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When the urge to fail calls

Sad heart

There are many reasons we sink into failure mode. Sometimes we lose sight of goals and desires. Sometimes we forget the steps required to get somewhere or lose the way completely. Occasionally we make impressive starts but then slack off or quit completely. We even choose to blame people from our distant past for our selecting to fail.

The call to fail can be strong, but the call to succeed can be just as strong when we really want to succeed. To help choose success over failure, here are a few tips:

  • Create reminders of the chosen path. The reminders can be notes placed strategically around the house, alarms set on the phone, regular meetings with supporters or like-minded people, carefully crafted schedules, rewards for reaching major and minor goals, pep talks in the form of quiet reflection or animated soliloquy. Each person chooses the reminders that are personally helpful.
  • Examine health habits. Sleep is important: are you getting enough nighttime sleep? Nutrition is important: are you eating mainly nutritious foods at regular times? Friendships: are you making time for visits with friends? Activity: are you moving your body enough to release energy and avoid stiffness?
  • Distractions are too numerous. Understand the things that are undermining you and take steps to move them out of view or reach.
  • Make sure that the goals and desires are really suitable for who you are. Are they goals you set for yourself or were they set for you by others? The best way to know if a goal or desire is suitable is to understand who you are by taking the time to understand the things that truly appeal to you.

Success or failure can bring happiness or disappointment. Failure that offers a way out of something not wanted can be a positive thing, while failure to attain something truly desired can be devastating. If we know ourselves and know what we need and want, we can work towards them through perseverance and focus.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

Deadlines

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When a deadline is looming, people respond in many, many ways. Each person has a way of coping or approaching or ignoring or using the deadline to achieve/fail. Some people aim for success; some people aim for failure. Yes, both are aims and both are normal reactions depending on each person’s attitude, history, and current bodily balance or imbalance.

This post is being presented to those who aim for success. (I bet you thought it would be the other aim.)

Aiming for success is usually a positive aspiration. Success in one’s endeavors is considered to be the goal that should be reached. Success. What is success? The dictionary says that success means the attainment of wealth, honors, position, etc. In society, wealth, the receipt of awards, CEOs, elected leaders, and celebrity are the coveted (eagerly wished for) ideals.

Let’s look at success in life. What are successful life goals?

  • Maintaining good family relationships—not always easy, but worth making a goal.
  • Maintaining community—very important and worth the investment.
  • Maintaining a healthy outlook about oneself—influences all the other goals and is vital for reaching the goals with health and self-esteem unharmed.
  • Maintaining work requirements—delivering (a performance or a report), showing up when expected, influencing others or work conditions,  performing duties properly and with concern (no matter the type of work), providing the needed skills (relearning or staying current as needed), and focusing when focus is required.
  • Maintaining a relationship with the environment and the creatures that inhabit the planet. “Creatures” include animals and people.

Success is large and small. Large and small successes. Public and private successes. Often, the small and private successes are the most important.

Getting back to deadlines—each person determines the approach that works or doesn’t work. Remembering to attend to all of the life goals should help keep focus and lessen wasteful fretting and wasteful actions.

The person that I am truly meant to be

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Oh if life were so easy
I would be the person I was meant to be
I would take on challenges and handle them with ease
I would be open and funny and clever
I would look fabulous and sing on key
I would not be cranky or defensive
And I would not get upset over silly things.

But life isn’t easy
So I let myself off the hook
And often don’t try
And blame others
And wallow in misery
And even give up
Sometimes.

Perhaps there is a place where
I can find respite from my too-difficult me
Where my mind shuts up
And my gut finally stills
Where I let myself accept
And I let myself free
The person that I am truly meant to be.

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Too many people let themselves sink too low. Rather than rejoice in their living, they choose their misery. Sometimes the cause is nutritional, sometimes the cause is hormonal, and sometimes the cause is just habit. When the reason is laziness or lack of appreciation, the way out is through communal service. When the reason is nutritional or hormonal, the way out is through intervention by a nutritionist, naturopath, doctor, or other healing specialist.

There are other causes as well for the spiral downwards, and often spiritual connection can aid the situation. Energy Guidance Complete is spiritual healing focused on balance and elevated living. Making changes in one’s focus can lead to changes in one’s self-centeredness. Finding guidance that is larger than oneself can loosen self-absorption.  Accepting that the difficulties are just difficulties that can be handled releases self-indulgence.

Making changes is not difficult when we truly want to change. Yes, we can make changes when we truly want to change. The first step is to want to bring change. The next step is to truly want to change. Then the search can begin for how to change so that we can live the life that fits who we are.

Attention deficit: a reason to medicate or a natural way of being

Children playing outside on a sunny day

People’s inability to focus has been the basis of entire industries for the last forty to fifty years. It has skyrocketing potential for so many businesses that its existence feeds economic trends. Attention deficiencies bolster the production of ingested aids (medicines, vitamins, etc.), behavioral aids, and lifestyle products. There are therapists to diagnose and therapists to advise, therapists to teach the parents and therapists to teach the children. So much activity around an invented affliction!

Inability to focus has causes. Sometimes there are birth defects that lead to attention deficiencies, but these causes are not the reasons for the new enormous industries. The new industries created the new disorders without facing the causes.

