Hi everyone! I’m back to let you know that I finished the book about love and the heart, and have had it published. Here are excerpts:
“There are countless songs, poems, and stories about love and the heart. Often they come from places of wishful thinking and buried reality. “Love Leads the Way” contains no wishful thinking, rather it provides information about love and the heart that is important to know so that we can build nourishing relationships that guide us.”– Forward
To be connected to the soul requires an ability to harness the intangible knowledge that resides in the heart.
The heart knows the way of the man or woman who carries it. Hearts are physically similar (with variations according to body size; nutritional care received during gestation, infancy, and childhood; and weather [hot/cold/ damp/overcast/ intensely sunny]); and yet they are intangibly different from person to person, with no two hearts the same (as with a fingerprint).
The intangible heart is the best judge of character and motives, but it must overcome the forces that prevent it from working its magic…– Introduction
The work begins within! When we are unkind to ourselves, we inhibit our ability to relate to others in a balanced and caring way. Their idiosyncrasies annoy us rather than entertain us. We relate to them in harshness and in impatience. When we are kind to ourselves, we expand our caring for ourselves and for others.– Learning to Love “I”
…A broken heart is part of living. Our hearts break when loved ones die or when love is unrequited or when once-in-love is no more.– Heartache is a Holistic Response
Our bodies are designed to help us through the heartache, but the help comes by turning inwards and listening: listening to the feelings of pain and acknowledging them; …listening to the memories and cherishing or releasing them; listening to our inner voice and following its lead; … The more we listen, the better we heal.
Know that social connections keep your heart strong. They can’t mend a heart with physical defects, but they can encourage its daily functioning. Seek out opportunities to interact with others and eschew too many solitary endeavors. We are social animals. That’s part of our design.– Strengthening the Heart
The heart infuses life with emotion, with strength, and with direction. The heart reaches to the soul for guidance and brings the guidance in, even when soulful living has been abandoned or denied. The heart feels the connection to guardian angels, urging wisdom flow and urging sensations of comfort and support. The heart ties us to the rhythms in nature. In the spiritual realm, it pulls us into the flows and into the stillness.– Leading from the Heart
Love Leads the Way is available in paperback or Kindle. Click here for information.
The heart is congested when the body is full of heartache. Heartache comes from unrequited love, unfulfilled dreams, loneliness, blocked arteries, and hunger for nutrition.
Unrequited love can be present in and out of relationships. A committed relationship does not guarantee that the heart is receiving its share of love. A heart requires loving relationships that pump it full of emotional sustenance. When relationships lack surety of love, the emotional sustenance is reduced and the heart is susceptible to illness.
Unfulfilled dreams cause narrowing throughout the body: narrowing of passageways, messaging, and performance. Unfulfilled dreams open to illness and disease, and enable congestion to enter the heart.
Loneliness has direct dialogue with the heart. It harms the heart through sad thoughts and empty conversations.
Blocked arteries cause physical symptoms that are operable. Unblocking the arteries can clear congestion in the heart, but the congestion can return when the causes of the artery blockage are not lifted. Artery blockage is related to food intake, oxygen sufficiency, and sleep deprivation.
Hunger for nutrition is tricky. The heart hungers for food sources that are rich in nutritional goodness. The heart hungers for regular reinforcements of energy to keep the beat. The heart hungers for just enough and not too much. The heart hungers for relaxed ingestion. And the heart hungers for love.
An uncongested heart requires heartfelt relationships, a life lived authentically, companionship, nutritional reliability, rhythm in activities, and rhythm in nature.
Note: This information comes from my heartfelt connection with Spirit.
The appendix, one of the most misunderstood organs, is responsible for initiating many defensive actions in the body. Its connection to the heart is through prompting the heart to speed up when blood flow is sluggish and to slow down when wounds compromise life force (because too much blood is being lost to sustain life).
The appendix and the heart generally function independently of one another. Their tasks are complementary, yet separate. Only when blood flow is compromised does the appendix initiate heart-related activity.
For people whose appendixes have been removed, these activities are not transferred to other organs or systems in the body (unlike other healing activities that are transferred, as mentioned in the post “How does the body heal when the appendix is removed?”).
Note: This information has been spiritually, not scientifically, received.
Here are things that make the heart “happy”:
- Sensations of love!
- Frolicking in nature!
- Sensations from deep breathing
- Hugs from loved ones!
- Sustenance (food and water) that is nourishing
- Attention from an animal!
