“Joyful love is love that is bestowed without conditions and without expectations. Joyful love can be felt when overcome by the beauty of nature, when immersed in the attention of a playful animal, when mesmerized by the exquisiteness of an infant, and when experiencing the love of a person who has strong feelings of love in return. Joyful love is felt more strongly when it is allowed to spread and is given towards oneself as well.” –from the chapter “Unexpectant Love” in Exploring Energy Guidance Complete, My Journey
Loving oneself joyfully is not so simple. It requires acceptance, appreciation, and action. The three As.
Acceptance is needed for love to grow boundlessly. Acceptance of physical handicaps, annoying habits, and learned criticisms is key to feeling loving towards oneself. Each person has physical handicaps, with some being more apparent than others. Accepting them and then working with or around them is joyful behavior. Each person has habits that irk others and oneself. Acknowledging these habits and either working to change them or embracing them is joyful focus. Each person has learned criticisms from caregivers, society, and authority figures. When the criticisms are internalized, they can cause emotional and mental damage. Understanding that the criticisms are harmful and then accepting and moving past them is joyful intention.
Appreciation is needed for self-love to be possible. Seeing oneself clearly and ignoring noise that calls for criticism is necessary for appreciation to occur. Noticing accomplishments–large and small, plus remembering to express gratitude for capabilities are necessary for self-appreciation and joyful expressions of confidence.
Action is required to create expressions of self-love. The actions can be an intangible or tangible pat on the back, a daily ritual that includes acknowledgement of being alive, a prayer of thanksgiving, joyful activity (jumping for joy, dancing around, laughing, or silliness), and a vocal or silent statement of love for oneself.
Notes: This information has been spiritually received. I’m reading through Exploring Energy Guidance Complete, My Journey and delving into some of the topics. This book is available here.