There are four main causes of inability to focus in the modern world:

  1. Industrialization, which brought with it urbanization and specialization
  2. Personal communication devices: radios, TVs, stereo systems, telephones, etc.
  3. Distancing from nature and from nature’s splendors and rhythms
  4. Standard learning methodologies in schools, universities, and courses that are not appropriate for most of those studying (approximately 60%)

Of all these causes, distancing from nature is the most serious. People require exposure to nature’s creatures (domesticated animals, untamed animals, fish, and insects), nature’s landscapes, edible foods in nature, flowers, plants, trees, and seasonal changes. These elements teach and develop attention capabilities. Without these connections to nature—or with only limited exposure to them—the ability to concentrate for extended periods of time is lessened and unappreciated, the ability to focus is shortened, and the ability to be resourceful is lessened. Not for everyone, but for most.

Industrialization led (1) to people moving into housing that cuts them off from nature and (2) to work that is specialized. Modern society’s focus on specialization has led to repetitive labor, day after day, year after year, be it in a field, at a desk, or by a computer. Specialization appears to advance societal goals, but in actuality, it limits people, which in turn, constrains society. Repetitive labor lessens the life of the laborer/person—not necessarily in terms of length of lifespan, but more in terms of a reduced existence. Specialization affects ability to focus by requiring unnatural attention to a limited area. Some people naturally feel at ease focusing on a limited area, but most don’t.

Personal communication devices pull people away from self-created enjoyments. Creating one’s own enjoyment requires focus and self-awareness. When someone else creates the enjoyment, focus is reduced. Earlier personal communication devices, like radios, caused people to reevaluate their own skills at entertainment and to sometimes quit. Stereo systems contributed to the move away from self-entertainment and attempts to create music. Television brought visual entertainment into the home, which led to a lessening in public gatherings and continued reevaluation of personal skills and desire to create entertainment. Telephones enable people to gather even less. Personal computers and phones continue the move from gathering together and have changed many aspects of self-entertainment, which then leads to increased inability to focus.

All people learn differently. Some learn through experiential training, some learn visually, some learn by hearing other people’s stories, and some learn only the things that really interest them. The standardized methodologies for teaching in a classroom assist no more than 40% of the students. The other 60%–the majority—require learning that is different. These people are stigmatized as problem learners when they actually have normal learning capabilities.

These four causes of inability to focus are interwoven into the fabric of modern society. Schools teach the minority of students well and fall short with the majority. Attachment to personal communication devices lessens patience and attention. Specialization narrows focus and awareness of things beyond one’s specialty. Detachment from nature removes opportunities for focus enhancement.

The attention deficiencies industries overlook the four causes and look at normal human traits as negative characteristics to be changed. They ignore the fact that modern living requires focus on activities that can be dull, rote, repetitive, and constraining. They trivialize the natural needs to move and change focus. They ignore the importance of connection to nature.

Modern schools, work places, institutions, and organizations require participation in dull, rote, repetitive, and constraining tasks and situations. People were designed for tasks and situations that are ever-changing. Tasks that demand constant focus and lengthy concentration tax the natural nature of humans. Distractions, tempest, whirl, and hurly-burly—those are the situations that people respond to.

Sitting in a classroom with a teacher droning on—NO! Sitting at a computer with few breaks—NO! Sitting on a factory line repeating the same motion over and over and over and over—NO! Hours of religious expression with expected intention—NO! People were not designed for these situations. To expect them to handle these situations and not fidget or daydream or disturb would require a new design.

People are designed for doing some of this, doing some of that, moving here, then moving there, short bouts of focus, studied execution of required tasks and chosen pursuits—and then sleep to recharge, repair, and function. People cannot hear and digest information delivered perfunctorily nor handle verbal assault nor accept displays of unimaginative and unmeant praise nor decipher dull and sterilized writing nor participate in uninspired presentations nor stay still for too long nor perform religious requirements without proper guidance and inspiration. Doing these things results in attention distraction, anger or enhanced criticism, dulled emotions and responses, and opposition to more than the cause of the opposition.

As mentioned earlier, the influences of nature were once major influences on people. Some people and cultures run their lives around the cycles of nature, but the number of people who are nature-centric lessens with developments in technology. The connection to flora and fauna significantly 1) broadens and heightens understanding of cycles and fluctuations; 2) develops appreciative and inquisitive capabilities; and 3) causes people to examine and work with vegetation that aid human life and animals that enhance human existence. When people allowed fluctuations of time, season, and life to govern their lives, they developed more attentive skills.

The creation of societies that reward unnatural behaviors and occupations and punish normal human behavior punish themselves. People force and repress and mold themselves to function within the constraints of modern societies. They think they are superior when they manage to overcome their natural inclinations for movement and physical expression. People do manage to adjust to their polygonal existences, but their bodies and spirits bear the brunt of the altered requirements.(A polygonal existence is a life that feels twisted and unnatural, a life that is unbalanced and incorrectly focused.)

Attention to the world around, to other people’s actions and antics, to creatures other than humans, to plant life, and to other-worldly possibilities can sharpen attention capabilities. Attention capabilities are dulled through focus on petty inconveniences, petty pursuits, mindless entertainment, mindless lecturing,  futile escapes, futile reasoning to justify lack of initiative, words spoken without thought, words spoken in a tone of condescension or disgust, distractive substances that steal focus,  and distractive and negative thoughts that are untrue or unnecessary. When attention capabilities are challenged, habits, influences, and routines should be examined.

