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When a deadline is looming, people respond in many, many ways. Each person has a way of coping or approaching or ignoring or using the deadline to achieve/fail. Some people aim for success; some people aim for failure. Yes, both are aims and both are normal reactions depending on each person’s attitude, history, and current bodily balance or imbalance.

This post is being presented to those who aim for success. (I bet you thought it would be the other aim.)

Aiming for success is usually a positive aspiration. Success in one’s endeavors is considered to be the goal that should be reached. Success. What is success? The dictionary says that success means the attainment of wealth, honors, position, etc. In society, wealth, the receipt of awards, CEOs, elected leaders, and celebrity are the coveted (eagerly wished for) ideals.

Let’s look at success in life. What are successful life goals?

  • Maintaining good family relationships—not always easy, but worth making a goal.
  • Maintaining community—very important and worth the investment.
  • Maintaining a healthy outlook about oneself—influences all the other goals and is vital for reaching the goals with health and self-esteem unharmed.
  • Maintaining work requirements—delivering (a performance or a report), showing up when expected, influencing others or work conditions,  performing duties properly and with concern (no matter the type of work), providing the needed skills (relearning or staying current as needed), and focusing when focus is required.
  • Maintaining a relationship with the environment and the creatures that inhabit the planet. “Creatures” include animals and people.

Success is large and small. Large and small successes. Public and private successes. Often, the small and private successes are the most important.

Getting back to deadlines—each person determines the approach that works or doesn’t work. Remembering to attend to all of the life goals should help keep focus and lessen wasteful fretting and wasteful actions.

The person that I am truly meant to be


Oh if life were so easy
I would be the person I was meant to be
I would take on challenges and handle them with ease
I would be open and funny and clever
I would look fabulous and sing on key
I would not be cranky or defensive
And I would not get upset over silly things.

But life isn’t easy
So I let myself off the hook
And often don’t try
And blame others
And wallow in misery
And even give up

Perhaps there is a place where
I can find respite from my too-difficult me
Where my mind shuts up
And my gut finally stills
Where I let myself accept
And I let myself free
The person that I am truly meant to be.

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Too many people let themselves sink too low. Rather than rejoice in their living, they choose their misery. Sometimes the cause is nutritional, sometimes the cause is hormonal, and sometimes the cause is just habit. When the reason is laziness or lack of appreciation, the way out is through communal service. When the reason is nutritional or hormonal, the way out is through intervention by a nutritionist, naturopath, doctor, or other healing specialist.

There are other causes as well for the spiral downwards, and often spiritual connection can aid the situation. Energy Guidance Complete is spiritual healing focused on balance and elevated living. Making changes in one’s focus can lead to changes in one’s self-centeredness. Finding guidance that is larger than oneself can loosen self-absorption.  Accepting that the difficulties are just difficulties that can be handled releases self-indulgence.

Making changes is not difficult when we truly want to change. Yes, we can make changes when we truly want to change. The first step is to want to bring change. The next step is to truly want to change. Then the search can begin for how to change so that we can live the life that fits who we are.

Attention deficit: a reason to medicate or a natural way of being

Children playing outside on a sunny day

People’s inability to focus has been the basis of entire industries for the last forty to fifty years. It has skyrocketing potential for so many businesses that its existence feeds economic trends. Attention deficiencies bolster the production of ingested aids (medicines, vitamins, etc.), behavioral aids, and lifestyle products. There are therapists to diagnose and therapists to advise, therapists to teach the parents and therapists to teach the children. So much activity around an invented affliction!

Inability to focus has causes. Sometimes there are birth defects that lead to attention deficiencies, but these causes are not the reasons for the new enormous industries. The new industries created the new disorders without facing the causes.

