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“Within a man are powerful forces of fearlessness and faithfulness.”

Of all the spiritual wisdom I have received, the wisdom for the book Descending into War, Descending into Contempt was the most difficult to receive. I put this book off for several years, because I didn’t want to ask the questions that would take me to the wisdom.

I’ve decided to share the book in its entirety because I think it provides useful information for us to understand the actions of people. Each post will contain a section from the book.

Descending into War, Descending into Contempt

Spiritual sharing about human behavior that is misunderstood

This book is dedicated to peacemakers
who live with awareness of true
human nature in their hearts.

The peacemakers know that 
war and contempt are the 
confused sides of
humankind.

Introduction

DESCENT into war is the visible manifestation of the struggles felt by men. Within a man are powerful forces of fearlessness and faithfulness. These forces push towards action when the family or loved society is threatened or harmed. Deep, devoted love can lead to horrific acts that are delivered in order to protect loved ones or revenge their harm.

This ability to inflict destruction in order to protect can be misunderstood, and can then be used for the sake of the harm. Internal rage can develop unchecked, which erupts into violence or contemptuous behavior. The violent behavior is unnatural, but it feeds on natural emotions and past experiences.

War is always a descent. It is never a positive choice. Contempt, too, is always a descent. It brings only negativity and misguided thinking and actions.

Contempt summons from a place within: a negative place that is created after birth, not part of the original emotions and the opposite of natural human expression. It materializes when feelings of disappointment, envy, superiority, rejection, and resentment combine to disturb thinking and the building of opinions. Contempt has no societal value. It destroys relationships and negotiations.

Contempt—that which stays unspoken and that which erupts into action—when allowed to mix with laws, regulations, and edicts, putrefies daily comings-and-goings and deliberations for future legislation. The members of society who create legislation that sanctions contempt and determine to continue contemptible frameworks for their society, lower their society’s true potential.

The mix of disappointment, envy, rejection, resentment, and superior behavior permeates people’s actions and derails them from living contentedly. Without contented living, the interactions between people are blinded by misconceptions and prejudices. Contented living is impossible when contempt is felt for others. Negativity echoes loudly, reverberating from generation to generation, creating chaos and destroying opportunities.

Descending into War, Descending into Contempt, the last book in the Existence-Me Elevated Living book series, is presented to us from Spirit for loving reasons. All the wisdom presented in the book series shows love from Spirit in the information that is shared with us. Each word has been deciphered by me, but the words belong to Spirit. The sharing is help for us to create a contempt-free world.

The ascent to cooperation feels difficult, but it is the optimal goal. Partnering with Spirit to create wise living is available. Read the books and create soulful, balanced lives!

Next section: “Contempt Multiplying into Conflict”

Handling stress and negativity

Stress and negativity cause significant imbalances in our health. The book Vitality!— How to Create a Life That Is Healthy offers general tips for handling them.

De-stressing stress

If you feel stress and you want to let this feeling go, your mind must move to other things. To de-stress, do one or more of these activities:

  • Drink a glass of water.
  • Prepare a comforting food that is also nutritious.
  • Think of a way to make another person happy, and then either do it immediately or make a concrete plan to do it.
  • Call a person who lifts your spirits.
  • Go outside, look at the sky, and think about expansiveness.

Protecting yourself from negativity

Negativity creates imbalance. It can come from external and internal sources.  External negativity comes from other people who think ill thoughts about you. Internal negativity has many causes, such as internalization of negative messages from past caregivers or personal feelings of inability to handle tasks. You can spiritually protect yourself from internal negative thinking and external harmful thoughts.

Protecting yourself from internal negativity

Do one or more of these activities whenever you feel critical or unhappy with yourself:

  • Notice the physical state of your body and force yourself to notice all the systems that work properly (blood is flowing, lungs are working, etc.).
  • Breathe normally and then hold your breath for a moment. Make a laughing sound and then return to breathing normally.
  • Knock yourself on your head (not hard) and say aloud “People certainly are interesting.”

