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When the urge to fail calls

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There are many reasons we sink into failure mode. Sometimes we lose sight of goals and desires. Sometimes we forget the steps required to get somewhere or lose the way completely. Occasionally we make impressive starts but then slack off or quit completely. We even choose to blame people from our distant past for our selecting to fail.

The call to fail can be strong, but the call to succeed can be just as strong when we really want to succeed. To help choose success over failure, here are a few tips:

  • Create reminders of the chosen path. The reminders can be notes placed strategically around the house, alarms set on the phone, regular meetings with supporters or like-minded people, carefully crafted schedules, rewards for reaching major and minor goals, pep talks in the form of quiet reflection or animated soliloquy. Each person chooses the reminders that are personally helpful.
  • Examine health habits. Sleep is important: are you getting enough nighttime sleep? Nutrition is important: are you eating mainly nutritious foods at regular times? Friendships: are you making time for visits with friends? Activity: are you moving your body enough to release energy and avoid stiffness?
  • Distractions are too numerous. Understand the things that are undermining you and take steps to move them out of view or reach.
  • Make sure that the goals and desires are really suitable for who you are. Are they goals you set for yourself or were they set for you by others? The best way to know if a goal or desire is suitable is to understand who you are by taking the time to understand the things that truly appeal to you.

Success or failure can bring happiness or disappointment. Failure that offers a way out of something not wanted can be a positive thing, while failure to attain something truly desired can be devastating. If we know ourselves and know what we need and want, we can work towards them through perseverance and focus.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

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Deadlines

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When a deadline is looming, people respond in many, many ways. Each person has a way of coping or approaching or ignoring or using the deadline to achieve/fail. Some people aim for success; some people aim for failure. Yes, both are aims and both are normal reactions depending on each person’s attitude, history, and current bodily balance or imbalance.

This post is being presented to those who aim for success. (I bet you thought it would be the other aim.)

Aiming for success is usually a positive aspiration. Success in one’s endeavors is considered to be the goal that should be reached. Success. What is success? The dictionary says that success means the attainment of wealth, honors, position, etc. In society, wealth, the receipt of awards, CEOs, elected leaders, and celebrity are the coveted (eagerly wished for) ideals.

Let’s look at success in life. What are successful life goals?

  • Maintaining good family relationships—not always easy, but worth making a goal.
  • Maintaining community—very important and worth the investment.
  • Maintaining a healthy outlook about oneself—influences all the other goals and is vital for reaching the goals with health and self-esteem unharmed.
  • Maintaining work requirements—delivering (a performance or a report), showing up when expected, influencing others or work conditions,  performing duties properly and with concern (no matter the type of work), providing the needed skills (relearning or staying current as needed), and focusing when focus is required.
  • Maintaining a relationship with the environment and the creatures that inhabit the planet. “Creatures” include animals and people.

Success is large and small. Large and small successes. Public and private successes. Often, the small and private successes are the most important.

Getting back to deadlines—each person determines the approach that works or doesn’t work. Remembering to attend to all of the life goals should help keep focus and lessen wasteful fretting and wasteful actions.

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Addiction to failure

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This post has taken me by surprise, but Spirit assures me that there is a failure addiction. Unlike addictions to heroin or gambling, failure addiction requires little investment in paraphernalia or cash. Failure addiction requires these three mindsets: determination to not succeed, creation of stumbling blocks, and inability to see opportunities.

Many people suffer from failure addiction; however, it is often subtle and sometimes even socially acceptable so that the sufferers feel justified in their inabilities to succeed. It often stems from childhood traumas that teach children to distance themselves from their internal dialogues and from their inherent abilities. The less people know themselves, the easier to set themselves up for failure.

Much more can be said about the causes of failure addiction, but Spirit wants me to turn to solutions. So here they are:

  1. A person cannot fail when he or she knows personal truths. Turning inwards, and focusing on true passions and abilities, leads to movement away from procrastination and sabotage. This step can take time, but is crucial in moving past cemented habits of failure.
  2. Connecting to the natural world opens a failure addict to external wonderment. Being outside in nature removes focus on internal suffering. Entering natural water sources or green surroundings lifts thoughts of self-misery, often completely but sometimes temporarily. These moments can counter negativity when the pursuit of connection with nature is done with awareness of the purpose to distance from failure expectations.
  3. Connecting to music that is soothing or melodic can aid the move from failure addiction. Choosing music that uplifts helps the mind move towards positivity.

Failure addiction can affect many areas of life, or just one or two. It can be temporary or long lasting. It can also be the beginning of other addictions.

Failure addiction is worth fixing.

See Failure addiction is taught

Note: Spirit says we should really get to know our soulful gifts and talents. The more we know them, the more we will want to succeed!

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Willingness to blossom

Orchids

The willingness to blossom is not built in. It is a conscious decision that each person makes. It doesn’t mean succeeding; it means being open to succeeding. It means having a sense of purpose and making the purpose a priority. It means getting up early to practice, choosing to develop rather than lazing around, filling time with steps towards and not steps away from, investing in the bud that is the potential flower.

The willingness to blossom is a natural human characteristic. When the desire for a goal is allowed to appear, then the awareness of the choice to succeed is sensed. This sensing leads to the conscious decision to try. Trying leads to success and less success, more success with each try. The more success experienced, the more the desire to continue trying. Choosing to blossom applies to large and small successes. Each one a bud on a flower stem.

Task

Picture your attempts at things. Are they bud-less stems or flowering blossoms?

Examine your goals and consider their importance.  Goals that aren’t true to who you are will be hard to want.

Examine your drive to blossom. If it is weak, then perhaps your goals are incorrect for you or your distractions are too time-consuming. If it is strong, keep self-trying-succeeding.

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Deadlines

Post 59-focus

When a deadline is looming, people respond in many, many ways. Each person has a way of coping or approaching or ignoring or using the deadline to achieve/fail. Some people aim for success; some people aim for failure. Yes, both are aims and both are normal reactions depending on each person’s attitude, history, and current bodily balance or imbalance.

This post is being presented to those who aim for success. (I bet you thought it would be the other aim.)

Aiming for success is usually a positive aspiration. Success in one’s endeavors is considered to be the goal that should be reached. Success. What is success? The dictionary says that success means the attainment of wealth, honors, position, etc. In society, wealth, the receipt of awards, CEOs, elected leaders, and celebrity are the coveted (eagerly wished for) ideals.

Let’s look at success in life. What are successful life goals?

  • Maintaining good family relationships—not always easy, but worth making a goal.
  • Maintaining community—very important and worth the investment.
  • Maintaining a healthy outlook about oneself—influences all the other goals and is vital for reaching the goals with health and self-esteem unharmed.
  • Maintaining work requirements—delivering (a performance or a report), showing up when expected, influencing others or work conditions,  performing duties properly and with concern (no matter the type of work), providing the needed skills (relearning or staying current as needed), and focusing when focus is required.
  • Maintaining a relationship with the environment and the creatures that inhabit the planet. “Creatures” include animals and people.

Success is large and small. Large and small successes. Public and private successes. Often, the small and private successes are the most important.

Getting back to deadlines—each person determines the approach that works or doesn’t work. Remembering to attend to all of the life goals should help keep focus and lessen wasteful fretting and wasteful actions.

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