, anxiety, and fear.”

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Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 22-24:

Dreading Events

The stage before experiencing calamity is filled with hope, anxiety, and fear. Fear fills the lungs and shortens the breath. Anxiety flows through the blood and causes sleeplessness or hysteria. Hope is in the thoughts that the dreaded event will prove less dreadful than anticipated.

Shortening of the breath combined with sleeplessness can cause a weakened immune system, which can lead to sudden illness and incapacitation. Shortening of the breath combined with hysteria can cause behavior that is societally unacceptable, but is condoned at the moment. Shortening of the breath combined with sleeplessness and hysteria weakens the body’s ability to rationally process information so that violent or retrogressive actions can occur.

These changes apply to men and women; however, societal morés influence the extent of the changes. Children descend less quickly into the consequences of shortened breath, sleeplessness, and hysteria; although they may experience hope, anxiety, and fear acutely. A person’s attitude also influences the impact of hope, anxiety, and fear.

Anticipation of the calamity to come affects the spirit, indisputably. The stronger a person’s sense of connection to spiritual belief, the stronger the control of emotions and the less the sinking into anxiety and fear. The connection doesn’t prevent anxiety and fear from appearing, but the sense of support that comes from spiritual connection provides strength in self-conviction and self-dependence. The connection must be sincere to have the strengthening effects.

Calamities are different due to the circumstances in which they happen. A government-sanctioned purge has positive and negative effects on the inhabitants, depending on loyalties and societal standing. Supporters may be fearful, yet joyous, and those who resist may be hopeful, yet afraid. Rebellious uprisings, like government-sanctioned purges, have positive and negative effects. They embolden some and terrify others. Individual attackers, such as serial killers, frighten all because the targets are less clear and the locations seem random. Revenge seekers bring calamity that is frightening and demurring, because the victims can be anyone in any part of society. Honor killings come under the category of revenge seeking.

Fear, a natural emotion, is intensified by calamities that are real or anticipated. Anticipating violence can cause similar emotional distress as experiencing it. Experiencing violence creates altered behavior that invades subsequent actions. Experiencing violence also teaches forceful reactivity that can be released on others in the future.

When intense hatred has been experienced, the experience can be internalized and then used against others. When intense hatred is witnessed but not personally experienced, the demonstrations of intense hatred towards others may be digested un-consciously and then be displayed towards others (towards those displaying the hatred or those receiving it) in the future.

Intense hatred is an emotion that propels towards action or retreat. Either of these reactions causes internal turbulence, so that health can be compromised if the reactions are too extreme. After a calamity, intense hatred requires release so that people can handle the altered circumstances.

Calamities that become long-term evolve into ways of life. They push people to change routines and priorities, but they are less anxiety- and fear-causing. Depending on age, health and attitude, each person reacts to the changed reality by seeing beyond the new situations or pushing against them. Life situations are ever-evolving, and the nature of people is to adapt and learn new rhythms. Refusing to adapt is not human nature.

The stage before experiencing calamity is difficult to endure. It is not a time for judgment of others nor high expectations. It is a time to offer help and provisions. Calamity is a change, megacosmically or societally created, that occurs as a matter of course. To consider it rare is unrealistic. The more that people accept calamity’s place in life, the more they can weather the storms and upheavals.

Next section: “Preparing for the Fight

“Power is meant to be used for creative endeavors, not for physical dominance or emotional manipulation. “

Previous section: “The Equation of Conflict”

Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 20-21:

The Desire for Power

“I hope our wisdom will grow with our power, and teach us, that the less we use our power the greater it will be.”

In this quote by Tom Jefferson, power is in front of us, to be used when needed, with awareness of its effects and with awareness of its dangers. Awareness is the important factor for power, because its intoxicating nature is addictive.

The availability of power is elusive; it seems to be permanent when it is in one’s possession, yet it can fail when the power is assumed to be a right. Power depends upon feelings of entitlement, ability to speak authoritatively, physical features, self-centeredness, and desire for control. When all that one wants is one’s own satisfaction, power becomes addictively desired, and the feelings of entitlement and desire for control silence the sense of compassion. Without compassion, the desire for power becomes personal. It becomes a character trait that is overly defining. When power ceases, the person is left bereft of identity and control.