Assuming that a person has a deficit because he or she cannot stay still or cannot focus on a dull and uninspiring topic reflects badly on society. There are people born with deficits or who acquire deficits through accident or illness, but perceived deficits of people who are unable to force themselves to live within uncompromising regulations are not deficits—they are expressions of frustration or unreleased energy or laziness or despair.

The rush of the attention deficiencies industries to pronounce people as needing ingested aids, behavioral aids, and lifestyle products in order to function is foolhardy and destructive. Some of ingested aids damage internal functioning of the body. All of the aids lessen society’s view of the people who are treated as attention deficient—including the people themselves.

What changes are needed to lessen attention deficiencies, besides changing society?

  • Spending more time around plants, trees, and flowers.
  • Spending more time with animals at home, at zoos, at bird observation sites, in nature.
  • Reading more for pleasure.
  • Spending more time outside feeling the weather.
  • Regularly using the body physically through exercise or activities that incorporate movement.
  • Participating in creating music and musical performances.
  • Spending more time with family or friends doing volunteer work.
  • Studying topics that are interesting.
  • Creating meals from scratch.
  • Developing hobbies that involve concentration and gradual improvement.
  • Using personal communication devices less.

Instead of focusing on attention deficiencies, the attention deficiencies industries could focus on attention capabilities. To do so, attention capability needs to be understood. There are six aspects of attention capability:

  • The ability to take in outside stimuli and think about them in orderly and sequential thought processes, and use the subsequent and processed information to formulate ideas, images and sensory input, questions, impressions and intuitive evaluations (for positive and negative stimuli), and information for storage.
  • The ability to identify information, opinions, memories, and guidelines that are stored or remembered, and to apply them to incoming stimuli.
  • The ability to filter out unnecessary, trivial, and malicious information from all incoming and internalized information.
  • The ability to evaluate outside stimuli and determine the need for using them. For example, when noticing a person walk by—First, evaluating the person in relation to oneself: identifying the person as familiar (family, friend, or acquaintance) or known but unacquainted (friend of a friend, famous, work personnel, etc.) or unknown but interesting (appealing physically or not, engaged in eye-catching activity, wearing eye-catching apparel, etc.) or unknown and suspicious or simply unknown. Second, determining an appropriate response if required, initiating an action or not, taking note of the person or something about the person or letting the person pass by without an intake of information.
  • The ability to focus on outside stimuli that must be internalized.
  • The ability to use the senses to connect with environmental (not man-made) activity, changes, and patterns.

The attention capabilities industries could focus on these aspects of attention to elevate people rather than looking for deficiencies that aren’t existent. There is much that can be done to elevate people. The first step is to abandon the invented affliction of attention deficiencies.

Note: This information is from the first draft of the upcoming book Invented Afflictions and Muscular Conditions. This information has been spiritually received. Some of the information has been published here in earlier blog posts.

Letting go of things that hold me back, a poem

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When I received this poem two years ago, I saw it as a universal poem with meaning for everyone, and partially for me. I received the words, agreed with their message, published the book, and forgot the poem. Recently I’ve been rereading Unfolding—A Collection of Wisdom Poetry, and this poem jumps out at me as the one that has the most relevance to me at this time.

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I’m about to publish a book about aging well, and one of the most important goals is to be focused on the aspects of living that bring satisfaction and growth. But to do this requires letting go of the things that hold hostage.

I am held hostage by my expectations of others and of myself, by old memories that criticize, by wasted time spent on unimportant pursuits, by holding myself back from flying with Energy Guidance, and by procrastinating. The simple message “Do it!” tells me to not only let go, but to move ahead and do the things that will bring me growth and satisfaction.

I’m going to photocopy this poem and paste it on my wall 🙂

Unfolding—A Collection of Wisdom Poetry can be purchased through amazon.com stores: http://amzn.com/1508828229

Unfolding book cover

Muddling Through

mud

Mud makes us happy when we are playful children. Mud makes us miserable when we are busy adults with little time for extra cleaning. The cleaning of the mud is an extra chore that few choose to take on willingly.

And yet, many go through life acquiring mud that they refuse to let go. This type of mud is not physical, but is just as dirtying and requiring of cleansing.

  • This mud is habits that hold us down.
  • This mud is relationships that mire us in muck.
  • This mud is internal criticism that dirties our thoughts.
  • This mud is chosen employment that creates unpleasant versions of ourselves.

Muddling through so that we can get through our days is not living; it is living trapped. We can get trapped into work that makes us feel empty or worthless. We can get trapped into relationships that cause us to feel depleted or used. We can get trapped into dramas that are not our own making, yet influence and dirty our living. Destructive habits and unfulfilled dreams trap us more.

Muddling through is a chosen way of life, and it’s surprising how many people choose to just muddle through. Even when they know how to pull themselves out, they choose not to. It’s more comfortable to stay in the same place and complain or give up.

Muddling through is not how people are meant to live. Muddling through should be reserved for times when unexpected events create the need to get through something or require efforts beyond our abilities. Muddling through is a positive thing when life demands beyond-our-control efforts. Muddling through is a negative thing when it becomes the regular mode of functioning.

The way we see mud, and the way we let it sink us or entertain us, focuses the way we get through life. With our determination to be ourselves comes our determination to not just muddle through. Muddling through is for specific times. Muddling through is best left for them and not for most of our days.

Here’s to living and not to just muddling through!

Upbeat Advice

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“Smile and the whole world smiles with you.”

“If life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”

“Look on the bright side of life.”

