The antics of the well known are followed slavishly. People follow their twitters, swear by their lifestyle advice, and search out juicy tidbits about them.
The well-known celebrities and celebrity-idols tantalize with their talents and distance with their successes. The well-known have larger than life personas so that their doings seem more important than the doings of non-famous people. Their relationships and choices sparkle (or so it seems) and their thoughts fascinate (more than our own).
Why do we worship the famous?
- Because we are overloaded (too many distractions and too many expectations).
- Or because we are lacking fascinating goals of our own.
- Or because we are afraid to develop our own talents.
- Or because we are discouraged by the words of others who dashed our dreams.
Turning away from ourselves and directing our attention on well-known people releases our expectations of ourselves and cancels our interesting factor (we don’t have to be interesting). The fascinating people–the celebrities and celebrity-idols–receive our potential, and we live live through them.
How can we stop idolizing the celebrities?
Holding onto celebrity fixations is not necessary when fixation on ourselves and on the real people in our lives happens. Here are three ways to release celebrity idolization:
- Remove the overloading distractions. These include irrelevant gadgets, extra stuff in your house, and celebrity publications (online and print).
- Focus on personal goals and relationships.
- If unrealized dreams can be realized, let yourself release the words or actions that held you back. (This step might require assistance from therapeutic counsel.)
Worshipping the famous is focus overwhelmed. Each person has focus for his or her own abilities and for influences that extend these abilities. Focusing on someone else’s abilities diminishes possibilities to extend one’s own abilities.
Celebrity and celebrity-idol fixation brings little that is positive for a balanced life. Letting that attention-thief go is best!
Idolizing celebrities is removing. It literally removes a person from his or her reality, because the reality is away from where the “star” is located. The “star” is living a life somewhere else, and the idolizing person is existing in a place between reality and fairy tale. Fairy tale living is half living incarnate that renders the idolizer removed from reality and removed from time. Idolizing excessively creates facsimiles of the people doing the idolizing and of the people being idolized. Neither facsimile is real.
Idolized people become their idolized selves or dive into their area of expertise to avoid the fame. Becoming an idolized self is destructive, because no person can be the idolization of themselves. Avoiding the fame through total immersion in the area of expertise prevents establishment of relationships and well-rounded living. Both results of idolization remove the “stars” from living a real life.
Obsessively desiring to be like a celebrity prevents a person from seeing his or her own talents. When a celebrity’s achievements spur others to achieve their own goals, the teaching is uplifting. When the celebrity’s achievements become obsessions without causing positive results for the idolizer, the worship becomes destructive.
Looking beyond oneself for inspiration is normal human behavior. Watching elders teaches customs and traditions. Listening to others with skills or knowledge as a way to improve one’s own skills or knowledge is useful. Studying the achievements of a person who has impacted others in a positive way is enlightening.
Here are celebrity obsessive behaviors that cause removal from one’s own life:
- Displaying a holiday card of the family of a celebrity financial planner as if you know this family is removal from your own life.
- Following the tweets and instagrams of a celebrity instead of communications from family and friends is removal from your own life.
- Changing your appearance or buying clothes you can’t afford to look like a celebrity is removal from your own life.
- Changing your activities to watch a “star” walk by is removal from your own life.
- Abandoning principles and close people for the chance of spending time with a celebrity is removal from your own life.
Obsession with beautiful people is like celebrity obsession, because it creates people who are not real. Physical beauty is part of a person, but not the entire person. Physical beauty is just 1/12th of the person. Admiring a person because of 1/12th of who they are is evaluation misguided. Seeing beyond the obvious is right.
Each person’s star should be lighting the path from the sky and not another person because she sings well or he kicks a ball well. People aren’t stars. They are embodiments of their abilities and talents. They are not meant to be idolized.