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Bringing change using Exemplary Life contracts

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Health improvements, self-development, changes in behavior, changes in habits, and legacy building are goals that can be reached when Exemplary Life contracts are used. An exemplary life is lived when future generations are kept in mind, when habits reflect caring for oneself and one’s family and community, and when activities are chosen that create satisfaction with one’s life.

Improving health can be by eating more nutritiously, scheduling regular physical activity, and learning to lessen stress. Self-development can be by learning to play a musical instrument, developing hobbies, and meditating. Changes in behavior can be by becoming more appreciative and being kinder to oneself and others. Changes in habits can be by revising daily routines that are not nourishing and preventing procrastination. Legacy building can be by spending more time with younger people and evaluating the legacy you want to leave. These are but a few of the topics that can be addressed with Exemplary Life contracts.

Contracts for an Exemplary Life is spiritually received assistance that understands what people want. People want their lives to be expressions of who they are. They want to be actively engaged in living and they want to face the challenges that life presents in a confident and gratifying way. Unfortunately, as they go along, people lose their focus and mire themselves in distracting and destructive activities and habits.

With true-to-me contracts, a person can return to the natural way of being: expressing who the person really is, engaging actively in life, and facing challenges with confidence and satisfaction.

Contracts for an Exemplary Life—Using Contracts to Achieve Your Goals contains help for people who really want to bring change. Contracts for an Exemplary Life is available on amazon.com: http://amzn.com/1518880746

Deadlines

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When a deadline is looming, people respond in many, many ways. Each person has a way of coping or approaching or ignoring or using the deadline to achieve/fail. Some people aim for success; some people aim for failure. Yes, both are aims and both are normal reactions depending on each person’s attitude, history, and current bodily balance or imbalance.

This post is being presented to those who aim for success. (I bet you thought it would be the other aim.)

Aiming for success is usually a positive aspiration. Success in one’s endeavors is considered to be the goal that should be reached. Success. What is success? The dictionary says that success means the attainment of wealth, honors, position, etc. In society, wealth, the receipt of awards, CEOs, elected leaders, and celebrity are the coveted (eagerly wished for) ideals.

Let’s look at success in life. What are successful life goals?

  • Maintaining good family relationships—not always easy, but worth making a goal.
  • Maintaining community—very important and worth the investment.
  • Maintaining a healthy outlook about oneself—influences all the other goals and is vital for reaching the goals with health and self-esteem unharmed.
  • Maintaining work requirements—delivering (a performance or a report), showing up when expected, influencing others or work conditions,  performing duties properly and with concern (no matter the type of work), providing the needed skills (relearning or staying current as needed), and focusing when focus is required.
  • Maintaining a relationship with the environment and the creatures that inhabit the planet. “Creatures” include animals and people.

Success is large and small. Large and small successes. Public and private successes. Often, the small and private successes are the most important.

Getting back to deadlines—each person determines the approach that works or doesn’t work. Remembering to attend to all of the life goals should help keep focus and lessen wasteful fretting and wasteful actions.

Success with New Year’s resolutions!

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Set yourself up to succeed with your New Year’s resolutions! Here is a book that can help you reach your goals.

The book is Contracts for an Exemplary Life.  It is  filled with forms and examples that can be the basis for success with your resolutions. It contains contracts that can help you commit to resolution goals and bring focus to the steps that will accomplish your goals.

“There are over forty examples of contracts to help you write a contract for your personal betterment, for your relationships within your family and with other people, for your legacy, for your influence within your community, and for your impact on yourself and others. There are contract forms to help you develop the contracts that will work for you.”  – from the back cover

If you would like help keeping resolutions and making true-to-yourself goals, read Contracts for an Exemplary Life—Using Contracts to Achieve Your Goals. It is available on amazon.com: http://amzn.com/1518880746

Changing the things we know fail us

If you Want it Work for ItThe previous post was about changing ourselves and the will to change. Today’s post delves into my personal failing habit, with hope it can speak to others.

A thing that fails me is my addiction to sugar. I wrote about it in the post “My Contract for Overcoming Cravings“. My sugar addiction was bestowed upon me by well-meaning parents and a food industry that pushed sugar. From a young age, my addiction to sugar affected my health and my food choices, and it followed me into adulthood. Even as an adult educated in the insidiousness of sugar, I have continuous cravings for sugar, which I indulge too often.