People like quick fixes. They like sayings that make them feel good. They also like reassurances.

Energy Guidance looks on the bright side of life and sees the potential in everyone. Potential is possible and attainable through persistent efforts and focused activity. Potential is about changes when necessary and restraint when needed.

Since September 2013, Energy Guidance has appeared in books and this blog. The advice has been honest and current. Answers to unclear questions have been offered and medical afflictions have been tackled. Focused living and paths to well-being have been provided regularly.

If you have liked one or more of the blog posts, please share them with friends. If you know of people who suffer from health afflictions deciphered by Energy Guidance, please share the information with them.

Good advice is meant to be passed along. Spiritual wisdom can elicit skepticism, but if people can look beyond the source of the wisdom they can see that the advice is truly wise.

Give others the opportunity to grow with Energy Guidance by sharing it with them!

And remember to…

“Count your blessings!”

Sometimes the Least Boisterous Person is the True Star—The Dos & Dont’s of Notice

Attention

(taken from my article of the same title on HealingAnswers.com and reposted from 5-27-14)

In a gathering, there usually are the people who stand out. They generate more buzz, they attract attention. There are the people who mill around the buzz-makers and there are the people who make the buzz in the background.

The background buzz-makers are the real ones to follow, but they often don’t make the fuss that generates the action. These people do acts of kindness, make others comfortable, fulfill the role of support provider, and consider the needs of society. These people understand that they are obligated: obligated to care for their families and their community and obligated to remember the needs of the environment and of the creatures that inhabit the Earth.

There are stand-out individuals who not only generate buzz in the limelight, but also fulfill their obligations in much-larger-than-self ways. They, and the less visible obligation-fulfillers, receive notice in the spiritual realm where one’s actions really matter.

This blog post provides the Dos and Dont’s of getting noticed for behavior deserving of notice.

DO:  Fill your time with sustaining activities

Here are a few examples of sustaining activities from Pond a Connected Existence:

Spending time with loved ones! Playing with babies! Teaching children in the customs and traditions of one’s forebears! Singing! Dancing! Singing well! Singing flat! Artistic expression! Preparing healthful meals! Picnics!  Family gatherings! Gatherings of friends! Gatherings of people for life events—sad ones and happy ones!… Working with gusto! Working with integrity! Working in unison and working alone! Group activities that have a higher purpose! Group activities that bring enjoyment! Walking! Running! Jumping! Riding a bike! Riding a wave! Swimming! Moving for fun and moving for health! …

DO: Take care of the environment

Taking care of the environment includes planting plants, trees, and flowers. It also includes not littering and not being wasteful with the Earth’s resources.

DO: Take part in activities that bring betterment to the community and to the less fortunate

No matter how busy you think you are, you are not too busy to help out with a volunteer organization in your area (unless you are attending to a terminally ill family member which is consuming all of your time).

DO: Smile, even when smiling feels forced

A smile lifts the spirits of those who see the smile and the one who wears the smile. As an experiment, sing a song while not smiling and then sing the song again while smiling. Smiling simply changes one’s mood and one’s influence on others.

DON’T: Smile at a person if you are thinking bad thoughts about them

A fake smile cannot necessarily be detected by others, but it is recorded in the spiritual realm. Pretending to be happy when someone makes you unhappy is the incorrect approach. If someone really affects you in a negative way, either try to limit exposure to this person or try to change the dynamic.

DON’T: Fill your time with non-sustaining activities

Non-sustaining activities include small things like watching too much TV, playing too many computer games, eating junk food, complaining about inconveniences. Larger non-sustaining activities include things like participating in aggressive behavior towards other people, other creatures, or the environment; eating too much food; focusing on the lives of people who have no true relevance in one’s life (for instance, following the movements of a celebrity or keeping tabs on old love interests); pretending to like one’s job or partner or pastimes or this or that, when one is unhappy… – “Pond a Connected Existence”.

DON’T: Say no when asked to help just because you want more free time

Obligation to one’s community is much larger than many people think. Taking part in elections, taking part in cleaning up, taking part in communal rituals—these are the basic obligations on all. Beyond those acts, one should participate in bettering the community.  – “Pond a Connected Existence”

Saying no when help is needed does not earn notice where it matters. If you are feeling too tired, rather than lessening your sustaining activities, examine your less sustaining activities and consider lessening them.

DON’T: Be wasteful

Appreciate what you have. Don’t be greedy with your desires. In general, people want more than they need so try to be reasonable in your usage of resources that are not easily replenishable.

Conclusion

The notice being discussed here is not notice by the people seeking excitement. It is notice in the spiritual realm that considers the actions of people and provides spiritual connection or not.

The more a person strives to bring balance to himself or herself and to the family, community, and neighboring environment, the more possibility of spiritual connection and guidance. Balance within and with all lead to life lived purposefully and with spiritual connection.

Dis tr a c ting

 

Distracting colors

I should be working on activities for my next workshop and I should be immersed in one of the several books I am writing, but instead I let myself get distracted by Facebook and news stories about politicians and topics that have little meaning in my life. I get distracted by unimportant errands and Sudoku. I even focus on dusting rather than on the writing that is SO much more important.

You would think that I, with the constant prodding by Spiritual Presence, would stay focused, but no, I rebel and waste time. Even though I know how precious the passing time is! I guess I don’t really understand the meaning of this poem from Unfolding:

The Flash

Flash!
Life is so quick—
Quickly over,
So quickly over.