There are four main causes of inability to focus in the modern world:

  1. Industrialization, which brought with it urbanization and specialization
  2. Personal communication devices: radios, TVs, stereo systems, telephones, etc.
  3. Distancing from nature and from nature’s splendors and rhythms
  4. Standard learning methodologies in schools, universities, and courses that are not appropriate for most of those studying (approximately 60%)

Of all these causes, distancing from nature is the most serious. People require exposure to nature’s creatures (domesticated animals, untamed animals, fish, and insects), nature’s landscapes, edible foods in nature, flowers, plants, trees, and seasonal changes. These elements teach and develop attention capabilities. Without these connections to nature—or with only limited exposure to them—the ability to concentrate for extended periods of time is lessened and unappreciated, the ability to focus is shortened, and the ability to be resourceful is lessened. Not for everyone, but for most.

Industrialization led (1) to people moving into housing that cuts them off from nature and (2) to work that is specialized. Modern society’s focus on specialization has led to repetitive labor, day after day, year after year, be it in a field, at a desk, or by a computer. Specialization appears to advance societal goals, but in actuality, it limits people, which in turn, constrains society. Repetitive labor lessens the life of the laborer/person—not necessarily in terms of length of lifespan, but more in terms of a reduced existence. Specialization affects ability to focus by requiring unnatural attention to a limited area. Some people naturally feel at ease focusing on a limited area, but most don’t.

Personal communication devices pull people away from self-created enjoyments. Creating one’s own enjoyment requires focus and self-awareness. When someone else creates the enjoyment, focus is reduced. Earlier personal communication devices, like radios, caused people to reevaluate their own skills at entertainment and to sometimes quit. Stereo systems contributed to the move away from self-entertainment and attempts to create music. Television brought visual entertainment into the home, which led to a lessening in public gatherings and continued reevaluation of personal skills and desire to create entertainment. Telephones enable people to gather even less. Personal computers and phones continue the move from gathering together and have changed many aspects of self-entertainment, which then leads to increased inability to focus.

All people learn differently. Some learn through experiential training, some learn visually, some learn by hearing other people’s stories, and some learn only the things that really interest them. The standardized methodologies for teaching in a classroom assist no more than 40% of the students. The other 60%–the majority—require learning that is different. These people are stigmatized as problem learners when they actually have normal learning capabilities.

These four causes of inability to focus are interwoven into the fabric of modern society. Schools teach the minority of students well and fall short with the majority. Attachment to personal communication devices lessens patience and attention. Specialization narrows focus and awareness of things beyond one’s specialty. Detachment from nature removes opportunities for focus enhancement.

The attention deficiencies industries overlook the four causes and look at normal human traits as negative characteristics to be changed. They ignore the fact that modern living requires focus on activities that can be dull, rote, repetitive, and constraining. They trivialize the natural needs to move and change focus. They ignore the importance of connection to nature.

Modern schools, work places, institutions, and organizations require participation in dull, rote, repetitive, and constraining tasks and situations. People were designed for tasks and situations that are ever-changing. Tasks that demand constant focus and lengthy concentration tax the natural nature of humans. Distractions, tempest, whirl, and hurly-burly—those are the situations that people respond to.

Sitting in a classroom with a teacher droning on—NO! Sitting at a computer with few breaks—NO! Sitting on a factory line repeating the same motion over and over and over and over—NO! Hours of religious expression with expected intention—NO! People were not designed for these situations. To expect them to handle these situations and not fidget or daydream or disturb would require a new design.

People are designed for doing some of this, doing some of that, moving here, then moving there, short bouts of focus, studied execution of required tasks and chosen pursuits—and then sleep to recharge, repair, and function. People cannot hear and digest information delivered perfunctorily nor handle verbal assault nor accept displays of unimaginative and unmeant praise nor decipher dull and sterilized writing nor participate in uninspired presentations nor stay still for too long nor perform religious requirements without proper guidance and inspiration. Doing these things results in attention distraction, anger or enhanced criticism, dulled emotions and responses, and opposition to more than the cause of the opposition.