The sugar-sneaked-in foods feed the addiction when I’m “off” sugar. The struggle to resist the sugar receives lip service from me, not conviction, because as soon as a host offers me sweet refreshments, I abandon my convictions and knowledge and say, “Sure” rather than explain or offend. My convictions are easily swayed by a pretty sugary confection.

My will to change is affected by the addiction. I’d like to be able to focus on so many other significant aspects of life, but the sugar addiction often takes the focus.

Spirit prompts me to make many changes in my life so that I can be reverent and virtuous in my living in order to be a conduit for the wisdom that is sacred. You would think that the closeness of my connection to Spirit would simplify the process of change. It should, but the force of the sugar addiction, and a few other negative habits, thwart my efforts.

So how can I change the things that I know fail me? Here’s what Spirit says:

  • Acknowledge the areas that create negativity, shame and imbalance, and then develop ways to change them.
  • Acknowledge the actions that are in line with goals. Small and large actions are worth acknowledgement.
  • Look an addiction straight in its glory and acknowledge its power. Then do the work to end it.

One step at a time, change is achieved. The things that fail us can be changed when we really want to change them.

The Will to Change

Will is a powerful force.

Wanting something—really wanting something—really, really wanting something—wanting something determinedly—inspires us to invest our time and thoughts to the wanted thing. When we know our energy is concentrated on achieving desires, we are willing to work and struggle. We are even willing to change!

Sometimes we say we want something—and we really mean to mean it—but the work seems too hard, the struggle feels endless, and the resolve to change is unsure. We waver, because the effort to change and invest ourselves fully overwhelms our self-fabricated existence.

Perhaps the desired thing is desired by someone else for us. Perhaps the desired thing is wanted, but not mightily. Perhaps the desired thing calls, but it conflicts with our obligations and schedules. Sometimes the desired thing is unattainable because of habits, opinions, or addictions we have entrapped ourselves in.

Really wanting something can be tangible awareness of soulful communication when the desired goal fulfills soulful elevation. The wants that give us true fulfillment are the ones that deserve investment.

The will to change: willing to strive and to invest effort, willing to make mistakes and to embrace differences, willing to change habits and to persevere. We can all live satisfying lives when we are willing to know ourselves and change the things we know fail us.

The Essential Bucket List

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A bucket list is assisted fulfillment of worthwhile goals. It offers insight into your personality and soul. It also allows thoughts of death to be considered in a constructive way.

If you want to create a bucket list that will carry you to fulfillment, be sure to include these suggestions on your list:

  • Search for relationships that supply comfort.
  • Decipher the sounds, sights, tastes, and smells that bring you contentment.
  • Give yourself to a cause that connects you to the environment.
  • Try difficulty. (This item refers to any challenge that seems worth trying.)
  • Create a friendship that is satisfying.
  • Receive yourself with compassion. (This item helps you accept and like yourself.)
  • Open to differences. (This item allows you to see the differences in people and societies in a fulfilling way.)

Going through life with a bucket list that reflects these items can bring you joy, adventures, and satisfaction!

Creating something new from a fill-in-the-blanks form—then creating a life anew

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“In the next chapter, “Exemplary Life Contract Forms and Examples”, there are contract forms that contain fill-in-the-blanks. You can photocopy a contract and fill in the blanks or rewrite the contract using the base form for inspiration.”

This excerpt from the book Contracts for an Exemplary Life explains that you can use the book examples to design your own path towards change. Change is possible when you really want it. Change is possible when you are really committed to it.

I have worked with many people through private sessions of Energy Guidance Complete. I have seen people make major lifestyle changes and I have seen people flounder and resist. Those who make the changes create joy and opportunity. Those who resist continue to make excuses and stagnate.

Private sessions with Energy Guidance can bring change relatively quickly, depending on the change desired. Exemplary contracts, which were created through Energy Guidance, can also bring change relatively quickly, depending on the change desired and commitment.

Exemplary life contracts can help with:

  • personal issues such as weight, health, self-criticism and other negative behaviors, self-development, and habit changes
  • family issues such as improvement of family relationships, health, family rituals, and family dynamics
  • community issues such as feeling a part of the community, supporting important community efforts, conserving more, and helping animal and environmental causes
  • people issues such as making time for friends, changing negative relationships with coworkers and service providers, becoming neighborly, and teaching one’s children about others

Contracts for an Exemplary Life—Using Contracts to Achieve Your Goals provides a vehicle for people who want to bring change. It is available on amazon.com: http://amzn.com/1518880746

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