“War, displacement, societal upheaval, familial upheaval, accidents that result in maiming or impaired mental functioning, and natural disasters—these events drastically affect health. Some people survive these events with perception and sense of self intact; most people do not. The normal responses to difficult events are grief, blame, withdrawal, or incapacitation. To survive unscathed is unusual; to be weak, unpredictable, suspicious, fearful, hurt, sad, cautious, blameful, indecisive, or angry is expected. Minor changes to reality can be unsettling and can cause many of the same reactions. Few people are unaffected by the ebbs of life.” – from Pond a Connected Existence
Expectations of no problems in life are expectations incorrect. Life presents struggles and challenges because that is the nature of life.
Expectations of ease and fun are expectations misleading. Ease and fun can be part of life, but they are not to be expected, rather to be cherished.
Approaching the ebbs of life with creativity and courage brings growth and understanding. Taking the storms and seeing beyond them brings appreciation and satisfaction.
Sometimes it is easier to give up than to fight for, aim for or live for. Giving up is one way to determine, but it is also a way to destroy. Both results can occur when a person gives up—be it fighting for a cause or fighting for continued life. Giving up determines that efforts will stop and that future possibilities are destroyed.
Yes, people need to know when a struggle is not possible, but not before they attempt and attempt again and try anew. Acknowledging defeat causes lowered balance in the body, lowered resistance, lowered opinion of oneself, lowered attempts at other things, lowered connections to other people, lowered connections to spiritual support, lowered enjoyment of pleasures, lowered sharing of experiences, lowered interest in oneself (less love for oneself), and lowered performance.
In cases where many attempts have been made yet nothing changes, people must be realistic and acknowledge reality. Fighting a terminal disease is a fight or a task. When it is a fight, it is all-consuming. When it is a task, it is part of one’s life, but not the whole life.
Life is much bigger than the disease or the lost cause or the forsaken dream. Each of these “challenges” is part of the picture that is life. Part, not all—not even a large part, just a part. The real challenge is to live fully while experiencing the painful and exhausting segments of existence.
Living with vitality and with determination. Yes, these forces of a directed life can bring purposeful and sustaining living!