Having power for the sake of power is unwise. The power loses its focus and misdirects actions that then bring lessened potential. Power is meant to be used for creative endeavors, not for physical dominance or emotional manipulation. Taking the power, misdirecting it, and desiring its pull causes the power-hungry person to act contemptuously. The behavior brings combative reactions into relationships and negotiations. The more the power is used needlessly, the less reliance on wisdom occurs.

Greater are the actions that spring from observation and wisdom than are the actions that push from self-importance and foolhardiness.

Next section: “Dreading Events

“Sources of conflict pervade the human condition…”

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Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 17-19:

The Equation of Conflict

The possibility of conflict floats. It floats on the interactions of people, and changes course as posturing and understanding moves back and forth.

Each conflict has its variables and relations. They change over time and resolve. Separate from some conflicts is humility. Without humility, conflicts fester and widen. Resolution requires drastic changes in environmental conditions, being united by a common goal, or magnanimous acts of generosity.

The breadth of conflict is dimensional. Small conflicts between a few people are possible. Each conflict has its participants and its issues. The issues are dimensional too, because each participant’s view of the issues is different. Resolving “small” conflicts can be as difficult as resolving larger ones. The smallness is relative and depends on the willingness of the participants to negotiate the conflict.

Dimensional too are the emotional states of each conflict participant. Emotional feelings fluctuate and are influenced by the destructive feelings that incite contemptuous eruptions. Conflict resolution is influenced by emotions that play leading roles in resolution outcome.

The equation of conflict and conflict resolution is indiscriminate. Conflict isn’t present when people want the amount that quenches their natural hungers. It isn’t present when people objectively assess their needs and notice the needs of others. But, when people covet or want more than they need, the equation begins to form, and it pulls in the people who create the conflict and all others who directly participate or indirectly become involved.

The equation of conflict is built into some social networks, such as in religions and cultures. The religions and cultures that diminish the status of the “other” codify conflict, which then forces perpetual conflict on its members and believers.  Built-in conflict negates spiritual ascension so that practitioners of conflict-ridden religions and members of conflict-encouraged societies cannot have spiritual access—no matter how much they desire it. Only by rejecting the superiority espoused by their religion or social group can they achieve spiritual ascension.

The sources and circumstances of conflict—so many and so easily started! A person could admit defeat in trying to resolve conflict. Accepting conflict as being beyond change is short-sighted. Staying in continuous conflict is actually more effort than working to harmoniously coexist.

Sources of conflict pervade the human condition and they encourage destruction or repair, depending on each person’s viewpoint. Repair is the better choice.

Next section: “The Desire for Power

“…feelings of emasculation can cause withdrawal, depression, and desire for revenge.”

Previous section: “Feelings of Disappointment

Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 14-17:

Feelings of Emasculation

Relationships require validation of all the participants. The relationships, whether between two people or many nations, establish frameworks in which people can create their lives. Validation comes from feeling secure in the relationships.

The feeling of security is very important to men and women. It enables them to work towards common goals—goals that fulfill expectations and aspirations. When security is lacking in relationships, people experience conflict. They can also experience instability, fear, and abandonment. Insecurity in relationships, no matter the size of the relationships—in a marriage, in a business partnership, or in negotiations with comparably situated people (negotiations between businesses, organizations, or nations)—affects feelings particular to men.

Men who feel powerful in negotiations in which the other side(s) feels powerless, temporarily feel satisfied, but experience insecurity due to recognition that the “winning” brings with it the mistrust of the other side(s). For the “powerful”, the sense of domination creates an atmosphere of neverending control that must be maintained; otherwise, winning will be lost, and this responsibility to be powerful emasculates them through self-inflicted castigation. Winning appears to be the goal, but in actuality, winning places the powerful in a prison of neverending doubts and posturing.

Men who feel powerless in negotiations develop protective shells around themselves that allow them to acquiesce or rationalize their inability to prevail. These shells are helpful in handling loss, but they don’t alleviate feelings of emasculation. The feelings of emasculation can cause withdrawal, depression, and desire for revenge.

Powerlessness in negotiations destabilizes society, because all those affected are surrounded by its effects on the men. Whether the powerlessness produces withdrawal, depression, or desire for revenge, these feelings simmer inside and influence actions. Powerlessness can create large reprisals when men who desire revenge group together and allow the revenge rallying call to determine their actions. The need for revenge is strong for men.

