What does underachievement mean?
It means knowing what you want, but settling for something else.
It means having companionship that causes you shrinkage.
It means following the path of others when those paths are inappropriate.
It means seeing yourself in a belittling mirror.
It means agreeing to suggestions that just hearing them causes shutting down.
Who are affected by underachievement?
Children who aim to please no matter what the request.
Partners in a relationship who agree to unwanted treatment.
Friends who have their own opinions but are ignored.
Followers of celebrities who allow the celebrities’ achievements to be more important than personal achievements.
Why do people let themselves underachieve?
How can an underachiever bring change?
Find positivity in aspects of one’s life.
Grow these positive aspects.
Allow the positive aspects to be the focus.
My last two posts have been about striving. Now let’s look at why people strive to accomplish pursuits that are difficult for them.
“People pursue difficult and challenging activities for many reasons: as a way to achieve recognition, as a way to escape unwanted experiences, as a way to experience the suspension of time, to force oneself to aid societal mores, and sometimes, because of pressure.” –from “Personal Endeavors” in The Gift of Intuitive, Dedicated Comfort.
Sometimes, challenges lead to accomplishment and sometimes, to mediocrity. How a person sees a challenge depends on upbringing, timing, and sense of purpose. Each of these factors contributes to attitude and approach.
Time invested in challenging endeavors is time spent. Possibly spent wisely, possibly not. Some challenges are not worth the investment. Knowing when to invest and when to look elsewhere determine how an achievement is selected. Achievements for the sake of achieving do not lead to purposeful living unless an unknown reason has led to the desire for pursuing the particular goal. The more one is aware of one’s motivation, the greater the likelihood of achievements that lead to elevated and purposeful living.