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Emotional pain

There are times when life presents challenges that feel too painful to bear. These challenges can be physical, emotional and spiritual in nature, and can come from internal and/or external causes, or even from realms that are beyond our comprehension. The challenges are faced in many ways, and each way leaves an imprint on the person facing the challenges.

Humor is considered to be a positive way to face challenges, and in general, that is true. It becomes negative when the humor is aimed at the heart or the insecure perception of oneself. Rationalization can be positive or negative, depending on how it’s built. Escapism is one way to face challenges, but in general, it eventually leads to inability to process reality. Striking out is a hurtful way to approach challenges, and it can lead to guilt, broken relationships, and further troubles. Suppressing feelings of hurt and disillusionment can lead to serious physical ailments, or to future growth if the person decides to abandon the hurtful events and focus on the future. Using the feelings of insignificance to bolster oneself towards achievement is helpful only when the person does not trample others on the way.

The spiritual realm sometimes drives the challenges that people face in ways that people cannot fathom. Changes in physical layering (the atmosphere, the magnetosphere, the auroras, and further on) or within the ground can sometimes be attributed to realms in which spiritual forces are at play. In these cases, people have little control and can only react and conjecture meaning.

When manipulation of groups by other groups occurs, each side faces challenges that can upend their lives. Deliberately setting out to harm other people causes physical injury and injury at the spiritual realm. Deliberately proselytizing is a human endeavor that causes change at the individual, group, and spiritual levels. When force is used in the proselytizing, the harm is irreparable. Deliberately harming a group member in one’s own group is defective, and deliberately harming a member of another group is equivalently defective but is often justified by the offending group. No action that is deliberately vindictive receives atonement; it is forever reverberating.

Reverberations of unkindness, violence, abandonment, brutality, duplicity, torture and terrorization, contemptuousness, gloating destructively, and self-exultation over despicable behavior, are causes of most of the challenges that people face. The actual actions could have happened to oneself or to one’s forebears and they lead to emotional pain that can be overwhelming.

Emotional pain displays itself through physical and mental manifestations, so that the causes can be hard to discern. The constructive way to handle hurts, be they physical or emotional, is to address them from several angles and rule out causes that do not apply. Generally, emotional pain resides in parts of the body that hold control or judgement, and each person has susceptible parts depending on physiology, age, tiredness, and learned behavior. (Examples of body parts that hold control are the brain, lungs, and pancreas. Examples of body parts that hold judgement are the small and large intestines, the prostate, and certain tendons in the ankles.) Societal pressures also exert influence on emotional pain. Isolating the cause of emotional pain (because there usually is one main cause) requires a willingness to accept that pain–physical, emotional or spiritual–might have its roots in forces that are internal or external.

Note: This information has been spiritually received.

Also see the post Emotional pain, guilty forces

The Ebbs of Life

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“War, displacement, societal upheaval, familial upheaval, accidents that result in maiming or impaired mental functioning, and natural disasters—these events drastically affect health.  Some people survive these events with perception and sense of self intact; most people do not. The normal responses to difficult events are grief, blame, withdrawal, or incapacitation. To survive unscathed is unusual; to be weak, unpredictable, suspicious, fearful, hurt, sad, cautious, blameful, indecisive, or angry is expected. Minor changes to reality can be unsettling and can cause many of the same reactions. Few people are unaffected by the ebbs of life.” – from Pond a Connected Existence

Expectations of no problems in life are expectations incorrect. Life presents struggles and challenges because that is the nature of life.

Expectations of ease and fun are expectations misleading. Ease and fun can be part of life, but they are not to be expected, rather to be cherished.

Approaching the ebbs of life with creativity and courage brings growth and understanding. Taking the storms and seeing beyond them brings appreciation and satisfaction.

Giving up is not the best option

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Sometimes it is easier to give up than to fight for, aim for or live for. Giving up is one way to determine, but it is also a way to destroy. Both results can occur when a person gives up—be it fighting for a cause or fighting for continued life. Giving up determines that efforts will stop and that future possibilities are destroyed.

Yes, people need to know when a struggle is not possible, but not before they attempt and attempt again and try anew. Acknowledging defeat causes lowered balance in the body, lowered resistance, lowered opinion of oneself, lowered attempts at other things, lowered connections to other people, lowered connections to spiritual support, lowered enjoyment of pleasures, lowered sharing of experiences, lowered interest in oneself (less love for oneself), and lowered performance.

In cases where many attempts have been made yet nothing changes, people must be realistic and acknowledge reality. Fighting a terminal disease is a fight or a task. When it is a fight, it is all-consuming. When it is a task, it is part of one’s life, but not the whole life.

Life is much bigger than the disease or the lost cause or the forsaken dream. Each of these “challenges” is part of the picture that is life. Part, not all—not even a large part, just a part. The real challenge is to live fully while experiencing the painful and exhausting segments of existence.

Living with vitality and with determination. Yes, these forces of a directed life can bring purposeful and sustaining living!