Men who feel rejected, whether by society or by individual society members, react. Their reactions are self-critical, or incite self-examination, or inspire hatred, or distance them from others. The reactions to self-criticism because of rejection can differ from rejection to rejection, depending on the frequency of rejections and the support network of the man being rejected.

When the reactions to rejection are bewilderment and hurt, the reactions can intimidate some men and cause them to reduce connections to the hurtful sources of rejection. Bewilderment and hurt can also cause some men to examine social interactions, reassess the rejections, and use the rejections as lessons in life. Learning from rejection restores confident participation in relationships.

When the reactions to rejection are retreat and blame, men and women suffer. Men suffer more if they feel emasculated by the rejection. Feelings of reduced dignity or feelings of wronging one’s honor impact men differently, depending on character strength, past abuse from others, and feelings of superiority. The influences of societal expectations, judgment-altering catalysts (drugs [legal or illegal], alcohol, or overwhelming experiences of belittlement), or scruples sway a man towards—or away from—negative actions that trespass on others.

The sway towards harming others, be they people, animals, property or family, pushes actions that damage the others. The force of the sway towards harming others is strong, and it engulfs a man and takes over his reasoning capabilities. The strength of the force governs thoughts and overwhelms bodily weakness or intervention. The emasculated sense of self that has allowed the strength of the force towards negative action to take control over thoughts and justifies the feelings of emasculation, enables men to rape, over-damage, abuse, and ruin others.

The nature of men is NOT to do these things; the nature of destroyed sense of self creates the fantasy that men do these things. Men, no matter their testosterone, are NOT meant to harm; they are meant to create. Creating and building and exploring and challenging the body and mind are natural outlets for testosterone-driven men. Pillaging and abusing and oppressing and grandiosizing are the fantasies of men with destroyed sense of self.

The mix of rejection with feelings of superiority and disappointment is a powerful mix for contempt. Comfort in connections prevents emasculated thinking. Insecurity in relationships brings it forth.

Next section: “The Equation of Conflict

“Disappointment can be a strong emotion, and it intensifies feelings of contempt and the possibility of conflict.”

Previous section: “Feelings of Inequity

Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 12-14:

Feelings of Disappointment

Disappointment is a feeling that afflicts from an early age, and no one is immune from its appearance. The growth process is accelerated when people work through feelings of disappointment. It is not a negative emotion when it is a catalyst for appreciation and adaptation.

Sometimes, disappointment is an accelerator of despair. Disappointment with despair is more difficult to overcome, but when they have been faced and handled, the growth process continues. When they are not handled, the disappointment can underlie future responses to ordinary happenings. When despair is mixed with feelings of inequity and with inaction to change the situation, the feelings of disappointment can increase the likelihood of conflicts.

Disappointment on its own lowers vigor. When  disappointment is accompanied by feelings of inequity, of violation, or of injury, desire for revenge or sabotage can foment.

Disappointment at the group level (two or more people), which comes from the feeling of having received unfair treatment, waits for a trigger that will either direct towards dismissal of the urge to act (restraint) or release restraint towards action (positive or negative). The release of restraint can unite group members or create disunity, because each group member experiences disappointment differently.

Disappointment can also be an accelerator of demoralization. When this situation happens, the strength of disappointment overcomes surety of self and challenges courage. Courage is needed when envisioning possible disasters and when immersed in challenging feats. Disappointment dampens courage, and then when courage is needed, it (courage) is less commanding.

The other contributors to conflict—feelings of superiority, feelings of inequity, and feelings of emasculation—are intensified when disappointment accelerates feelings of despair or demoralization. Disappointment can be a strong emotion, and it intensifies feelings of contempt and the possibility of conflict.

Next section: “Feelings of Emasculation

“In negotiations in which businesses use unethical tactics or withhold information, the offending side brings inequity into the negotiations.”

Previous section: “Superiority Because of Religion and Race, Superiority in Societies

Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 9-12:

Feelings of Inequity

Fairness is elusive. Nature is wide in its distribution of resources, and fairness is unrelated. Difference is the key. Nature is about differences infinitely dispersed. No two are quite the same.

Differences are physical and intangible. Within the physical manifestations are nuances and subtleties. Within the intangible characteristics are emotional ranges, instinctive differences, intellectual capacities, awareness of natural order, and survival positioning.