As mentioned earlier, the influences of nature were once major influences on people. Some people and cultures run their lives around the cycles of nature, but the number of people who are nature-centric lessens with developments in technology. The connection to flora and fauna significantly 1) broadens and heightens understanding of cycles and fluctuations; 2) develops appreciative and inquisitive capabilities; and 3) causes people to examine and work with vegetation that aid human life and animals that enhance human existence. When people allowed fluctuations of time, season, and life to govern their lives, they developed more attentive skills.

The creation of societies that reward unnatural behaviors and occupations and punish normal human behavior punish themselves. People force and repress and mold themselves to function within the constraints of modern societies. They think they are superior when they manage to overcome their natural inclinations for movement and physical expression. People do manage to adjust to their polygonal existences, but their bodies and spirits bear the brunt of the altered requirements.(A polygonal existence is a life that feels twisted and unnatural, a life that is unbalanced and incorrectly focused.)

Attention to the world around, to other people’s actions and antics, to creatures other than humans, to plant life, and to other-worldly possibilities can sharpen attention capabilities. Attention capabilities are dulled through focus on petty inconveniences, petty pursuits, mindless entertainment, mindless lecturing,  futile escapes, futile reasoning to justify lack of initiative, words spoken without thought, words spoken in a tone of condescension or disgust, distractive substances that steal focus,  and distractive and negative thoughts that are untrue or unnecessary. When attention capabilities are challenged, habits, influences, and routines should be examined.

Assuming that a person has a deficit because he or she cannot stay still or cannot focus on a dull and uninspiring topic reflects badly on society. There are people born with deficits or who acquire deficits through accident or illness, but perceived deficits of people who are unable to force themselves to live within uncompromising regulations are not deficits—they are expressions of frustration or unreleased energy or laziness or despair.

The rush of the attention deficiencies industries to pronounce people as needing ingested aids, behavioral aids, and lifestyle products in order to function is foolhardy and destructive. Some of ingested aids damage internal functioning of the body. All of the aids lessen society’s view of the people who are treated as attention deficient—including the people themselves.

What changes are needed to lessen attention deficiencies, besides changing society?

  • Spending more time around plants, trees, and flowers.
  • Spending more time with animals at home, at zoos, at bird observation sites, in nature.
  • Reading more for pleasure.
  • Spending more time outside feeling the weather.
  • Regularly using the body physically through exercise or activities that incorporate movement.
  • Participating in creating music and musical performances.
  • Spending more time with family or friends doing volunteer work.
  • Studying topics that are interesting.
  • Creating meals from scratch.
  • Developing hobbies that involve concentration and gradual improvement.
  • Using personal communication devices less.

Instead of focusing on attention deficiencies, the attention deficiencies industries could focus on attention capabilities. To do so, attention capability needs to be understood. There are six aspects of attention capability:

  • The ability to take in outside stimuli and think about them in orderly and sequential thought processes, and use the subsequent and processed information to formulate ideas, images and sensory input, questions, impressions and intuitive evaluations (for positive and negative stimuli), and information for storage.
  • The ability to identify information, opinions, memories, and guidelines that are stored or remembered, and to apply them to incoming stimuli.
  • The ability to filter out unnecessary, trivial, and malicious information from all incoming and internalized information.
  • The ability to evaluate outside stimuli and determine the need for using them. For example, when noticing a person walk by—First, evaluating the person in relation to oneself: identifying the person as familiar (family, friend, or acquaintance) or known but unacquainted (friend of a friend, famous, work personnel, etc.) or unknown but interesting (appealing physically or not, engaged in eye-catching activity, wearing eye-catching apparel, etc.) or unknown and suspicious or simply unknown. Second, determining an appropriate response if required, initiating an action or not, taking note of the person or something about the person or letting the person pass by without an intake of information.
  • The ability to focus on outside stimuli that must be internalized.
  • The ability to use the senses to connect with environmental (not man-made) activity, changes, and patterns.