- Relaxed pumping speed and increases in pumping speed
(changing the pumping speed can keep the heart conditioned, when the heart is not stressed)
- Digestive happiness: eating nourishing foods that make the internal body feel good, (already mentioned), taking care of elimination needs as soon as they arise, and handling emotional issues that are felt in the digestive organs
- Immersion in focused concentration on beloved endeavors
- Smiles and laughter that emanate from feelings of joy!
- Rhythmic movements and making music!
- No self-criticism!!
Note: this information has been spiritually received. I think it’s amazing! What about you??
“My work is usually routine, but occasionally something happens—my carrying source [the person whose heart is speaking] does something that makes me shiver and shake, and all my work feels very hard to do.”
“I used to feel strong, but now I feel unable to be normal.”
The first heart that is “speaking” its lament is the heart of a woman in her twenties who uses cocaine on weekends. The second heart that is speaking its lament is the heart of an eight-year-old boy who is given Ritalin.
Cocaine and Ritalin—two substances that irregulate the heart.
Note: This information has been spiritually received. Take note that the hearts are telling their truth here. Parents should especially pay attention.
Note: This information was not scientifically received.
“My carrying source [the person whose heart is speaking] has smoked for many, many years. My oxygen supply is weak. My carrying source is worrying much of the time. My desire for understanding is weakened.” [Oxygen is a physical requirement of the heart; being understood by other people is an intangible requirement of the heart.]
“My work is hard to accomplish.”
The heart that is “speaking” its lament is the heart of a man who is 63 years old. His days consist of 1½ packs of cigarettes, too much coffee and too little water, too many hours focused on the problems in his business and too few hours in enjoyment with family and friends, and infrequent walks in nature.
He has faced health challenges, including a mild heart attack, and his family worries for his health. His heart struggles to support his life.
This heart is in need of more oxygen and more relaxation. It needs smoke-free living and walks outside breathing fresh air, more water and less coffee, quality time with friends and family, and less tension from worry. His heart needs his care and protection.
Note: This information has been spiritually provided. It has not been medically proven.
“I’m working as hard as I can, but it’s getting harder and harder for me to move the oxygen. I can still handle the lymphatic fluid with ease, but the oxygen is tiring me.
My carrying source [the person whose heart is speaking] is tired and refuses to stop working when I and the other members [the organs and systems in the body] indicate that we need to slow down. We push for our carrying source to sleep, but we are ignored night after night.
I feel shaking. Other members send shaking feelings and they cause me to shake too. The shaking sends me feelings of tightness and I pull myself in to slow the shaking. My tightness slows my work with the oxygen and even with the carbon dioxide. Back and forth my work goes—with strength and then with shaking, and I need the sleep to recalibrate.
When my flow source [the veins] feel weak, I work harder to support my carrying source. When my flow subjects [the arteries] feel blocked, I am forced to pause. The pausing is unfamiliar. It affects me and the other members, and makes us sluggish or pained. The pausing is not good.”
The heart that is “speaking” its lament is the heart of a woman who is 46 years old. She is 20 lbs/9.1 kg overweight, exercises once a week, eats too little whole foods, drinks too many soft drinks, smokes cigarettes sporadically, and sleeps less than 6 ½ hours a night.
Her time is divided between a full-time job, her family (husband, a teenager, a child who is an out-of-work college graduate, one parent, and two siblings), and studying once a week. She makes time for cooking once a week, meeting friends once every three or four weeks, and getting out in nature once every six weeks. Her outlook is influenced by self-criticism and self-doubt.
Her heart consistently supports her occasional bouts of excessive exercise and excessive eating. Her heart is in need of regular mealtimes, more enjoyment with friends and family, more time in nature and in movement, and seven hours of sleep a night. Her heart needs her care and protection.
Note: This information has been spiritually provided. It has not been medically proven.
Scientific studies have proven that stress hurts the heart. Spirit has advice to counter the effects of stress on your heart.
- As much as possible, breathe deeply. The more deeply you breathe, the more open your veins stay.
- If you’re having trouble breathing through your nose, remain unstressed about this breathing situation. The body is designed to inhale and exhale through the nostrils—sometimes through both simultaneously and sometimes alternatingly. Feeling stress when one nostril seems to be closed is stress misplaced. The body will balance the breathing, unless excessive amounts of mucus are being created because of a cold, allergic reaction, or reaction to medication. In these cases, slowed breathing through the nostrils or mouth will sustain the body.
- If you are feeling stressed, heart breathing can help: as you inhale, think of the breath coming in and surrounding your heart with care and protection. As you exhale, let the escaping breath leave your body carrying out unwanted thoughts. Heart breathing is strengthening and repairing.
- Movement can release stressful forces on the heart. Simple movement, such as wiggling the fingers or gently moving the head in different directions and angles, are minimal movements that lighten stress. Walking in nature or engaging in an enjoyed sport can be more helpful.
