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Luck! What luck?

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Attitude. Timing. Cause and effect. These determiners are the cast that perform and deliver the production known as luck. Luck does not exist. Luck is used to explain good or bad fortune, to ward off the evil eye or other such spirits, to water down achievement. Rather than attribute life happenings to the true causes, people often attribute them to luck. As if it’s not in our hands. True, things happen that are not in our hands. Natural disasters are not in our hands. The behavior of the environment, of animals, of the weather, of fire, are often beyond our control. Then timing comes to the fore. Being where the disaster occurs, not being where the disaster occurs—timing matters.

Attributing life events to good and bad luck prevents people from being responsible for the good and bad and good-bad things that happen to them. As if their actions weren’t the cause; as if their attitudes weren’t affecting the outcome; as if the results were miraculously delivered. As if taking responsibility and saying I caused this thing to happen, or I am what I am because of all I did, is wrong or is conceited or is honest and factual.

When something bad happens to a person, it is easier to say “I have bad luck” than to say “I wasn’t prepared” or “I was responsible”. Much easier to be happened to than to be happened because of. Much easier to let go of the resulting havoc than to accept personal involvement. Much easier to assign to something outside, something amorphous, than to acknowledge, admit, embrace one’s own involvement in the lackluster performance, mistake, or mess. Luck is the recipient of ownership when the real owner is unable, too modest, or too embarrassed to claim title…

…The importance of preparation cannot be overemphasized. Without it, opportunities are squandered, missed, lost. Being prepared enables seizing the moment, living the dream, catching the wind. Being prepared prepares for minor emergencies, gifted opportunities, necessary procedures and activities, and surprise happenings—good and bad. Being prepared strengthens and calms, emboldens and activates, saves time and saves nerves. Being prepared facilitates quick thinking and thoughtful reflection. Being prepared facilitates successful performance and quick getaway. The right thing when needed…

… Attitude that is constricted, unsatisfied, or cranky leads to perfunctory performance and lackluster end results. Attitude that is accepting, supportive, and encouraging propels performance, investment in delivery, and satisfaction with end results—even if the end results were are not spectacular…

… Attitude. Timing. Cause and effect. Each in its influence creates our reality. Each in its force determines our behavior during times of calm or action or destruction. Each in its subtle way helps to mold and construct our lives, our development, our legacies…

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One more factor in attention deficit creation

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Babies who are born healthy have the ability to observe and learn as they grow. Once they are socialized, their abilities to observe and learn have been set. Not set in stone, set in motion. The type of motion is the determining factor in learning inability. If the motion is too indulgent, pressured or inconsistent, then negative opinions of self and one’s abilities to focus and absorb are formed. If the motion is accepting, engendering of feelings of responsibility and consistent, then abilities are appreciated and worked. In either case, the ability to learn is there, but the perception of it is altered—positively or negatively.

Of the negative forces, indulgence has become a determining manipulator of people’s ability to work diligently, attempt new tasks and manage disagreeable ones, practice, and maintain a supportive attitude. Indulgence does not require wealth; it requires a caregiver who does not accept that sadness, difficulty, and frustration are normal parts of development. Indulgence leads to requiring immediate gratification and/or feelings of lack. When “attention deficit” is suspected, indulgence must be examined. It is reversible!

Of the positive forces, engendering feelings of responsibility is very important. Children must feel that their contributions are needed. Each small task that a child does in his or her home builds confidence and focus. People want to feel necessary and challenged—these are design features!

More to come…Please share this information with people who question the status quo of dealing with attention deficit issues.

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