The attention capabilities industries could focus on these aspects of attention to elevate people rather than looking for deficiencies that aren’t existent. There is much that can be done to elevate people. The first step is to abandon the invented affliction of attention deficiencies.

Note: This information is from the first draft of the upcoming book Invented Afflictions and Muscular Conditions. This information has been spiritually received. Some of the information has been published here in earlier blog posts.

Letting go of things that hold me back, a poem


When I received this poem two years ago, I saw it as a universal poem with meaning for everyone, and partially for me. I received the words, agreed with their message, published the book, and forgot the poem. Recently I’ve been rereading Unfolding—A Collection of Wisdom Poetry, and this poem jumps out at me as the one that has the most relevance to me at this time.


I’m about to publish a book about aging well, and one of the most important goals is to be focused on the aspects of living that bring satisfaction and growth. But to do this requires letting go of the things that hold hostage.

I am held hostage by my expectations of others and of myself, by old memories that criticize, by wasted time spent on unimportant pursuits, by holding myself back from flying with Energy Guidance, and by procrastinating. The simple message “Do it!” tells me to not only let go, but to move ahead and do the things that will bring me growth and satisfaction.

I’m going to photocopy this poem and paste it on my wall 🙂

Unfolding—A Collection of Wisdom Poetry can be purchased through amazon.com stores: http://amzn.com/1508828229

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Muddling Through


Mud makes us happy when we are playful children. Mud makes us miserable when we are busy adults with little time for extra cleaning. The cleaning of the mud is an extra chore that few choose to take on willingly.

And yet, many go through life acquiring mud that they refuse to let go. This type of mud is not physical, but is just as dirtying and requiring of cleansing.

  • This mud is habits that hold us down.
  • This mud is relationships that mire us in muck.
  • This mud is internal criticism that dirties our thoughts.
  • This mud is chosen employment that creates unpleasant versions of ourselves.

Muddling through so that we can get through our days is not living; it is living trapped. We can get trapped into work that makes us feel empty or worthless. We can get trapped into relationships that cause us to feel depleted or used. We can get trapped into dramas that are not our own making, yet influence and dirty our living. Destructive habits and unfulfilled dreams trap us more.

Muddling through is a chosen way of life, and it’s surprising how many people choose to just muddle through. Even when they know how to pull themselves out, they choose not to. It’s more comfortable to stay in the same place and complain or give up.

Muddling through is not how people are meant to live. Muddling through should be reserved for times when unexpected events create the need to get through something or require efforts beyond our abilities. Muddling through is a positive thing when life demands beyond-our-control efforts. Muddling through is a negative thing when it becomes the regular mode of functioning.

The way we see mud, and the way we let it sink us or entertain us, focuses the way we get through life. With our determination to be ourselves comes our determination to not just muddle through. Muddling through is for specific times. Muddling through is best left for them and not for most of our days.

Here’s to living and not to just muddling through!

Upbeat Advice


“Smile and the whole world smiles with you.”

“If life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”

“Look on the bright side of life.”

People like quick fixes. They like sayings that make them feel good. They also like reassurances.

Energy Guidance looks on the bright side of life and sees the potential in everyone. Potential is possible and attainable through persistent efforts and focused activity. Potential is about changes when necessary and restraint when needed.

Since September 2013, Energy Guidance has appeared in books and this blog. The advice has been honest and current. Answers to unclear questions have been offered and medical afflictions have been tackled. Focused living and paths to well-being have been provided regularly.

If you have liked one or more of the blog posts, please share them with friends. If you know of people who suffer from health afflictions deciphered by Energy Guidance, please share the information with them.

Good advice is meant to be passed along. Spiritual wisdom can elicit skepticism, but if people can look beyond the source of the wisdom they can see that the advice is truly wise.

Give others the opportunity to grow with Energy Guidance by sharing it with them!

And remember to…

“Count your blessings!”

