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The Healing Attitude

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Healing is tricky. It is not available to those who use illness to attain a goal. Many use illness to keep from participating in life. Look at the people you know who are ill and consider the last sentence. It does not apply to all, but to many.

When we are ill, we should take the necessary precautions and mending steps. Mending steps include sleep, hydration, nutrient intake, and positive focus. Staying away from others when contagious. Staying away from temptations. Staying away from activity. Staying away from over-excitement, over-exertion and over-indulgence (not meaning overindulgence of food, rather overindulgence of self-pity or self-over-focus [I’m-too-unwell-to-deal-with-life-and-think-of-others]).

Healing can be quick or languishing depending on our age, attitude, previous physical condition, and determination, and of course, on the healing issue. Feeling determined to be well is very important. Any trace of benefit from the illness or condition can slow the healing process. Even a well meant show of sympathy can slow the healing. Best to heal with as little sympathy as possible. Attitude influences on all levels-physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. A happy attitude greatly enhances healing.

Healing and wellness are possible when we truly want them!

 

Luck! What luck?

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Attitude. Timing. Cause and effect. These determiners are the cast that perform and deliver the production known as luck. Luck does not exist. Luck is used to explain good or bad fortune, to ward off the evil eye or other such spirits, to water down achievement. Rather than attribute life happenings to the true causes, people often attribute them to luck. As if it’s not in our hands. True, things happen that are not in our hands. Natural disasters are not in our hands. The behavior of the environment, of animals, of the weather, of fire, are often beyond our control. Then timing comes to the fore. Being where the disaster occurs, not being where the disaster occurs—timing matters.

Attributing life events to good and bad luck prevents people from being responsible for the good and bad and good-bad things that happen to them. As if their actions weren’t the cause; as if their attitudes weren’t affecting the outcome; as if the results were miraculously delivered. As if taking responsibility and saying I caused this thing to happen, or I am what I am because of all I did, is wrong or is conceited or is honest and factual.

When something bad happens to a person, it is easier to say “I have bad luck” than to say “I wasn’t prepared” or “I was responsible”. Much easier to be happened to than to be happened because of. Much easier to let go of the resulting havoc than to accept personal involvement. Much easier to assign to something outside, something amorphous, than to acknowledge, admit, embrace one’s own involvement in the lackluster performance, mistake, or mess. Luck is the recipient of ownership when the real owner is unable, too modest, or too embarrassed to claim title…

…The importance of preparation cannot be overemphasized. Without it, opportunities are squandered, missed, lost. Being prepared enables seizing the moment, living the dream, catching the wind. Being prepared prepares for minor emergencies, gifted opportunities, necessary procedures and activities, and surprise happenings—good and bad. Being prepared strengthens and calms, emboldens and activates, saves time and saves nerves. Being prepared facilitates quick thinking and thoughtful reflection. Being prepared facilitates successful performance and quick getaway. The right thing when needed…

… Attitude that is constricted, unsatisfied, or cranky leads to perfunctory performance and lackluster end results. Attitude that is accepting, supportive, and encouraging propels performance, investment in delivery, and satisfaction with end results—even if the end results were are not spectacular…

… Attitude. Timing. Cause and effect. Each in its influence creates our reality. Each in its force determines our behavior during times of calm or action or destruction. Each in its subtle way helps to mold and construct our lives, our development, our legacies…

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The world according to ATTITUDE

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ATTITUDE influences when opportunity presents possibilities or barriers.

Possibilities or barriers? These words reflect the attitude.  Possibilities are attitude contributing. Barriers are attitude constricting. Society does not always present possibilities to its residents; however, when actual barriers are not in the way, attitude can prevail.

ATTITUDE is subjective. One person lies in bed all day because of a sprained toe. Another person is out and about even when unable to move both legs because of paralysis. Others pity themselves because of difficult relationships. Someone else forges ahead with friendships after having outlived most friends and family. People strive or don’t strive when presented with the same situations. Subjective ATTITUDE.

ATTITUDE is the attribute that interprets and influences responses, behavior, and subsequent decisions and actions. It interprets the daily happenings and it creates the subsequent reality.

ATTITUDE truly is a choice.

To see the world with eyes of gratitude is to see the small and large contributions of nature’s creatures (including people). To experience the world with appreciative intention is to experience majesty. To move through the day with vibrant life force is to feel the full offering that living presents. The world according to ATTITUDE!

The world according to SUFFERING

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SUFFERING appears when expectations are unrealistic.

Expectations of life lived with ease and conveniences are expectations of life for china dolls in a display case. Ease and convenience are available, but they are subjective components of life. Ease is not real life. Ease is obtained after much investment in tasks and trials. Convenience has become Want number 1, with a focus on as little investment in energy as possible. Ease and convenience are possible, but when they are expectations of daily life, the appearance of SUFFERING is increased.

SUFFERING is subjective. One person suffers when  social  engagements are erratic. Another person suffers when a sneeze interrupts the train of thought. Another suffers when a meal is too boring. Someone else suffers because sleep is disturbed by the urge to urinate. Another suffers through inability to move parts of the body. Someone else suffers from other peoples’ successes.  Others suffer from too much air conditioning. Subjective SUFFERING.

SUFFERING is no choice but to give up. That is true suffering. Pain in the body hurts, but it usually does not lead to no choice. Pain in the body means “Hey person, notice me! Take care of me! Change something!”

Pain in the body is meant to be a conversation between physical and thought:  “My _____ (fill in the blank) hurts. I feel it and I need to invest in thought, attempts, and changes to help the pain recede. If I keep doing what I’m doing, the pain might become a permanent part of my existence. If that happens, I must adjust my expectations of life and create living that includes the pain.  Adjustment of habits and lifestyle or adjustment of life expectations? I decide and I choose.”

SUFFERING can be removed from the realm of daily life by choosing to see life as an interesting challenge, whatever happens. Choosing to leave SUFFERING for the very final moment of life and living all the life that comes before that moment with gratitude, appreciation, and vibrancy.

To see the world with eyes of gratitude is to see the small and large contributions of nature’s creatures (including people). To experience the world with appreciative intention is to experience majesty. To move through the day with vibrant life force is to feel the full offering that living presents. The world according to ATTITUDE!

Best of luck

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Does luck exist?

Answer:  “Luck does not exist. Luck is used to explain good or bad fortune, to ward off the evil eye or other such spirits, to water down achievement. Rather than attribute life happenings to the true causes, people often attribute them to luck. As if it’s not in our hands. True, things happen that are not in our hands. Natural disasters are not in our hands. The behavior of the environment, of animals, of the weather, of fire, are often beyond our control. Then timing comes to the fore. Being where the disaster occurs, not being where the disaster occurs—timing matters.”

—from “Luck! What Luck?” in Book #2.

 Does luck truly govern our existence?

Answer:  “When something bad happens to a person, it is easier to say “I have bad luck” than to say “I wasn’t prepared” or “I was responsible”. Much easier to be happened to than to be happened because of. Much easier to let go of the resulting havoc than to accept personal involvement.  Much easier to assign to something outside, something amorphous, than to acknowledge, admit, embrace one’s own involvement in the lackluster performance, mistake, or mess. Luck is the recipient of ownership when the real owner is unable, too modest, or too embarrassed to claim title.”

—from “Luck! What Luck?” in Book #2.

What is luck really?

Answer:  “Attitude. Timing. Cause and effect.”

—from “Luck! What Luck?” in Book #2.

Each of these influences, together, create the reality that is our life.

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