Why don’t we notice?
Why don’t we realize?

Living fully
Is living life right!
Ready to attempt,
Ready to strive,
Ready to attempt again,
Ready to strive more.

Life is so quick—
Flash!

Almost all of my spiritually received books remind me about the need to stay focused, and yet I “focus” on the wispy fluff*.

“There are temptations aplenty that lure and distract us. Staying focused on elevating pursuits is difficult. Our natural inclination is often to choose the less demanding option over the more rewarding, but harder-to-achieve, goal. Continuous bombardment by advertising and entertainment cause us to choose unwisely. The lure of gaiety wins out over its sober cousin, responsible selection of pastimes. So many worthwhile endeavors are waiting to be embraced, but the lightness and instantaneous nature of distracting endeavors deter. Learning to choose wisely is an important sign of understanding the importance of balance.”

This quote is from the chapter “Distractions Along the Way” in The Gift of Intuitive, Dedicated Comfort.

Perhaps writing a blog post about this waste of precious time will help me stay focused. I hope that my confession helps some of you too.

From Connection:

ticking tocking
on and on
the clock ticks on
and ticks some more

*wispy fluff was first defined in Pond a Connected Existence. It is empty and valueless time wasters. It is unimportant and un-elevating.

The World Uprooted—Applause Confusion

Post 13-screen beans supportingIn a world where applause is for beauty and celebrity is for ball kicking, uprootedness is occurring.

Applause should be for those who care for the animals and for the vegetation and for the vulnerable. Applause with enthusiasm should be for the people who deliver babies or deliver sustenance from family farms or deliver animals from cruel existence or deliver protection of nature from fires and floods.

Applause for people who strut down runways is applause confused. Applause for people who run after dementia-afflicted people is applause correct.

Applause for professional ball kickers or ball throwers is applause undeserved. Applause for professional arborists working in difficult climates is applause deserved.

Celebrity worship and star fixation are turning the world upside down. The stars become unreal—and suffer because of that—and the fixated lose focus of true values.

Each person who gives more value to an undeserving individual because of sports prowess or body size is contributing to the upside-down existence. Each person can help right the world by focusing on those who bring betterment. Each person can help right the world by allotting time to endeavors that correct misguided infatuations.

Let the celebrities and the sports stars and the models move back, and let the real applause-deservers shine!

Underachievement

Underachievement

What does underachievement mean?

It means knowing what you want, but settling for something else.

It means having companionship that causes you shrinkage.

It means following the path of others when those paths are inappropriate.

It means seeing yourself in a belittling mirror.

It means agreeing to suggestions that just hearing them causes shutting down.

Who are affected by underachievement?

Children who aim to please no matter what the request.

Partners in a relationship who agree to unwanted treatment.

Friends who have their own opinions but are ignored.

Followers of celebrities who allow the celebrities’ achievements to be more important than personal achievements.

Why do people let themselves underachieve?

Boredom

Fear

Guilt

Culture

Ease

How can an underachiever bring change?

Find positivity in aspects of one’s life.

Grow these positive aspects.

Allow the positive aspects to be the focus.

People to watch

(a re-view of the post “Sometimes the Least Boisterous Person is the True Star—The Dos & Dont’s of Notice”)

Attention

True attention deservers are the ones that take part, help out, and bring hope.
The others deserve less notice…

In a gathering, there usually are the people who stand out. They generate more buzz, they attract attention. There are the people who mill around the buzz-makers and there are the people who make the buzz in the background.

The background buzz-makers are the real ones to follow, but they often don’t make the fuss that generates the action. These people do acts of kindness, make others comfortable, fulfill the role of support provider, and consider the needs of society. These people understand that they are obligated: obligated to care for their families and their community and obligated to remember the needs of the environment and of the creatures that inhabit the Earth.

There are stand-out individuals who not only generate buzz in the limelight, but also fulfill their obligations in much-larger-than-self ways. They, and the less visible obligation-fulfillers, receive notice in the spiritual realm where one’s actions really matter.

This blog post provides the Dos and Dont’s of getting noticed for behavior deserving of notice.

DO:  Fill your time with sustaining activities

Here are a few examples of sustaining activities from Pond a Connected Existence:

“Spending time with loved ones! Playing with babies! Teaching children in the customs and traditions of one’s forebears! Singing! Dancing! Singing well! Singing flat! Artistic expression! Preparing healthful meals! Picnics!  Family gatherings! Gatherings of friends! Gatherings of people for life events—sad ones and happy ones!… Working with gusto! Working with integrity! Working in unison and working alone! Group activities that have a higher purpose! Group activities that bring enjoyment! Walking! Running! Jumping! Riding a bike! Riding a wave! Swimming! Moving for fun and moving for health! …”

DO: Take care of the environment

Taking care of the environment includes planting plants, trees, and flowers. It also includes not littering and not being wasteful with the Earth’s resources.

DO: Take part in activities that bring betterment to the community and to the less fortunate

No matter how busy you think you are, you are not too busy to help out with a volunteer organization in your area (unless you are attending to a terminally ill family member which is consuming all of your time).

DO: Smile, even when smiling feels forced

A smile lifts the spirits of those who see the smile and the one who wears the smile. As an experiment, sing a song while not smiling and then sing the song again while smiling. Smiling simply changes one’s mood and one’s influence on others.