Protecting yourself from external negativity

  1. Either stand or sit in an erect manner.
  2. Locate your solar plexus and breathe to and from it for ten breaths.
  3. Think about a gaseous substance exiting your body from the solar plexus that protects your body. Think about this gas first covering the front of your body, then the sides, and then the back. Take your time, making sure your entire body is protected.
  4. Breathe to and from your solar plexus for five breaths.

    This protection technique can be done any time you will be encountering people that you think might be thinking negative thoughts about you. There is no need to do this technique more than once a day.

Note: This information has been spiritually received and is taken from the book Vitality!— How to Create a Life That Is Healthy, available on amazon.com

Race is variations of people. No more, no less.

Because of the racial distress happening in the United States now, I’m reposting Spiritual Position on race as set forth in the book Descending into War, Descending into Contempt.

Condescension because of race is irrational. Belittling because of race is weak. Generalizing about race is uninformed. Thinking disparaging thoughts about other races is contemptuous.

Superiority because of the foolish thinking that race has influence on value is deluded. No race is superior to any other. Race is variations of people. No more, no less.

Descending into War, Descending into Contempt explains the main causes of conflict, which are the feelings of superiority, inequity, disappointment, and emasculation. These disruptive feelings push people to act with contempt towards others. They incite actions that end connections and lead to conflicts that often seem insurmountable.

Conflict seems to exist everywhere. Racial tensions divide, political opponents battle, and religious groups are combative. Even connected and supportive relationships fester in conflict. The sources of conflict are many, and they impact together and individually to inflict negativity within families, communities, and nations.

Acknowledging the sources of conflict is the first step to stopping conflict.

Although the topics of conflict, war, and contempt are difficult and often disheartening, Descending into War, Descending into Contempt ends with wisdom and instructions that can lead to a more just society.

This book is available in paperback and Kindle. Click here for the paperback. Click here for the Kindle edition.

The empty feeling of conflict

When an argument has ensued or a longstanding feud has been fueled, the accompanying feelings of energy, anger, or assault are actual expressions of EMPTY functioning.

We people are powered by creativity, not by dispute. Yes it seems that disputes produce enormous amounts of energy, but in the spiritual realm the disputes produce emptiness and fragmentation.

For people, the emptiness seeps into the psyche and distorts proper behavior. Rather than extend kindness, people build stumbling blocks.

It’s important to understand that conflict is as a virus, infecting and spreading a horrific disease.

For information about conflict, read Descending into War, Descending into Contempt.

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Generalizations about cheaters

Cheaters

The scandal about the company that enables cheating behavior to advance to universities of repute has pushed me to ask Spirit about cheating. I was curious if there are consequences to cheating, and I was fascinated to learn that there are generalizations about people who cheat. Here are five generalizations about the effects of cheating on people. For people who live in repressive societies, cheating is often necessary in order to live an authentic life, so those societies are not considered in this post.

Generalization #1:  Cheating causes emotional illness.

People who cheat create openings for emotional instability to fester and have greater doubts about themselves. Cheating is a gnawing experience that cannot be rationalized.

Generalization #2:  Cheating is justified by those who cheat, but it is never justified in the spiritual realm.

People who cheat will seek justifications for their actions, but their spiritual selves know the truth. Cheating distances from spiritual connection, and it damages spiritual fulfillment.

Generalization #3:  Cheating can be alienating.

People who cheat have different relationships than people who don’t. In general, people who cheat are more suspicious of others.

Generalization #4:  Cheating can be physically challenging.

People who cheat often feel pains that have inexplicable causes. The pains come from guilt.

Generalization #5:  Cheating has tentacles into generations.

People who cheat have personality changes that affect how they interact with their children. The children aren’t destined to be cheaters, but the altered behavior of the parents affects them negatively.

Can cheating behavior in the past be pardoned?

The effects of cheating can be lessened by committing to a life of helpful existence: helping others, helping the environment, and helping the community. Through helpful existence, past cheating behavior will have less harmful effects on the people and their children.

Note: This information comes from the spiritual realm. It is important.