- Listening to music that relaxes lowers stress.
- Interacting with animals lowers stress and opens the arteries.
- Smiling relaxes the lungs, which then invigorate the heart. Smiling releases stress.
Involvement in society
- Showing gratitude to others—on a regular basis—helps the heart stay strong against stress.
- Meeting with people who are not stress-inducing—on a regular basis—helps the heart stay resilient against stress.
- Listening to others and empathizing with them helps the heart be pliable.
The heart and stress
The impact of stress on the heart cannot be studied easily, because of stress’s impact on the other organs and systems in the body. Our bodies are holistic entities that cannot be separated into parts without sacrificing the reality of interconnectedness.
All the tips presented in this blog post have impact throughout the body. They are worthwhile to pursue for well-being and balance. More can be done for well-being and balance, but doing these suggestions is a way to begin.
Note: This information has been spiritually received.
When a person feels depressed, clinically or not, the heart is affected. Moods are felt in the heart, physically and intangibly, so that uplifting feelings aid the heart’s restorative abilities and depressed feelings cause the heart to work more frenziedly.
Depression causes the heart to lose control of emotional restraint. Emotional reactions will be exaggerated or inappropriate. The emotional reactions can also be unavailable: the depressed person can’t tap into them, because the effort to access them is too demanding. When emotional reactions cannot be accessed, the depression is overtaking reason and is further forcing the heart to overwork itself.
There are many reasons to overcome depression, and heart health is one of them.
Note: This information was spiritually received.
Abandonment of the heart can be physical and emotional. Ignoring the heart’s calls for help when it physically hurts is physical abandonment. Ignoring the heart’s need for connections is emotional abandonment.
Physical abandonment can be felt more immediately, and ignored calls for attention can lead to impairment of heart function. Physical abandonment can also lead to extended impairment throughout the body.
Emotional abandonment is less immediately noticeable, but it afflicts the body over time if relationships are not nourished. Emotional abandonment is serious, but less ominous.
Physical impairment of the heart can come from improper care of the body, emotional turmoil that is excessive, or genetic weakness:
- Less can be done about genetic weakness; however, genetic weakness does not condemn a person to heart troubles. An emotionally strong heart can triumph over genetic predisposition to heart troubles.
- Emotional turmoil that is excessive strains the heart’s functioning. Heartache that leads to depression or restrained emotional connections can cause impairment. Overly excited outbursts of emotion—positive or negative—can disturb heart function over time and lead to weakening the heart’s rhythmic beating.
- Improper care of the body that leads to impairment of the heart is described in the blog posts “Heart attack secrets” and “Things that harm the heart”.
Physical abandonment of the heart is usually done without understanding that our actions create havoc in our bodies. Choosing to care for the heart involves rethinking choices and habits.
Emotional impairment of the heart can develop because of hurts experienced as a child or young adult, by heartache that is too profound, and by religious teachings that extol martyrdom. Emotional abandonment of the heart is as serious as physical abandonment, but its marks on the body are less pronounced. Its marks are mainly on society and family.
Whether abandonment of the heart is physical or emotional is less important that the fact that the heart can be abandoned. Abandonment of the heart is a sad thing that is reversible and worth fixing.
Note: This post was delivered to me through my heart’s connection to Spirit. Heart pain is worth checking with a medical doctor when it is continuous.
Dear life—yes life is dear, which is why we try so hard to stay alive. Even people living harrowing existences rarely give way to death without a struggle. The ones who take their own lives are deaf to the symphony that is playing their melody.
Yes, each of us has a melody that we hear unconsciously, and it doesn’t stop playing until the brain no longer controls our actions. The melody provides rhythm to our actions and to our thoughts. It changes over time and it changes its location in the body.
The heart provides the beat that sustains the mind’s staccato. The heart also provides the deepness of desire to live. Life is lived with heartfelt force.
Hanging on for dear life—the melody of life can be so easily altered or ended. Life is much more tentative than most of us realize. The best way to live life is with the symphony playing at full volume!!
Note: This post was delivered to me through my heart’s connection to Spirit. Spirit offers us love and kindness whenever we are ready to receive them.
A “flabby” heart sustains life partially. A toned heart works tirelessly to sustain life fully. The toned heart propels towards activity and accomplishments. The flabby heart works too hard simply keeping the body alive. Flabbiness is not good for the heart.
In the blog posts “Ways to calm the heart” and “Strengthening the heart”, exercise is mentioned as one of the components to keeping the heart strong and relaxed. In today’s blog post, Spirit is sharing ideas for keeping our hearts toned. Here we go…
- Learn breathing exercises. Learn many types so you can find the ones that make you feel strengthened and alive. Do breathing exercises every day!
