People are programmed to be themselves. Each person has a pace at which he or she is comfortable, interests that are beckoning and fulfilling, abilities to do certain things with ease, and a definite sense of justice that is individualized. No two people are the same—not even identical twins.
With all the differences in pace, interests, abilities and sense of justice, people will naturally see the world differently. This division in behavior and personality carries the possibility for endless fascination about others. It also carries the possibility for endless opportunities to be annoyed. Seeing others as fascinating or annoying is a choice.
Within families, opportunities for amazement and fascination abound. Unfortunately, many people don’t recognize these opportunities and become annoyed and want their family members to be like them.
The mother whose pace is quick expects her children to be quick too, but they might have been soulfully given slower paces. If she doesn’t recognize their different paces as acceptable, she will be annoyed and push them to be different. Depending on her insistence, her children can become anxious to please her while being unable to keep her pace or overcompensate and lose touch with their true natures. They, in turn, may become annoyed at slow people, when in actuality, they themselves are naturally slower in actions.
The father, who is fascinated by competition and thrives in competitive work environments and competitions, could be annoyed at his wife and children if their natures do not embrace competition. He can push them to be like him, and push them away or cause them to be anxious or overly competitive. His annoyance will influence their opinions of themselves and of others.
Expecting people to be like you is an unrealistic expectation. It sets you up to be constantly annoyed, and if you have influence over others, it sets them up to be constantly annoyed at you or at themselves or at others. For people who choose to be annoyed, interactions will be constantly annoying, and daily life will be filled with unhappiness and disappointment.
God pushed me to write about this topic, because annoyance is wasted energy that creates negativity and destruction.
Our world deserves better. The more we accept each other’s differences, the more we create balance and peacefulness.