Causes of antisemitism

Antisemitism

Antisemitism has been around a long time and I want to know why. I’m asking Spirit for an explanation, and here it comes:

Antisemitism is connected to lack of order. The nature of people includes desire for order. All people crave structure and patterns, even people who think they don’t.

The nature of the Jewish religion is structure. It is a religion that builds on structure, and more structure. The people who live within its rules and regulations become intertwined with the rules, and they strengthen through its order-giving vitality. The rules bond and envelop so that the ancestors bind with the living generation, and traditions live in each current phase of Jewish existence. Judaism is a religion that structures itself into a way of excluding others who are less structured.

The demands of this rigorous religion baffle people of other religions whose living is less structured or has rules that question the Jewish nature of being. This bafflement can be shifted into disdain or hatred when desires for power or status are present.  The transformation from a neutral position (bafflement) to a negative position (disdain or hatred) is filled with moments of grievances that arise from real or invented offenses. The grievances are attributed to the Jewish religion, and they become synonymous with Judaism. The breadth of negative feelings towards Jewish people is influenced by local events and superstitions.

When power and status are desired by leaders, they rely on weakness of others to give them position. When power and status are desired by individual people, they sometimes turn to weakness of others or fear of others to propel their actions. This process of acquiring power and status can cause antisemitic indoctrination by those who see antisemitism as a tool to succeed.

Jewish people who strive for power and status will often use their natural connections to push their advancement. Their actions are natural for their perspective as intertwined brethren. Other people who see this Jewish connectivity do not understand it, and additional grievances can be developed.

Antisemitism exists in societies that are not connected to one another, and it is an amorphous growth. Pockets of hatred or dislike foment when societies are experiencing change and disruptions. The widening of the hatred and dislike occur when societies erupt in confusion and ineptitude.

Throughout history in societies where Jewish people have lived, the other peoples who have experienced confusion, disruptions and troubles from power seekers, want order and structure, and they turn to the Jewish people to foot their troubles. Sometimes their approach towards the Jews is positive and sometimes it is destructive.

Destructive viewing of Jewish people is a sign of dissatisfaction with ones’ own way of being. Satisfaction with oneself would lead to acceptance of Jewish people and of others who are different.

This answer is not complete (and it was a bit hard for me to work out), but it is worth pondering. It doesn’t address antisemitism in places of extreme assimilation, but perhaps it does indirectly. If anyone wants me to ask more about antisemitism, let me know your questions.

Do violent video games cause violent behavior?

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There have been studies that try to answer this question, and the answers have been contradictory. Some say Yes, the violent video games contribute to violent behavior and some say No, they don’t. It’s time to ask the authority–>Spirit.

Spirit says:

Stop studying this problem and face it. Exposure to violence triggers changes in thinking, and often, in behavior. Witnessing violence through the senses–through the eyes and ears and touch of the body–creates changes in thought patterns. Watching a violent movie that affects the eyes and ears can challenge thinking, but the added component of touch–the touch of the hands and fingers and possibly the rest of the body as it “enters” the game–directly affects thinking. The more violent the game, the more changed the thinking. Violent video games are misguided entertainment that should be stopped!

The makers of violent video games won’t want to hear this answer, but there it is.

 

Superiority Because of Race

Not long ago, I received wisdom about the sense of superiority. The posts about superiority discussed gender, religion, and nationality; however, race was alluded to but not specifically addressed.

Here is Spirit’s judgement about superiority and race:

Condescension because of race is irrational. Belittling because of race is weak. Generalizing about race is uninformed. Thinking disparaging thoughts about other races is contemptuous.

Superiority because of the foolish thinking that race has influence on value is deluded. No race is superior to any other. Race is variations of people. No more, no less.

Superiority is discussed in detail in my upcoming book, Descending into War, Descending into Contempt.

The two-headed side of hate

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Picture a two-headed creature with the heads facing one another. Each head has a nose, eyes, ears, and mouth. Each head has its own brain and reasoning. The heads are connected to the same body so that the heart that beats for one beats for the other. The heads share needs and oxygen.

