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The Ebbs of Life

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“War, displacement, societal upheaval, familial upheaval, accidents that result in maiming or impaired mental functioning, and natural disasters—these events drastically affect health.  Some people survive these events with perception and sense of self intact; most people do not. The normal responses to difficult events are grief, blame, withdrawal, or incapacitation. To survive unscathed is unusual; to be weak, unpredictable, suspicious, fearful, hurt, sad, cautious, blameful, indecisive, or angry is expected. Minor changes to reality can be unsettling and can cause many of the same reactions. Few people are unaffected by the ebbs of life.” – from Pond a Connected Existence

Expectations of no problems in life are expectations incorrect. Life presents struggles and challenges because that is the nature of life.

Expectations of ease and fun are expectations misleading. Ease and fun can be part of life, but they are not to be expected, rather to be cherished.

Approaching the ebbs of life with creativity and courage brings growth and understanding. Taking the storms and seeing beyond them brings appreciation and satisfaction.

Potential, waiting

 

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Potential is a motivator and an obstruction. Potential gives opportunity to create, affect, and accomplish when the potential is realized. Realizing potential is possible for all through self-discovery, self-motivation, and self-discipline. Each of these personally executed processes (self-discovery, self-motivation, and self-discipline) is necessary for fulfilling one’s talents, although distractions and excuses halt success.

Distractions and excuses are self-inflicted even when they appear to come from external sources. The main reason for allowing distractions and excuses to hinder is being overwhelmed by potential (the obstruction). All people have potential to reach goals. Large goals. Satisfying goals. This ability to achieve can frighten when the potential seems overwhelmingly high—like staring up a mountain that is very steep with no footholds to support.

Potential is instilled with the soul, and it differs from person to person. People who are born with mental handicaps have potential that is resized for their abilities. People who are born with moderate physical handicaps have the same potential had they been born without the handicaps.

Reaching potential requires awareness. Awareness of talents and awareness of interests. Sometimes the awareness is not available because society and early childhood caregivers quashed the early-on expressions of individual talent (sometimes done intentionally and sometimes done caringly [meaning that a caregiver meant well]). Sometimes the awareness is not available because of personal causes: letting distractions distract, letting others choose, letting time slip by, or being envious. Awareness is just the first step though.

Whether or not a person reaches potential, life can still be meaningful and satisfying. By taking the time to feel what is fascinating and what is self-fulfilling, a person can create a path that has personality.

Why we like prizes, freebies, and contests

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Part of the human design is the pull towards the unknown. Working things out, discovering, learning. People are driven to explore and understand. And to master. People also tend to want new challenges after they have internalized previous challenges. Contests, freebies, and prizes are human ways of answering the need for the unknown and for the challenge.

Each person has a reason for entering a contest or vying for a prize or applying for a freebie. How does a freebie fit in? Because the wanting of a reachable-but-not-quite item or experience is a form of a challenge, albeit a minor one. The freebie-wanting is a way of working things out and mastering.

Also, people want entertainment. Another design feature! Contests, freebies, and prizes answer this need. Each in its own way entertains and interests.

The more one participates in contests and events that include prizes, the more one feels purpose, because the winning or placing or almost-winning or almost-placing satisfies a magnetic pull towards out-doing the unknown—changing the rules, creating a surprise ending.

Explore unknown (want ___ after ___ have )! Fill in the blanks and win a prize! Just kidding.

Best of luck

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Does luck exist?

Answer:  “Luck does not exist. Luck is used to explain good or bad fortune, to ward off the evil eye or other such spirits, to water down achievement. Rather than attribute life happenings to the true causes, people often attribute them to luck. As if it’s not in our hands. True, things happen that are not in our hands. Natural disasters are not in our hands. The behavior of the environment, of animals, of the weather, of fire, are often beyond our control. Then timing comes to the fore. Being where the disaster occurs, not being where the disaster occurs—timing matters.”

—from “Luck! What Luck?” in Book #2.

 Does luck truly govern our existence?

Answer:  “When something bad happens to a person, it is easier to say “I have bad luck” than to say “I wasn’t prepared” or “I was responsible”. Much easier to be happened to than to be happened because of. Much easier to let go of the resulting havoc than to accept personal involvement.  Much easier to assign to something outside, something amorphous, than to acknowledge, admit, embrace one’s own involvement in the lackluster performance, mistake, or mess. Luck is the recipient of ownership when the real owner is unable, too modest, or too embarrassed to claim title.”

—from “Luck! What Luck?” in Book #2.

What is luck really?

Answer:  “Attitude. Timing. Cause and effect.”

—from “Luck! What Luck?” in Book #2.

Each of these influences, together, create the reality that is our life.

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