The rhythms in nature are the providers of fairness. As the days roll one into another and the seasons instill movement of time, the living experience the rhythms together. From the tiniest elements to complex humans, all feel the rhythms. Fairness is in the togetherness.

In each person are a call for togetherness and a call for investment. The investment requires preserving self-interest and desiring closeness given by others. Innate awareness and activation of attachment reactions drive each person to connect and protect.

Morés and group behaviors affect the innate attachment reactions and introduce skewed expectations for societal position, close attachments, and intuitive evaluations. The skewed thinking is learned and ingrained, and is then reflected in thinking and behaviors.

Within individual family units and communal groups, relationships develop and end. The larger units–towns, subdivisions, and areas connected by loyalties–contain the family units and communal groups, and they change opportunities for attachments. Each relationship and attachment presents hopes, expectations, and reactions. Each relationship and attachment has the possibilities of closeness and skewed evaluation. Each relationship and attachment reflects ingrained thinking and natural responses. Innate and learned behaviors intertwine.

The natural inclination is to expect differences in others. The learned misinterpretation is to expect fairness. Just as superiority is learned and inculcated in people, so too is the expectation of fairness.

Fairness is often expected in everything: fairness in distribution of attention in relationships, fairness in access to solutions, fairness in competitions, fairness in natural conditions (weather and resources), and fairness in efforts towards well-being.

Parents are expected to treat their children “fairly”. The price charged for a service is expected to be “fair”. Less fairness is expected in societies where wealth is unethically distributed. Fairness is not expected, nor is it hoped for, when governing forces repress some. This effect is created in societies that support slavery, religious self-righteousness, and caste systems. Less fairness is also expected in societies that ennoble power, buildings, or might.

Conflict is aroused when inequality becomes too difficult to maintain, or when those with “less” force change.

Within a family, conflict erupts over the inability to be fair. Family members perceive treatment from different vantage points, and inequality seethes in the relationships. The feelings of inequity can lead to divorce, estrangement, miscommunication, or self-harm. Feelings of inequity are family-fracturing.

Within schools, feelings of inequity can abound. Administrators who establish blatant inequality among staff, drive mistrust and jealousy into the school. School board members sometimes have their positions because of unethically distributed wealth, and they force inequity through their voting rights. Students increase feelings of inequity when they have superiority in their upbringing. Classrooms, which are headed by teachers who allow their personal preferences for students to affect their work, are places where conflict can breed.

Within businesses, inequity naturally exists because of ownership privileges (although mistreatment of employees should not be condoned). Departmental inequity that is encouraged by upper management is mismanagement. Departmental inequity that is created within departments is pernicious.

Negotiations between businesses exude self-interest. Focus on own-ness is natural and is expected. In negotiations in which businesses use unethical tactics or withhold information, the offending side brings inequity into the negotiations. The results will be distancing and will be destabilizing to society. The results will extend beyond the individual businesses negotiating.

Feelings of inequity surface in citizens of countries beset by government officials who covet the imagined riches of other countries. Imagined, for reality is fraught with hardships unseen. When the governing officials have instilled in their citizens feelings of covetousness and inequity, the view towards other countries will be skewed. Skewed appreciation of one’s own reality can lead to conflicts with those imagined to have a more desirable reality. The conflicts can lead to injustices and armed conflict.

Next section: “Feelings of Disappointment”

“…the sense of superiority feeds conflicts among families, communities, regions, and nations.”

Previous section: Contempt Multiplying into Conflict, Feelings of Superiority

Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 6-9:

Superiority Because of Religion

Many paths of elevation are available and desirable for reaching connection with God. Solitary prayer unites divinity with creation for the moments the connection is true. Prayer in groups unites divinity with creation for elevated connection when the connection is sincere. Both solitary prayer and grouped prayer are paths to God.

Grouped prayers, which are developed into set pronouncements with set movements, remove creativity in building spiritual connection, but encourage human connection. Repetition of “scripts” and routine observances enable feelings of human connection that transcend death. This connection can bind the living with the dead who preceded them, and bind the living with future generations.

Grouped prayer connects the people who accept the group’s observances and concept of divinity. Acceptance offers approach to God, scripts that guide the approach, and visions to ponder Almighty: the majestic energy that connects all.

Sincere dedication to life lived with awareness of connection to God is realistic. The connection focuses and elevates daily living.