The hate-filled, turning at each other in Charlottesville, Virginia was a hate expression. It was not unique, but it was introductory to the coming conflict. This conflict reminds the present of past mistakes, but gathers anew the actions of aggression.

The body is one but the heads are two, and one has bared its teeth and the other is offended and defensive. This unaccepting coexistence damages the heads and confuses the body.

The Charlottesville negativity is one of many in the world–all two-headed creatures blowing hate. The world holds these creatures with all the gifts the world has to give. How much better for the creatures if they would focus on the gifts.

Note: I asked Spirit about the events in Charlottesville and this blog post shares the answer.

The Haters

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Some people look at others and their achievements with jealousy and superiority in their thoughts. These failure-wishers write disparaging comments on Facebook, Twitter, and other social media. Rather than focus on themselves and their own achievements, they choose to undercut the leaders, the risk takers, and the visionaries.

The haters feel they have a right to deride and they often do it with great enthusiasm. The result is to hurt the enthusiasm and drive of the achievers.

Spirit wants me to be very clear about the haters:

The haters dislike themselves and pass their self-loathing onto others. The haters do not have a “right” to spew hatred. They also do not have a “right” to be cruel.

Haters strive to hurt. They should strive to develop themselves instead.

Haters should not be supported.  They should be ignored and their words should be considered as worthless.

Animal Awareness: Recognition and Conflict in People

Oblio-post3Dogs recognize dogs that are from their lineage. They recognize them through scent and corresponding stimulation of taste sensors. Dogs from the same lineage will form packs if they are allowed freedom. The pack will provide protection and sustenance to its members. The pack will fight dogs from other lineages and animals that threaten the pack. The pack is “family”.

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Buffaloes group by blood ties. They recognize connection through scent and corresponding stimulation of nerve receptors in the nasal cavity. A herd of buffaloes will contain grandparents, parents, and children, if they are allowed to live in freedom. The herd will link to other buffalo herds to search for food together, but they huddle in their family groups when natural disasters prevent escape.

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People differ from other animals because their brains allow them to defy natural inclination to protect and group within the biological family. Like buffaloes, people naturally group by blood ties. Like dogs, people recognize lineage. Unlike buffaloes and dogs, people can adapt to live with very different people.

People can overlook the natural tendency to choose sameness and can choose “other” instead. The ability to adapt to general human behaviors enables adaptation to different cultures, traditions, and views. The ability to adapt to other people’s customs and ideas should enable understanding and acceptance of all people, rather than racism and fear.

The desire for ownership is the cause of human conflict. Wanting someone else’s land or possessions or abilities leads to arguments and ruthlessness and wars. Wanting someone else’s partner leads to manipulation and to regrets. Wanting someone else’s reality leads to wrong choices and conflicts.

The desire for ownership will be explored in the seventh book in the Existence-Me Elevated Living book series: Descending into War, Descending into Contempt.

What a dream can tell

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Print by Ava Carmel

My friend Ava Carmel, dreamer of universal dreams, shared a dream this evening at our dance class. This was her dream:

Ava was in a place outside with seven other people, and they were standing around in a loose circle. One of the men slowly walked towards a place that was full of mud and stepped into it. The mud gradually pulled him in until his body could no longer be seen. The other people were watching the entire time. The man then emerged from the mud and his movements were very violent. He approached another man and fought with him. Ava walked to him and embraced him in a warm hug, feeling the mud on his body. The man stopped struggling. She walked with him to a room filled with beautiful frescos. She became mesmerized by the frescos and as she was looking at them, she noticed that the man had gone to the other side of the room and was urinating on the floor. The dream ended!

A universal dream can present wisdom at many levels. I asked Spiritual Presence for the main message of this dream. Here is the answer:

The man walked towards the mud with all the people watching and none of them said anything to stop him. As the mud was pulling him down, none of the people came to help him. The mud pulled him down, down, down, but he managed to pull himself out. He became a changed man, angry at the people who watched his descent and did nothing.

This message comes to remind us that when we see a person moving on a downwards tilt, we must try to help. We must not stand idly by. Even if the person ignores us, we must try to help. We might not succeed, but we should try. This message applies to people we know and people we don’t know. We can’t help everyone, but we should do the best we can and not stand idly by. Not stand idly by!