DON’T: Smile at a person if you are thinking bad thoughts about them

A fake smile cannot necessarily be detected by others, but it is recorded in the spiritual realm. Pretending to be happy when someone makes you unhappy is the incorrect approach. If someone really affects you in a negative way, either try to limit exposure to this person or try to change the dynamic.

DON’T: Fill your time with non-sustaining activities

“Non-sustaining activities include small things like watching too much TV, playing too many computer games, eating junk food, complaining about inconveniences. Larger non-sustaining activities include things like participating in aggressive behavior towards other people, other creatures, or the environment; eating too much food; focusing on the lives of people who have no true relevance in one’s life (for instance, following the movements of a celebrity or keeping tabs on old love interests); pretending to like one’s job or partner or pastimes or this or that, when one is unhappy…” – “Pond a Connected Existence”.

DON’T: Say no when asked to help just because you want more free time

“Obligation to one’s community is much larger than many people think. Taking part in elections, taking part in cleaning up, taking part in communal rituals—these are the basic obligations on all. Beyond those acts, one should participate in bettering the community. ” – “Pond a Connected Existence”

Saying no when help is needed does not earn notice where it matters. If you are feeling too tired, rather than lessening your sustaining activities, examine your less sustaining activities and consider lessening them.

DON’T: Be wasteful

Appreciate what you have. Don’t be greedy with your desires. In general, people want more than they need so try to be reasonable in your usage of resources that are not easily replenishable.

Conclusion

The notice being discussed here is not notice by the people seeking excitement. It is notice in the spiritual realm that considers the actions of people and provides spiritual connection or not.

The more a person strives to bring balance to himself or herself and to the family, community, and neighboring environment, the more possibility of spiritual connection and guidance. Balance within and with all lead to life lived purposefully and with spiritual connection.

Change approach: Is 10:90 reality?

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“The feeling of life in one’s body is an extraordinary feeling. Noticing the feeling of being alive, of being awake, of being vital. Amazing! Yet we often take the amazingness for granted and don’t appreciate it. Too many of us focus on pain or discomfort or hurt feelings. Those things exist, but they are minor in comparison to the body’s vitality!

When the blues hit or the bones creak, they take the focus and move miraculous existence to second place. Keep in mind that emotional ebbs and physical challenges are just parts of living—but they are not the main elements. They steal attention from the important aspects of life, and we must be vigilant to not become immersed in the difficult and unhappy moments.” This reminder about the importance of perspective is from the “Introduction” in Vitality!.

10 : 90. This ratio is important to remember. It is the average of negative and positive things in a person’s life. 10% is the negative things; 90% is the positive things. The positive things are largely taken for granted and the negative things receive importance way beyond their significance.

10 : 90. Bah. That 10% feels heavy. How can it be so small? The little annoyances and the larger afflictions expand beyond their actual effects because they are deviations from the normal state and they are cacophonous communication from our bodies. When something is out of whack or when happenings occur that derail us, the noise they make catch our attention and require action. The 10% perpetuate. Because they bother or annoy or require attention, they grow—if not in actual size then in demand for attention. The 10% needs attention and resolution (when possible).

10 : 90. The 90% is the take-for-granted percentage. It includes these three things: sleeping and rising refreshed and ready for the next day (when sleep is not trivialized), regular functioning of the body, and ability to accomplish many goals. It includes these three things: having shelter from the elements, delight in possessions, and clothing for the body. And it includes home helpers (washing machine, refrigerator, lighting, entertainment suppliers [TV, stereo, computer, etc.], and many more), indoor plumbing, and food that is easily accessible and does not need to be foraged or hunted. Continuing on, there is photography and there is storage. The list grows and diversifies for each person, family, and community.

The 10 is small next to the 90  SMALL  Small   small. The 90 is deserving of thanks and attention.

Think 90 : 10 !

 

The face of laziness

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A person experiencing life in a no-need-to-strive way is living life partially.

Striving is a built-in endeavor for staying alive. In past times when survival was the driving force, the importance of striving to stay alive was utmost. In modern times, survival is assumed and so, striving to stay alive is less governing. Nonetheless, the natural urge to strive remains, and it requires direction.

Many outlets are available for the urge to strive. There are goals to achieve and goals to overplan. There are goals to continuously maintain and goals to share. There are goals to do in unison and goals to do alone. Building family units and community tasks are continuous striving outlets. So too are one’s personal care and ideas.

The conveniences of today enable striving that is optional. Optional striving confuses. Optional striving stresses. Optional striving can lead to immobility. It can even lead to conceit and laziness. Striving that is optional is a luxury that can be negative or positive depending upon each person’s actions and decisions.

The way in which a person chooses to strive–or not–is reflected on his or her face. Too many people have opted to ignore the drive to achieve, and their bodies reflect this mistaken choice. Striving for personal balance (physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual) and for community connection are purposes that nourish the built-in force to strive.

“Purpose in life is the force that enables overcoming obstacles and other difficulties. Finding purpose is a must for experiencing satisfaction in one’s comings and goings. …”

from https://energy-guidance-complete.com/2013/11/04/striving-and-striving-more/

Same you, new view

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The view from inside is often critical and too focused. Self-examination usually reveals missteps and mistakes, faulty executions, and missing sound evaluations.

In reality, missteps and mistakes might have happened, but at a lower level than the internal review presented. People tend to be too self-critical and judgmental.

What is the new view?

