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The empty feeling of conflict

When an argument has ensued or a longstanding feud has been fueled, the accompanying feelings of energy, anger, or assault are actual expressions of EMPTY functioning.

We people are powered by creativity, not by dispute. Yes it seems that disputes produce enormous amounts of energy, but in the spiritual realm the disputes produce emptiness and fragmentation.

For people, the emptiness seeps into the psyche and distorts proper behavior. Rather than extend kindness, people build stumbling blocks.

It’s important to understand that conflict is as a virus, infecting and spreading a horrific disease.

For information about conflict, read Descending into War, Descending into Contempt.

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Generalizations about cheaters


The scandal about the company that enables cheating behavior to advance to universities of repute has pushed me to ask Spirit about cheating. I was curious if there are consequences to cheating, and I was fascinated to learn that there are generalizations about people who cheat. Here are five generalizations about the effects of cheating on people. For people who live in repressive societies, cheating is often necessary in order to live an authentic life, so those societies are not considered in this post.

Generalization #1:  Cheating causes emotional illness.

People who cheat create openings for emotional instability to fester and have greater doubts about themselves. Cheating is a gnawing experience that cannot be rationalized.

Generalization #2:  Cheating is justified by those who cheat, but it is never justified in the spiritual realm.

People who cheat will seek justifications for their actions, but their spiritual selves know the truth. Cheating distances from spiritual connection, and it damages spiritual fulfillment.

Generalization #3:  Cheating can be alienating.

People who cheat have different relationships than people who don’t. In general, people who cheat are more suspicious of others.

Generalization #4:  Cheating can be physically challenging.

People who cheat often feel pains that have inexplicable causes. The pains come from guilt.

Generalization #5:  Cheating has tentacles into generations.

People who cheat have personality changes that affect how they interact with their children. The children aren’t destined to be cheaters, but the altered behavior of the parents affects them negatively.

Can cheating behavior in the past be pardoned?

The effects of cheating can be lessened by committing to a life of helpful existence: helping others, helping the environment, and helping the community. Through helpful existence, past cheating behavior will have less harmful effects on the people and their children.

Note: This information comes from the spiritual realm. It is important.

Causes of antisemitism


Antisemitism has been around a long time and I want to know why. I’m asking Spirit for an explanation, and here it comes:

Antisemitism is connected to lack of order. The nature of people includes desire for order. All people crave structure and patterns, even people who think they don’t.

The nature of the Jewish religion is structure. It is a religion that builds on structure, and more structure. The people who live within its rules and regulations become intertwined with the rules, and they strengthen through its order-giving vitality. The rules bond and envelop so that the ancestors bind with the living generation, and traditions live in each current phase of Jewish existence. Judaism is a religion that structures itself into a way of excluding others who are less structured.

The demands of this rigorous religion baffle people of other religions whose living is less structured or has rules that question the Jewish nature of being. This bafflement can be shifted into disdain or hatred when desires for power or status are present.  The transformation from a neutral position (bafflement) to a negative position (disdain or hatred) is filled with moments of grievances that arise from real or invented offenses. The grievances are attributed to the Jewish religion, and they become synonymous with Judaism. The breadth of negative feelings towards Jewish people is influenced by local events and superstitions.

When power and status are desired by leaders, they rely on weakness of others to give them position. When power and status are desired by individual people, they sometimes turn to weakness of others or fear of others to propel their actions. This process of acquiring power and status can cause antisemitic indoctrination by those who see antisemitism as a tool to succeed.

Jewish people who strive for power and status will often use their natural connections to push their advancement. Their actions are natural for their perspective as intertwined brethren. Other people who see this Jewish connectivity do not understand it, and additional grievances can be developed.

Antisemitism exists in societies that are not connected to one another, and it is an amorphous growth. Pockets of hatred or dislike foment when societies are experiencing change and disruptions. The widening of the hatred and dislike occur when societies erupt in confusion and ineptitude.

Throughout history in societies where Jewish people have lived, the other peoples who have experienced confusion, disruptions and troubles from power seekers, want order and structure, and they turn to the Jewish people to foot their troubles. Sometimes their approach towards the Jews is positive and sometimes it is destructive.

Destructive viewing of Jewish people is a sign of dissatisfaction with ones’ own way of being. Satisfaction with oneself would lead to acceptance of Jewish people and of others who are different.

This answer is not complete (and it was a bit hard for me to work out), but it is worth pondering. It doesn’t address antisemitism in places of extreme assimilation, but perhaps it does indirectly. If anyone wants me to ask more about antisemitism, let me know your questions.

Do violent video games cause violent behavior?


There have been studies that try to answer this question, and the answers have been contradictory. Some say Yes, the violent video games contribute to violent behavior and some say No, they don’t. It’s time to ask the authority–>Spirit.

Spirit says:

Stop studying this problem and face it. Exposure to violence triggers changes in thinking, and often, in behavior. Witnessing violence through the senses–through the eyes and ears and touch of the body–creates changes in thought patterns. Watching a violent movie that affects the eyes and ears can challenge thinking, but the added component of touch–the touch of the hands and fingers and possibly the rest of the body as it “enters” the game–directly affects thinking. The more violent the game, the more changed the thinking. Violent video games are misguided entertainment that should be stopped!

The makers of violent video games won’t want to hear this answer, but there it is.


Superiority Because of Race

Not long ago, I received wisdom about the sense of superiority. The posts about superiority discussed gender, religion, and nationality; however, race was alluded to but not specifically addressed.

Here is Spirit’s judgement about superiority and race:

Condescension because of race is irrational. Belittling because of race is weak. Generalizing about race is uninformed. Thinking disparaging thoughts about other races is contemptuous.

Superiority because of the foolish thinking that race has influence on value is deluded. No race is superior to any other. Race is variations of people. No more, no less.

Superiority is discussed in detail in my upcoming book, Descending into War, Descending into Contempt.

The two-headed side of hate

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Picture a two-headed creature with the heads facing one another. Each head has a nose, eyes, ears, and mouth. Each head has its own brain and reasoning. The heads are connected to the same body so that the heart that beats for one beats for the other. The heads share needs and oxygen.

The hate-filled, turning at each other in Charlottesville, Virginia was a hate expression. It was not unique, but it was introductory to the coming conflict. This conflict reminds the present of past mistakes, but gathers anew the actions of aggression.

The body is one but the heads are two, and one has bared its teeth and the other is offended and defensive. This unaccepting coexistence damages the heads and confuses the body.

The Charlottesville negativity is one of many in the world–all two-headed creatures blowing hate. The world holds these creatures with all the gifts the world has to give. How much better for the creatures if they would focus on the gifts.

Note: I asked Spirit about the events in Charlottesville and this blog post shares the answer.

The Haters


Some people look at others and their achievements with jealousy and superiority in their thoughts. These failure-wishers write disparaging comments on Facebook, Twitter, and other social media. Rather than focus on themselves and their own achievements, they choose to undercut the leaders, the risk takers, and the visionaries.

The haters feel they have a right to deride and they often do it with great enthusiasm. The result is to hurt the enthusiasm and drive of the achievers.

Spirit wants me to be very clear about the haters:

The haters dislike themselves and pass their self-loathing onto others. The haters do not have a “right” to spew hatred. They also do not have a “right” to be cruel.

Haters strive to hurt. They should strive to develop themselves instead.

Haters should not be supported.  They should be ignored and their words should be considered as worthless.

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