Addiction to failure is not a natural state. People are born to succeed, but caregivers, society, and natural phenomenon (like natural disasters) can redirect towards failure. Failure can be in one or two areas or can become a defining personality trait.
For example, parents who are emotionally distant to their child, are consistently absent from the child’s life, and ignore the child’s natural interests, can push the child towards feelings of uncertainty about choices and towards dejection. The dejection and uncertainty can then translate into actions that do not suit the child’s natural talents, which can then lead to feelings of failure. This type of failure addiction can affect all areas of a person’s life and can continue into adulthood if the behavior is not questioned and addressed.
Failure addiction that is localized in one or two areas can occur when people are unaware of their natural abilities, their internal pace (that is, the natural speed of a person), their seasonal preferences, and their soulfully felt interests. Localized failure addiction is also influenced by incorrect interpretations of natural floundering when attempting new tasks or by improper responses to a minor mistake that get multiplied into a general opinion of failure.
Failure addiction can be taught by coworkers who constantly criticize and sabotage. It can be taught by teachers who shame and belittle. It can be taught by family members who are demeaning. And it can be taught by a society that rejects and ostracizes members for their behaviors or differences.
Failure addiction is a strain on society, and it is a cause for suicide and illness.
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Note: In the spiritual realm, the perpetrators (those who teach failure addiction) are gently guided towards better behavior in future incarnations.
This post has taken me by surprise, but Spirit assures me that there is a failure addiction. Unlike addictions to heroin or gambling, failure addiction requires little investment in paraphernalia or cash. Failure addiction requires these three mindsets: determination to not succeed, creation of stumbling blocks, and inability to see opportunities.
Many people suffer from failure addiction; however, it is often subtle and sometimes even socially acceptable so that the sufferers feel justified in their inabilities to succeed. It often stems from childhood traumas that teach children to distance themselves from their internal dialogues and from their inherent abilities. The less people know themselves, the easier to set themselves up for failure.
Much more can be said about the causes of failure addiction, but Spirit wants me to turn to solutions. So here they are:
- A person cannot fail when he or she knows personal truths. Turning inwards, and focusing on true passions and abilities, leads to movement away from procrastination and sabotage. This step can take time, but is crucial in moving past cemented habits of failure.
- Connecting to the natural world opens a failure addict to external wonderment. Being outside in nature removes focus on internal suffering. Entering natural water sources or green surroundings lifts thoughts of self-misery, often completely but sometimes temporarily. These moments can counter negativity when the pursuit of connection with nature is done with awareness of the purpose to distance from failure expectations.
- Connecting to music that is soothing or melodic can aid the move from failure addiction. Choosing music that uplifts helps the mind move towards positivity.
Failure addiction can affect many areas of life, or just one or two. It can be temporary or long lasting. It can also be the beginning of other addictions.
Failure addiction is worth fixing.
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Note: Spirit says we should really get to know our soulful gifts and talents. The more we know them, the more we will want to succeed!