Dedication to the grouped approach to God—to the religion—is dedication missing the meaning. Religion is an accessway for connecting to God; it is not the destination. Elevating the religion, rather than the divine connection, disconnects people from God. Religions are approaches, they are not possessions to be coveted or aggrandized. They do not need to be compared or debated.

Superiority is not a word to describe a religion. No religion that is based on the connection with God is better than any other. Feeling superior because of religious affiliation lessens the beauty of the religion.

Religious superiority is the most destructive belief of all. No religious group has closer connection to God than any other. No group!

Superiority Because of Race

Condescension because of race is irrational. Belittling others because of race is weak. Generalizing about race is uninformed. Thinking disparaging thoughts about other races is contemptuous.

Superiority because of the foolish thinking that race has influence on value is deluded. No race is superior to any other. Race is variations of people. No more, no less.

Superiority in Societies

Feeling superior can be intricate, based on all the causes set out above, or it can be single-cause—no matter, the sense of superiority is there. It affects all relationships and all interactions.

Societal sense of superiority, like individual sense of superiority, is learned. The entire society can feel superior, as in an overinflated opinion of race or nationality, or it can be bestowed upon members of society who are treated “better” because of gender, physical appearance, financial power, athletic prowess, and other factors like fashion taste or musical/artistic abilities.

Superiority infuses society with discontent and entitlement. Superiority brings envy and distancing. Each individual builds the societal sense of superiority with internal feelings of being better than others, or by accepting the societal definitions of superior race or gender, or having subservient expectations.

The sense of superiority is distancing and clouds judgment when interacting with others. The sense of superiority tarnishes dialogue and creates contempt. As people distance, misjudge and condescend, they define a society that is uncaring and disconnected. Such a society cannot nurture its members or provide empathy.

Societal superiority affects external events. For example, natural disasters that would be handled by the affected group in a communal manner descend into further disaster because of conflicts among the group members. The more ingrained the feelings of superiority, the less the desire to help others. Disaster relief that should be inclusive is not. Those with more, be it real or perceived, dismiss the troubles of the people whom they disdain. Contempt thwarts relief efforts and distances people further.

When combined with the other causes of contempt, the sense of superiority feeds conflicts among families, communities, regions, and nations. The sense of superiority is very insidious.

Next section: “Feelings of Inequity

“All people are similar, and yet, there are some who consider themselves superior.”

Previous section: “Introduction

Today’s section from Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, pp. 3-5:

Contempt Multiplying into Conflict

CONFLICT has many sources of support. The sources feed conflict when they are elevated beyond control. Each conflict source contributes to contemptuous behavior or to deliberate indifference. Each conflict has its specific sources and unique circumstances. Nonetheless, there are similarities among conflicts.

Contempt is built through feelings of superiority, feelings of inequity, feelings of disappointment, and feelings of emasculation. Each of these destructive feelings will be explored and their contributions to conflict considered.

Feelings of Superiority

The feeling of superiority is a strange phenomenon. All people are similar, and yet, there are some who consider themselves superior. These people believe that race membership, financial status, gender affiliation, nationality, religion, and/or education entitle them to raised social status. Physical attractiveness, athletic prowess, and fashion taste are other factors in people acting superior.

Superiority by Nationality

Superiority by nationality is the viewing of other nationalities in a condescending way. Feeling better than everyone who lives outside one’s own country is a sense of superiority that is confrontational behavior and enemy building.

Geographical reality creates differences among countries, because some countries are situated with enviable conditions and resources that inspire jealousy or resentment. A country possessing enviable conditions and resources often maintains citizens who feel entitled to their reality and are possessive of it. Adjacent countries may have conditions and resources that are also deserving of pride, but the other country’s richness seems desirous, and so, the citizens of the adjacent countries may feel resentful or covetous. The clash of entitlement and resentment can lead to rivalries, racism, and wars.

Superiority by nationality describes relationships among countries, but it can also describe relationships among areas within a country, towns within a province, neighborhoods within a city, and loyalty to schools or universities. At each level, the location, historical development, and geographical reality affect how citizens see their environment and the environments of those who inhabit rival territories. Those who feel they have more behave differently from those who feel deprived. Each side can feel superior and relate to the other as less than them. The feelings of superiority at the local and inner-country levels can lead to rivalries, treachery, and self-destruction.