The new view is examination without negative judgment, evaluation without name-calling and put-downs. The new view is passionate but realistic, thorough but forgiving, expectant but fair, demanding but evenhanded.

We know our capabilities and our aptitude. We know our achievements and successes from the past. Focusing on the desired goals and working towards them guide us and lessen the hold of criticism and self-doubt.

To repeat: focusing on the goals and working towards them, letting the criticism and self-doubt flitter away, is the start to a new view of oneself.

“Implementing openness and patience and understanding towards oneself provide the way for balancing personal opinion. Being open to one’s own abilities and gifts. Being patient when learning new skills. Being patient when trying new endeavors. Understanding that perfection is the realm of Spirit only and that the created perfection of the world flows from very imperfect segments. Perfection and perfectionism should be banned words! Unattainable, time wasters, alienating.” …from Oneself—Living

Review of the tests for maintaining health

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The last seven posts presented the tests that should be performed regularly to improve and sustain health. These tests require thought and desire to live purposefully. These tests monitor all aspects of health: physical health and sustenance of the body, emotional health, intellectual input, and connectedness to the world beyond our personal territory. These tests prevent a life lived partially, if we are careful to live with the understanding of our impact on the world.

“Knowing what to do to keep healthy is basic required knowledge. Knowing what to eat or how much to drink to stay hydrated are the most obvious keys to good health. Understanding the need and frequency of sleep is required as well. Health is not the villain to be battled or feared; health is the means to meaningful living and ultimate satisfaction with one’s life.” …from Pond a Connected Existence

The better the health, the more we can focus on life outside ourselves. Letting go of overemphasis on food or self or possessions or appearance can free us to be focused on real issues. Eating too much or too little or improperly are wasteful endeavors. Trying to do everything alone or holding back from taking part in society are against our design. Coveting or buying too many possessions hurt us emotionally and hurt the environment. Caring more for how we look than how we treat others is simply mistaken behavior.

If you haven’t yet looked at the tests, take a look now and consider the questions thoughtfully. Each of us impacts our society and beyond our society so much more than we realize. And our impact comes back around and affects our health—for better or worse.

Wishing you amazing test results!

Renee

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Letting time dribble away

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Here is my typical workday these days: sit down at the computer and read emails, look at my blog statistics, check my Facebook page, read the news main topics, open the file for the book I’m working on and go to where I left off, add a sentence or two, check the news again (things are unstable so the news changes quickly), see if anyone has commented on Facebook, get up to get a drink, vow to only work on my book, peek to see if there are any new emails and news, go to my book and try to focus, get frustrated so do some administrative work for my husband, take another quick look at blog statistics, and so on. Not much getting written, but lots of valuable time dribbling away.

I know that I am meant to bring much wisdom to the world and yet I procrastinate. Sometimes I struggle with the questions I need to ask in order to receive the wisdom. Sometimes I struggle with the individual words. Sometimes I struggle with the graphics. And sometimes I struggle with the immensity of my purpose.

I’m about to receive wisdom to guide me during this time of distraction, and I’m sharing it on my blog in hopes that it will help others who are time wasters like me. Here goes:

Renee—you have been shown what you represent. You bring about understanding of connection to beyond when you focus your time and effort. To focus: do the huff’ n’ puff exercise each morning for at least 5 minutes, do one of the exercises for connecting to spiritual support once a week, and only open your document on the computer. Strive!

I give messages to people I work with, and they choose to make the changes that can bring them balance and understanding—or not. They have free choice to change. The messages I receive require acceptance by me. The gift comes with expectations.

Time is deceptive. Life is multi-textured. The time spent creating a life that is reaching and grounded is time that is used wisely. Strive!

To continue or not

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When faced with disasters, whether or not they actually affect people, some are unsure how to function. Continue living as before? Stop regular activities and focus on the disaster?

The confusion that surrounds clear thinking during these times is typical, but moving beyond the confusion is important. Real and possible disasters cause people to function tentatively, but tentative functioning is off-wards. Tentative functioning moves towards impaired decision making and time spent incorrectly. From Oneself—Living:

“In life, there are many things to fear! Accidents can happen, animals can attack, people can go crazy. Things can fall or break or burn or tear. Bridges can collapse, boats can capsize, cars can collide. Germs spread, viruses multiply, bacteria proliferate, fungi grow. Schedules change, priorities shift, deadlines get pushed forward. Friends need help, coworkers need support, pets need tending. Mirrors break, windows break, dishes break. Food (which is normally nutritious and good for consumption) causes choking, water (which is usually life-sustaining) carries water-borne diseases. War, pestilence, famine, and death. Many things to fear, many things to cause anxiety, many things to trigger unhappiness.

Being fearful is a result of experiencing, or anticipation of experiencing, events that cause pain or difficulty. Being fearful is a result of internal and external pressure. Being fearful is unique to each individual….”

What to do

  1. Breathe deeply, consider the positive aspects of life, and continue.
  2. Eat nutritious foods so that your mind is nourished properly, and continue.
  3. Sing, play an instrument, paint, move (dance, run, etc.), build something, and let yourself be focused on your creative endeavors.

Continue doing what?

Continue to function, make music, create, move, and connect. Continue to feel. Continue to bond with family and others and continue to care for the future.

If you can participate in disaster relief or prevention, then participate. Participate in living. Participate in participation!