In the dance class, the other woman saw many meanings in the dream. A universal dream can present a different message to each person who hears it.

There are many messages in Ava’s dream. Most of all, remember to not stand idly by.

When ferocity is displayed by misled people

Ferocity

These days the headlines scream terror. Many people doing many bad things to victims of bad timing, being there by happenstance, disliked group affiliation, or suspicious lifestyles. Ferocity is an innate quality in people—in all people, but it is usually contained. When ferocity is allowed to take hold, the results are often tragic.

Unkindness is not an innate quality; it is learned. Children learn it from caregivers and people who affect their lives when they are young. Unkindness is doused on others, and it drenches but does not pass into the behavior, unless the unkindness is consistently administered or is traumatically experienced. Unkindness that has become part of a person opens the person to release ferocity.

Uncontrollable hatred is also not an innate quality, but it is felt when it has been experienced or when it is lived by example. In other words, children who experience uncontrollable hatred directed at them may internalize it and use it against themselves or others, or children who see and hear demonstrations of uncontrollable hatred towards other people may unconsciously digest the hatred towards others and display it in the future. When uncontrollable hatred is felt and unkindness has been learned, ferocity develops.

Throughout history, people have viciously hurt other people. The cycle of ferocity does not change because people continue to teach unkindness and hatred. Ferocity can be controlled, but it requires conviction, understanding, declaration (public statements), patience, vigilance, kindness, and action by participants and sideliners so that the ferocity remains inactive. Conviction is the solution to ferocity—conviction that ferocity can be controlled and neutralized.

Tragedy does not have to be the norm.

When sadness hits (reposting)

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Sometimes terrible things happen to people. Sometimes young people have serious illnesses that disfigure or damage them. Or weaken them so they die too young. Sometimes natural disasters befall people and they are left homeless, hurt, or confused.  Or orphaned. Sometimes people hurt other people—intentionally or not—so that trauma or death results. Sometimes people damage themselves—intentionally or not.

In all these cases, the survivors and caregivers are required to continue on and live. Not an easy task. Caregivers suffer daily, both physically and emotionally. Survivors suffer too, although differently and in varying degrees of despair, guilt, and shock. Both are in need of support, kindness, and openness to their pain. In other words, a survivor or caregiver needs a quiet  audience (meaning the listeners are quiet) for them to bare their sadness. If the audience is not quiet, the sadness might not dissipate. Quiet and constancy are the qualities of people who are helpful to those who need to give way to the effects of their sadness.

When sadness hits because of the natural order of life (a parent dies in old age), the survivors also require the same quiet and constancy. Sadness is sadness no matter the cause, although extra understanding should be given to the survivors of tragedies.

The person who has suffered the trauma (but not death) needs even more constancy and support. This person must eventually release the hold of the trauma. As described in the book Oneself-Living :

“Negative remembrances require determination and desire to purge them. Negative remembrances that are traumatic are often too difficult to release with-out continuous and relegate-to-a-less-prominent-place focus. Although traumatic events damage the connection to self and the sense of security, a person can remove the vicious side of a trauma so that a normal life can be led. Leading a normal life means focusing on the tasks that are done each day to sustain life: intake of food and water, sleep, interaction with others, and appreciation of the natural environment. Holding on to the tainted memory(ies), or holding back because of self-manufactured fear, prevents purging of the trauma of the event. The trauma must be released.”

Sometimes, terrible things happen to people. Terrible things also happen to the animals that inhabit the Earth. Terrible things happen. Can something be done? Towards the animals, much can be done. Towards people, less can be done. Towards animals, much painful treatment are day-to-day practices that people do to animals for food, clothing, and decorative items. Becoming aware of what is done to animals is the right thing to do. In general, people have less control over the tragedies that happen to people. Nonetheless, awareness of wrongful treatment of people should bring action from people who can affect change.

Sadness is sadness, no matter the cause. Releasing sadness can be done—with patience, with kindness, and with readiness.

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