A continuation from yesterday’s post…
Not liking ourselves leads to not liking others
The work begins within!
When we are unkind to ourselves, we inhibit our ability to relate to others in a balanced and caring way. Their idiosyncrasies annoy us rather than entertain us. We relate to them in harshness and in impatience. When we are kind to ourselves, we expand our caring for ourselves and for others.
How to be kinder to ourselves
- Feel inside your body—think about its wondrous functioning (even if you are sick) and be appreciative towards the internal grandeur of your body.
- Think about a person you admire, and imagine that his or her admired qualities are in you too.
- Write a short wish for yourself that includes a wish for admiration. For example, write “I desire and wish for myself to admire myself” (You are not being graded on your writing composition.) Keep this written wish in a place that is private and accessible, for instance, on a shelf by your bed.
- Look at each finger on each hand and notice its shape and agility (if any of the fingers hurt or are arthritic, stroke the finger and send it compassion).
- Listen to music that invigorates you and think of yourself as being a joyous person.
- Touch your face and slowly breathe, while your feet are rocking back and forth on the ground. You can do this step while standing or sitting.
- Look at a reminder from your childhood (a picture or a knick knack) and then look at your favorite piece of clothing or a memento.