Sometimes the Least Boisterous Person is the True Star—The Dos & Dont’s of Notice

 

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(taken from my article of the same title on HealingAnswers.com)

In a gathering, there usually are the people who stand out. They generate more buzz, they attract attention. There are the people who mill around the buzz-makers and there are the people who make the buzz in the background.

The background buzz-makers are the real ones to follow, but they often don’t make the fuss that generates the action. These people do acts of kindness, make others comfortable, fulfill the role of support provider, and consider the needs of society. These people understand that they are obligated: obligated to care for their families and their community and obligated to remember the needs of the environment and of the creatures that inhabit the Earth.

There are stand-out individuals who not only generate buzz in the limelight, but also fulfill their obligations in much-larger-than-self ways. They, and the less visible obligation-fulfillers, receive notice in the spiritual realm where one’s actions really matter.

This blog post provides the Dos and Dont’s of getting noticed for behavior deserving of notice.

DO:  Fill your time with sustaining activities

Here are a few examples of sustaining activities from Pond a Connected Existence:

Spending time with loved ones! Playing with babies! Teaching children in the customs and traditions of one’s forebears! Singing! Dancing! Singing well! Singing flat! Artistic expression! Preparing healthful meals! Picnics!  Family gatherings! Gatherings of friends! Gatherings of people for life events—sad ones and happy ones!… Working with gusto! Working with integrity! Working in unison and working alone! Group activities that have a higher purpose! Group activities that bring enjoyment! Walking! Running! Jumping! Riding a bike! Riding a wave! Swimming! Moving for fun and moving for health! …

DO: Take care of the environment

Taking care of the environment includes planting plants, trees, and flowers. It also includes not littering and not being wasteful with the Earth’s resources.

DO: Take part in activities that bring betterment to the community and to the less fortunate

No matter how busy you think you are, you are not too busy to help out with a volunteer organization in your area (unless you are attending to a terminally ill family member which is consuming all of your time).

DO: Smile, even when smiling feels forced

A smile lifts the spirits of those who see the smile and the one who wears the smile. As an experiment, sing a song while not smiling and then sing the song again while smiling. Smiling simply changes one’s mood and one’s influence on others.

DON’T: Smile at a person if you are thinking bad thoughts about them

A fake smile cannot necessarily be detected by others, but it is recorded in the spiritual realm. Pretending to be happy when someone makes you unhappy is the incorrect approach. If someone really affects you in a negative way, either try to limit exposure to this person or try to change the dynamic.

DON’T: Fill your time with non-sustaining activities

Non-sustaining activities include small things like watching too much TV, playing too many computer games, eating junk food, complaining about inconveniences. Larger non-sustaining activities include things like participating in aggressive behavior towards other people, other creatures, or the environment; eating too much food; focusing on the lives of people who have no true relevance in one’s life (for instance, following the movements of a celebrity or keeping tabs on old love interests); pretending to like one’s job or partner or pastimes or this or that, when one is unhappy… – “Pond a Connected Existence”.

DON’T: Say no when asked to help just because you want more free time

Obligation to one’s community is much larger than many people think. Taking part in elections, taking part in cleaning up, taking part in communal rituals—these are the basic obligations on all. Beyond those acts, one should participate in bettering the community.  – “Pond a Connected Existence”

Saying no when help is needed does not earn notice where it matters. If you are feeling too tired, rather than lessening your sustaining activities, examine your less sustaining activities and consider lessening them.

DON’T: Be wasteful

Appreciate what you have. Don’t be greedy with your desires. In general, people want more than they need so try to be reasonable in your usage of resources that are not easily replenishable.

Conclusion

The notice being discussed here is not notice by the people seeking excitement. It is notice in the spiritual realm that considers the actions of people and provides spiritual connection or not.

The more a person strives to bring balance to himself or herself and to the family, community, and neighboring environment, the more possibility of spiritual connection and guidance. Balance within and with all lead to life lived purposefully and with spiritual connection.

Is happiness the goal?

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Is happiness the goal? Is monetary success the goal? Is recognition the goal? Is leadership the goal? Is applause the goal?

Happiness, monetary success, recognition, leadership, and applause are aspects of living, but they are not the goals of life. The goals of life are these:

  • Acknowledging the awe that exists in the natural world
    Accepting the limitations of our humanness
    Assisting others in overcoming their personal difficulties
    Overcoming personal difficulties
    Avoiding intentional damage to the environment
    Avoiding intentional damage to ourselves
    Protecting weaker species
    Guiding the future generations in the correct ways of living
    Assisting others in achieving spiritual awareness
    Creating warm and lasting relationships with family members
    Creating warm and lasting relationships with chosen friends

from The Gift of Intuitive, Dedicated Comfort.

These goals enable us to be connected to our surroundings, connected to our future, connected to our past, and balanced in our living. These goals steady our focus and guide our actions. These goals lead to contentment and understanding. These goals breathe.

Wanting to be happy is elusive, but wanting to have warm and lasting relationships is nourishing. Wanting monetary success is time-qualified, but wanting to provide for oneself and any dependents is time-extending. Having recognition brings a sense of accomplishment, but guiding future generations in the correct ways of living is true accomplishment. Leading is important, but accepting one’s limitations as a human being is required for true leadership abilities. Applause brings momentary excitement, but spiritual awareness and acknowledgement brings continuous amazement and passion.

Goals are necessary for productive and purposeful living. Large goals are like maps; smaller goals are like road signs. Each showing the way in a world that is unclear without them.

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