Sometimes the Least Boisterous Person is the True Star—The Dos & Dont’s of Notice


(taken from my article of the same title on HealingAnswers.com and reposted from 5-27-14)

In a gathering, there usually are the people who stand out. They generate more buzz, they attract attention. There are the people who mill around the buzz-makers and there are the people who make the buzz in the background.

The background buzz-makers are the real ones to follow, but they often don’t make the fuss that generates the action. These people do acts of kindness, make others comfortable, fulfill the role of support provider, and consider the needs of society. These people understand that they are obligated: obligated to care for their families and their community and obligated to remember the needs of the environment and of the creatures that inhabit the Earth.

There are stand-out individuals who not only generate buzz in the limelight, but also fulfill their obligations in much-larger-than-self ways. They, and the less visible obligation-fulfillers, receive notice in the spiritual realm where one’s actions really matter.

This blog post provides the Dos and Dont’s of getting noticed for behavior deserving of notice.

DO:  Fill your time with sustaining activities

Here are a few examples of sustaining activities from Pond a Connected Existence:

Spending time with loved ones! Playing with babies! Teaching children in the customs and traditions of one’s forebears! Singing! Dancing! Singing well! Singing flat! Artistic expression! Preparing healthful meals! Picnics!  Family gatherings! Gatherings of friends! Gatherings of people for life events—sad ones and happy ones!… Working with gusto! Working with integrity! Working in unison and working alone! Group activities that have a higher purpose! Group activities that bring enjoyment! Walking! Running! Jumping! Riding a bike! Riding a wave! Swimming! Moving for fun and moving for health! …

DO: Take care of the environment

Taking care of the environment includes planting plants, trees, and flowers. It also includes not littering and not being wasteful with the Earth’s resources.

DO: Take part in activities that bring betterment to the community and to the less fortunate

No matter how busy you think you are, you are not too busy to help out with a volunteer organization in your area (unless you are attending to a terminally ill family member which is consuming all of your time).

DO: Smile, even when smiling feels forced

A smile lifts the spirits of those who see the smile and the one who wears the smile. As an experiment, sing a song while not smiling and then sing the song again while smiling. Smiling simply changes one’s mood and one’s influence on others.

DON’T: Smile at a person if you are thinking bad thoughts about them

A fake smile cannot necessarily be detected by others, but it is recorded in the spiritual realm. Pretending to be happy when someone makes you unhappy is the incorrect approach. If someone really affects you in a negative way, either try to limit exposure to this person or try to change the dynamic.

DON’T: Fill your time with non-sustaining activities

Non-sustaining activities include small things like watching too much TV, playing too many computer games, eating junk food, complaining about inconveniences. Larger non-sustaining activities include things like participating in aggressive behavior towards other people, other creatures, or the environment; eating too much food; focusing on the lives of people who have no true relevance in one’s life (for instance, following the movements of a celebrity or keeping tabs on old love interests); pretending to like one’s job or partner or pastimes or this or that, when one is unhappy… – “Pond a Connected Existence”.

DON’T: Say no when asked to help just because you want more free time

Obligation to one’s community is much larger than many people think. Taking part in elections, taking part in cleaning up, taking part in communal rituals—these are the basic obligations on all. Beyond those acts, one should participate in bettering the community.  – “Pond a Connected Existence”

Saying no when help is needed does not earn notice where it matters. If you are feeling too tired, rather than lessening your sustaining activities, examine your less sustaining activities and consider lessening them.

DON’T: Be wasteful

Appreciate what you have. Don’t be greedy with your desires. In general, people want more than they need so try to be reasonable in your usage of resources that are not easily replenishable.


The notice being discussed here is not notice by the people seeking excitement. It is notice in the spiritual realm that considers the actions of people and provides spiritual connection or not.

The more a person strives to bring balance to himself or herself and to the family, community, and neighboring environment, the more possibility of spiritual connection and guidance. Balance within and with all lead to life lived purposefully and with spiritual connection.

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