- While breathing deeply, imagine your heart sending vitality throughout your body—down to your toes, into your organs, up into your head, and to your fingertips. Feel the vitality circling in your chest. Feel the vitality warm and invigorate your body. Straighten your posture if it’s not straight, and then smile. Your heart is ready to take on the day’s challenges!
- The heart is built to exert itself. Depending on your age and physical condition, take part in activity that causes your heart to pump faster. For most people, the heart can handle faster pumping activity every day. Aim to invigorate your body through faster heart-pumping activity for the amount of time that is proper for your current health status. Ideas for these types of activities: dancing, running, brisk walking, bicycling, swimming and other water activities, skating, tennis and other racket games, and games that use balls for kicking and throwing. Skipping and jumping are also good for the heart!
- Sleep that is regular helps the heart repair and restore its functioning. Don’t scrimp on sleep. Each person needs a specific amount of sleep depending on age, regular activity level, and current season. Let sleep bring you toning!
- Practice acts of generosity every day. Be generous with your smiles and with your kindness. Acts of generosity tone the intangible heart!
Note: This information has been spiritually received and does not replace medical advice.
These days, the rush to interfere with the circulation of blood has wrought pressure on the heart which destabilizes its functioning. There are many ways to calm the heart and the circulation of blood that do not have side effects.
Here are heart-calming remedies suggested by Spirit.
- When your breath pace is suitable for your heart, it keeps your heart relaxed. Shorter breaths can quicken the heart’s beating. Aim for longer breaths.
- If you feel anger, slow your breathing and wiggle your fingers.
- When you feel tense, listen to calming music or create the music yourself (singing, humming, whistling, or playing an instrument).
- Fear can affect blood circulation. Listen to your intuition when it advises you. Listen to your intuition!
- Immersion in a nurturing activity can calm the heart, if the desire to be immersed is not overcome by impatience. Examples of nurturing activities are caring for an infant, caressing a pet, and working in a garden.
- Excitement can touch the heart. Age can affect the effects of excitement. The older the heart, the greater the effects, for better or worse.
- Entering into a spiritual state can open flows. This state is healing and calming.
- Touch can calm the heart when it is given or received willingly.
- Entering into a meditative state can relax the blood vessels. Forced meditation has no effect, but true meditative state is calming for the heart.
- Exercise does not calm the heart, but it does condition it. The next blog post will present information about exercise and the heart. The thing to know now is that exercise done improperly can harm the heart’s ability to pump blood to all the extremities. Take care when your body communicates its limits.
The benefits of a calm heart are numerous and desirable for balance and health. A cam heart is beneficial in a world that is too rushed. Calmness of heart—a remedy for life!
Note: This information has been spiritually received and does not replace medical advice.
The heart is a control center with highways of energy flowing through it. The tangible energy is the blood and its components. The intangible energy is the emotional framework and its components.
Tangible and intangible energy flow through the heart control center, and their pathways require uncongested access. The intangible pathways have slow roads and quicker highways for moving emotional information: intuitive information must move quickly, while evaluative information requires slower processing. The tangible flow of blood is meant to stay steady, with clear highways all along the way.
Blockage of the blood’s path to and from the heart is well studied, and many treatments exist for clearing these highways. A lesser know treatment for keeping the highways clear is to drink oregano tea and eat fresh salads and sesame and almond products.
Oregano tea can prevent blockage when it is part of daily liquid intake that does not include soft drinks or silicon dioxide (in drinks), because these other drinks prevent oregano tea’s anti-inflammatory properties (but not its flavonoid antioxidant properties). The fresh salads require freshness—preservatives negate the clearing effects. Sesame and almond products that contain sugar, sugar substitutes, or preservatives are not helpful. Oregano tea + fresh salads + sesame/almond products can keep the tangible highways less congested, depending on the presence of substances or behaviors that subvert their work (such as tobacco smoke, certain medications [prescription and illicit], certain destructive feelings [see the post “Things that harm the heart” ], and lack of adequate exercise).
The intangible highways to and from the heart become blocked when trauma closes them in. Some traumas can be overcome by refusal to let them block emotional happiness, but others can leave emotional scars that require assistance to help them heal. Some emotional traumas leave blockage that cannot be smoothed, no matter how much psychological and emotional work is done. In these cases, the damage can only be acknowledged and accepted.
The highways to the heart can be maintained through frequent use (physical exercise and building emotional attachments) and by keeping them clear (proper nutrition and investment in supportive relationships).