Superiority Because of Gender

Superiority by consideration of one’s sex as better creates conflict within society at the family level, within neighborhoods and religions, and in nations. Gender superiority is often inculcated from an early age, so that belief in one’s gender superiority is very deep.

Contempt towards “inferiors” develops more easily in those with a sense of gender superiority.

Superiority Learned from Childhood

Superiority is a learned behavior. A child is self-interested, because he has his own concerns that consume his attention. This behavior is inborn. The child focuses on himself, not from a sense of superiority, but from the need to survive.

The child encounters others with curiosity, joy, and fear. When a caregiver over-elevates the child’s sense of himself, encounters with others have lessened curiosity, joy, and fear and more expectations of subservience (by the others).

Internal sense of superiority develops from a young age and can be based on gender, race, physical appearance, and attitude. Later come superiority based on religion, social standing, intelligence, and financial status. Subservient behavior by others and athletic prowess can increase the sense of superiority.

Next section: “Superiority Because of Religion and Race, Superiority in Societies

“Within a man are powerful forces of fearlessness and faithfulness.”

Of all the spiritual wisdom I have received, the wisdom for the book Descending into War, Descending into Contempt was the most difficult to receive. I put this book off for several years, because I didn’t want to ask the questions that would take me to the wisdom.

I’ve decided to share the book in its entirety because I think it provides useful information for us to understand the actions of people. Each post will contain a section from the book.

Descending into War, Descending into Contempt

Spiritual sharing about human behavior that is misunderstood

This book is dedicated to peacemakers
who live with awareness of true
human nature in their hearts.

The peacemakers know that 
war and contempt are the 
confused sides of
humankind.

Introduction

DESCENT into war is the visible manifestation of the struggles felt by men. Within a man are powerful forces of fearlessness and faithfulness. These forces push towards action when the family or loved society is threatened or harmed. Deep, devoted love can lead to horrific acts that are delivered in order to protect loved ones or revenge their harm.

This ability to inflict destruction in order to protect can be misunderstood, and can then be used for the sake of the harm. Internal rage can develop unchecked, which erupts into violence or contemptuous behavior. The violent behavior is unnatural, but it feeds on natural emotions and past experiences.

War is always a descent. It is never a positive choice. Contempt, too, is always a descent. It brings only negativity and misguided thinking and actions.

Contempt summons from a place within: a negative place that is created after birth, not part of the original emotions and the opposite of natural human expression. It materializes when feelings of disappointment, envy, superiority, rejection, and resentment combine to disturb thinking and the building of opinions. Contempt has no societal value. It destroys relationships and negotiations.

Contempt—that which stays unspoken and that which erupts into action—when allowed to mix with laws, regulations, and edicts, putrefies daily comings-and-goings and deliberations for future legislation. The members of society who create legislation that sanctions contempt and determine to continue contemptible frameworks for their society, lower their society’s true potential.

The mix of disappointment, envy, rejection, resentment, and superior behavior permeates people’s actions and derails them from living contentedly. Without contented living, the interactions between people are blinded by misconceptions and prejudices. Contented living is impossible when contempt is felt for others. Negativity echoes loudly, reverberating from generation to generation, creating chaos and destroying opportunities.

Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, the last book in the Existence-Me Elevated Living book series, is presented to us from Spirit for loving reasons. All the wisdom presented in the book series shows love from Spirit in the information that is shared with us. Each word has been deciphered by me, but the words belong to Spirit. The sharing is help for us to create a contempt-free world.

The ascent to cooperation feels difficult, but it is the optimal goal. Partnering with Spirit to create wise living is available. Read the books and create soulful, balanced lives!

Next section: Contempt Multiplying into Conflict, Feelings of Superiority

Handling lack of focus

Modern living is very distracting. Here are tips for developing attention capabilities and maintaining focus from the book Vitality!— How to Create a Life That Is Healthy.