Keeping these highways in good working order is the foundation for a happy heart!
Note: This information has been spiritually received. The more complementary medicine used to heal illness and unwellness, the better.
Smoothly, the heart beats a rhythm that pounds out life. Beat after beat, the quiet pounding paves the way for a life lived. As the pounding progresses through the years, its rhythm expresses the reality of the life—of the struggles, of the heartaches, and of the happiness. The heart is a reflection of the life that is being lived.
The youthful heart pounds heavily, pumping blood through the body with vitality and force. This rhythmic pounding is full of promise of the life to be lived, and it pushes towards growth and development. The youthful heart feels little pain, but is easily bruised when love is denied by cherished caregivers. Each experience of heartache or love molds the heart into its role as the carrier of emotional stability and physical stamina.
The rhythm of the heart changes as the years fly by. Slowing or quickening occur depending on choices made and lifestyle led. The heart provides support for new life being created in the womb. The heart supports through times of crises and despair. It pumps through competitive displays of movement and concentration, and then adjusts for feelings of success or defeat. The heart steadfastly beats, even when it and other parts of the body are abused through malnourishment or mistreatment.
The heart ages, and with its aging come reflections in the body. For some, the aging heart is reflected in rhythmic melodies in the mind. For others, the aging heart is reflected in rhythmic movements of the hands (often mistaken for Parkinson’s disease). The aging is natural and is influenced by childhood diseases, physical stamina, and medications ingested.
Rhythmic beating from the heart to the body is part of life and its wonder: each heart beating its rhythm, each heart joining in the syncopated symphony that beats on and on in the community of planet Earth!
Note: This post was delivered to me through my heart’s connection to Spirit.
We’ve been looking at the intangible functioning of the heart (Lead from the heart) and ways to strengthen the heart (Strengthening the heart).
Today, Spirit is sharing harmful activities that make the heart lazy and wounded. Each of these activities harms in a different way, so that their negative influence can sometimes be overcome by natural healing mechanisms in the body. When the cumulative harm is too great for the body to handle, the heart gives way to damage and weakness.
This list of heart-harmful activities is not ranked. Each activity harms the poor heart that is striving to support the body and soul.
Activities that harm the heart
- Shallow breathing
- Feelings of defeat and despair (together)
- Feelings of emptiness and alienation (together)
- Feelings of entrapment
- Viruses that overcome natural defenses
- Medications that weaken the body when it is fighting parasitic viruses
- Pressure from worry
- Pressure from guilt
- Pressure from spinal imbalance (due to injury, disease, or long-term posture mistakes)
- Cumulative defense against repeated illnesses
- Cumulative defense against things that increase the pulse rate (such as obesity, thyroid medications, vascular irregularities)
- Cumulative defense against episodes of bodily overreactions (such as many migraines, gastro-infections, panic caused by overreactions to symptoms of bodily processing)
- Cumulative defense against deep-seated anger or resentment
- Habits associated with anorexia, binge eating, and pain addiction
Exposure to toxins can also harm the heart.
The heart is not impervious to emotional and physical abuse. It is a strong and reliable organ, but chronic abuse and activities that stress it too much leave damage. A damaged heart can be strengthened, but the strengthening requires determination and true desire for balance.
Our bodies have been designed to function well, and the better we care for them, the better they function.
If any of the listed activities are unclear to you, please write a comment and I will check answers with Spirit.
In yesterday’s blog post, we received information about the heart: about its intangible aspects and its connection to our soul, our guardians, and the world beyond us.
For the heart to partake in these important objectives, it must be strong and its health must be supported. Here are the ways to keep your heart strong for its physical work and its intangible aspects. (The intangible and physical are equally important.)
- Know that social connections keep your heart strong. They can’t mend a heart with physical defects, but they can encourage its daily functioning. Seek out opportunities to interact with others and eschew too many solitary endeavors. We are social animals. That’s part of our design.
- Yes, physical activity is important. It truly is. Build physical activity into your daily routines. We are meant to move. That’s part of our design.
- Breathe deeply. As often as possible. The deep breaths condition the heart and exercise it.
- Eat “heart-healthy” foods and eat them in an atmosphere of health. Whole foods are so much better than processed—there is no competition. (The processing of foods is human endeavor misguided.) Eating on the run, in a car, or in sadness taxes the heart. Eating is meant to be a process that buoys the heart with gratitude and fortification.
- Smile as much as possible. Smiling resonates throughout the body and calms the heart. To smile more, look for the positive things in your life—and there are many—and smile at them.
Our hearts keep the blood flowing and the life meaningful. Love and care for your heart, and it will reward you. 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