  • Drink a glass of water upon rising each morning.
  • Eat a proper breakfast before school or work (most breakfast cereals, chocolate milk, and quick snack foods do not count as proper breakfast foods).
  • Plan movement into every day: walking, dancing, biking, swimming, running, jumping, skipping, etc.
  • Take frequent breaks from watching TV, from working and playing on a computer or mobile device, and from prolonged viewing of yourself in mirrors.
  • Take part in activities that better other people, the environment, and animals.
  • Take part in housecleaning, home plant care, outdoor home care, etc.
  • Emulate people you admire. If any of these people are deceased, read about them and learn how they lived their days. If any of these people are known to you, talk to them about how they stay focused. If any of these people are alive but you don’t actually know them, consider why you admire them, think about their positive aspects, and then aim to personalize these positive aspects.
  • If there are people who are dependent on you, consider your importance to them and aim to be a person they can admire.
  • Observe nature every day, even if there is only a single plant near your home. The more you observe nature, the more your attention and focus skills will develop.
  • Challenge yourself through reading, puzzles, riddles, learning to play a musical instrument, or learning to enjoy something that originally appeared to be boring.

Note: This information has been spiritually received and is taken from the book Vitality!— How to Create a Life That Is Healthy, available on amazon.com

Handling stress and negativity

Stress and negativity cause significant imbalances in our health. The book Vitality!— How to Create a Life That Is Healthy offers general tips for handling them.

De-stressing stress

If you feel stress and you want to let this feeling go, your mind must move to other things. To de-stress, do one or more of these activities:

  • Drink a glass of water.
  • Prepare a comforting food that is also nutritious.
  • Think of a way to make another person happy, and then either do it immediately or make a concrete plan to do it.
  • Call a person who lifts your spirits.
  • Go outside, look at the sky, and think about expansiveness.

Protecting yourself from negativity

Negativity creates imbalance. It can come from external and internal sources.  External negativity comes from other people who think ill thoughts about you. Internal negativity has many causes, such as internalization of negative messages from past caregivers or personal feelings of inability to handle tasks. You can spiritually protect yourself from internal negative thinking and external harmful thoughts.

Protecting yourself from internal negativity

Do one or more of these activities whenever you feel critical or unhappy with yourself:

  • Notice the physical state of your body and force yourself to notice all the systems that work properly (blood is flowing, lungs are working, etc.).
  • Breathe normally and then hold your breath for a moment. Make a laughing sound and then return to breathing normally.
  • Knock yourself on your head (not hard) and say aloud “People certainly are interesting.”

Protecting yourself from external negativity

  1. Either stand or sit in an erect manner.
  2. Locate your solar plexus and breathe to and from it for ten breaths.
  3. Think about a gaseous substance exiting your body from the solar plexus that protects your body. Think about this gas first covering the front of your body, then the sides, and then the back. Take your time, making sure your entire body is protected.
  4. Breathe to and from your solar plexus for five breaths.

    This protection technique can be done any time you will be encountering people that you think might be thinking negative thoughts about you. There is no need to do this technique more than once a day.

Note: This information has been spiritually received and is taken from the book Vitality!— How to Create a Life That Is Healthy, available on amazon.com

A poem about the passage of time

Here’s a poem about time from
Connection—A Collection of Wisdom Poetry.
This book of poetry is available at: http://amzn.com/1511788259

Poem-changing clock

 

Appreciating Water

The ability of water to be many things—to be nourishing, to be destructive, to be overwhelmingly beautiful and frightening, to be cleansing, and to be soothing—elevates the value of water. Here is a list of ways to appreciate the wonder of water.

  • Visit places with water: beaches, lakes, rivers, ponds, watering holes. Looking at the water and sensing its wonder is enough.
  • From time to time when you drink water, think about its life-sustaining ability and be grateful.
  • When you wash your hands, feel the water and think about the conveniences of life today. Breathe deeply and remember to be grateful.
  • Appreciate the cleansing ability of water and show your appreciation by not overusing it. Even if you live in an area with adequate or abundant rainfall, use water judiciously. This suggestion includes bathing and showering. Enjoy bathing and showering, but use the water judiciously.
  • When you hear rain, let the sound soothe. When you see rain, let the sight cause gratitude. When you feel rain, don’t rush to cover up. The rain on your skin and hair is soulful cleansing.
  • Never curse the rain, even if it “ruins” your event. Your event is much smaller than rain on the grander scale of life.
  • Let the sounds of water into your life. Listening to recordings of waterfalls and other water sounds can be balancing and healing.
  • Walking in puddles is releasing and entertaining. There is a reason that young children enjoy puddle play. They understand the joy of natural pleasures. If you are the parent or caregiver of a young child, allow jumping in puddles! You should join in! (Later, you can use water to clean.)

Note: This information is taken from the book Vitality!— How to Create a Life That Is Healthy., available on amazon.com

Taking a break for now

I started this blog in September 2013 as a way to introduce people to Energy Guidance Complete. Since then, I’ve shared the information I receive from Spirit, hoping that others would recognize the wisdom as I have. Although Spirit wants me to share more, I feel that we’ve covered so many important issues and I’m ready to take a break. From time to time, I’ll share more information if Spirit pushes me to do so. I’m finishing a book titled Love Leads the Way, which will be out in the beginning of 2021. I’ll write a post when it’s published.

I’ll leave you with links to topics that I think are extremely important and worth considering:

Screen! My beloved screen! about addiction to smartphones and computers

Posts about attention deficit disorders: Attention Deficit category (“Deficit disorders are deficits in societies, not in individual people.”)

Race is variations of people. No more, no less.

??Fuck Cancer!!

Prevention of poor health–>Stop the causes!

Posture–so much more important that people think!

Sleep and its issues

The importance of delight

Spending the effort on Your health

Loneliness is complicated

Children’s most important need

The health effects of the latest technologies We can’t say that we haven’t been warned.

Who or What is God?

**Living with vitality during coronavirus!!

During this difficult time of the pandemic, it is often hard to muster energy to be productive and optimistic. Many of us have lost focus or are too busy being cautious to live life fully.  Even before the pandemic, there were so many distractions that kept us from living fully and with vitality. 

What does it mean to live with vitality?  V-i-t-a-l-i-t-y! is living life in a rich sense of being. Living life with gusto and with verve. Living life with emotion—feeling the fullness of each moment as it passes into the past.

How can we live with vitality while dealing with the suffering and uncertainty of the pandemic? Here are ideas to add vitality to your daily life:

  • As much as possible, add the elements that raise your spirits. For me, it’s listening to music that makes me want to dance. Without the music, I move more slowly and procrastinate. With the music, my energy flows and pushes me to accomplish tasks and goals.
  • Eat foods that give your body energy and nourishment. Stay away from tempting foods that actually drain your energy and force your body to work harder. (Limit sugary, deep-fried, and over-processed foods.)
  • Connect to the outdoors as much as possible. If your living situation prevents you from walking far from home, take time to stand outside your door and look at the sky. The outdoors will give you energy and vitality.
  • Clean and organize your living space. The act of caring for your surroundings will give you energy if you approach the work as a special project.
  • During difficult times, be sure to breathe deeply and fill your body with oxygen. The oxygen will help your brain function and your immune system gather its forces.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

Coronavirus Information

The virus that has upended countries around the world, known by the names coronavirus and COVID-19, is many things:

  • It is a blight on society.
  • It is a relationship blockage.
  • It is a leveler of humanity.
  • It is powerful.

Coronavirus attacks people who allow it access (not intentionally). It passes by those who are grounded. What does that mean?

Grounded people are those who have genetic tendency towards strong defenses, have developed powerful immune systems, or have personalities that are resolute.

People who unintentionally allow access are those who have genetic tendency towards ineffectual defenses (physical or mental), who have diseases that inhibit proper functioning of the immune system (like cancer, asthma, or alcoholic liver disease), who are out of balance with food consumption (overeat or under eat to excess [obesity, anorexia, bulimia, etc.]), who are at crisis emotionally or mentally, who are sleep deprived, who have chronic illnesses (like diabetes, respiratory illness, inflammatory bowel disease, chronic over-medicalization, or chronic pancreatis), or who are malnourished.

Age is a factor when people are afflicted with the issues described above or suffer from immobility or emotional upheaval.

To increase the likelihood that coronavirus passes you by and doesn’t attack:

  • Eat foods that are nutritious. No junk food and minimal processed foods.
  • Take steps to stay connected to people without compromising health.
  • Nighttime sleep is very important. Make sure to allow time for a full night’s sleep, and if you have trouble sleeping, lie in bed with your eyes closed. Don’t look at a phone or any screen, not even for a minute.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

Tip: If you would like guidance on nutritious eating, read The Food 20/20 Plan. If you would like to learn an exercise routine to do at home, read Soul and Body Exercise: The ECG Daily Exercise Routine.

Personal note: A friend thinks that some people who read this post will feel guilty about their lifestyle choices and decisions. This post isn’t meant to assign guilt. It is presented to help people determine how much they need to protect themselves from the coronavirus.

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