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balance

“Smile and the whole world smiles with you.”

“If life gives you lemons, make lemonade.”

“Look on the bright side of life.”

People like quick fixes. They like sayings that make them feel good. They also like reassurances.

Energy Guidance looks on the bright side of life and sees the potential in everyone. Potential is possible and attainable through persistent efforts and focused activity. Potential is about changes when necessary and restraint when needed.

Since September 2013, Energy Guidance has appeared in books and this blog. The advice has been honest and current. Answers to unclear questions have been offered and medical afflictions have been tackled. Focused living and paths to well-being have been provided regularly.

If you have liked one or more of the blog posts, please share them with friends. If you know of people who suffer from health afflictions deciphered by Energy Guidance, please share the information with them.

Good advice is meant to be passed along. Spiritual wisdom can elicit skepticism, but if people can look beyond the source of the wisdom they can see that the advice is truly wise.

Give others the opportunity to grow with Energy Guidance by sharing it with them!

And remember to…

“Count your blessings!”

Electric car

Driving is enormous. When we drive, we become larger than we were meant to be. The larger the vehicle, the smaller we actually are.

Encasing ourselves in a metal machine causes us to be effectors. We can affect movement and we can bring destruction. We can also soar.

Defensive driving is critical because it prevents destruction. Enlightened driving is defensive driving uplifted. It requires awareness, compassion, and gratitude. Enlightened driving is nourishing.

To drive with enlightened awareness

  • Breathe deeply at traffic lights and in traffic jams.
  • Look at the movement. Notice the movement of the traffic and the movement of your vehicle.
  • At overpasses and underpasses, sit up straight and think about your posture.

To drive with compassion

  • Consider the environment and reduce unnecessary driving to lessen your contribution to air pollution.
  • Consider the animals and people, and don’t leave your vehicle running unnecessarily.
  • Consider the vehicles around you. They protect their inhabitants as your vehicle protects you. Think of the inhabitants of the other vehicles as you think of inhabitants of your vehicle–all have significance.

To drive with gratitude

  • Before a drive, breathe deeply and say a thanks for your vehicle and for your ability to drive it.
  • During a drive, notice the working of your vehicle. If something feels or sounds off, get it checked. Notice the working of your body. If something feels off, breathe and then focus on your driving. If the feelings are painful, consider how to resolve them. If the feelings are mild, consider addressing them after the drive.
  • After a drive, breathe deeply and say a thanks for arriving safely. If there were moments of fear in your drive, also add a thanks for handling your fear. If there was risk or actual harm in your drive (to you or your vehicle), breathe deeply and save the thanks for when you feel grateful.

Enlightened driving can be applied by passengers in a vehicle and when riding on public transportation.

Driving with awareness and with compassion and with gratitude provides many opportunities for balanced living. Enormous are the benefits of enlightened driving–even more enormous than the enormity of driving!

(The car in the photo was an electric car that I once owned. Unfortunately it was ahead of its time, and the company that provided the electricity went out of business.)

Cover-Contracts for an exemplary life

“In the next chapter, “Exemplary Life Contract Forms and Examples”, there are contract forms that contain fill-in-the-blanks. You can photocopy a contract and fill in the blanks or rewrite the contract using the base form for inspiration.”

This excerpt from the book Contracts for an Exemplary Life explains that you can use the book examples to design your own path towards change. Change is possible when you really want it. Change is possible when you are really committed to it.

I have worked with many people through private sessions of Energy Guidance Complete. I have seen people make major lifestyle changes and I have seen people flounder and resist. Those who make the changes create joy and opportunity. Those who resist continue to make excuses and stagnate.

Private sessions with Energy Guidance can bring change relatively quickly, depending on the change desired. Exemplary contracts, which were created through Energy Guidance, can also bring change relatively quickly, depending on the change desired and commitment.

Exemplary life contracts can help with:

  • personal issues such as weight, health, self-criticism and other negative behaviors, self-development, and habit changes
  • family issues such as improvement of family relationships, health, family rituals, and family dynamics
  • community issues such as feeling a part of the community, supporting important community efforts, conserving more, and helping animal and environmental causes
  • people issues such as making time for friends, changing negative relationships with coworkers and service providers, becoming neighborly, and teaching one’s children about others

Contracts for an Exemplary Life—Using Contracts to Achieve Your Goals provides a vehicle for people who want to bring change. It is available on amazon.com: http://amzn.com/1518880746

headache

I’ve just learned that a family from a nearby community has suffered a terrible loss. Their eldest child has been killed in a car accident. The funeral is soon.

The tragic loss of a loved one is devastatingly reverberating. The death overcomes the ones who loved the person. The death scares the people who know the family and who fear for the lives of their own loved ones. The death wounds friends and close acquaintances.

Comforting the family of the suddenly bereft is hard. Here are the words of Spirit from the chapter “Concrete Living” in Oneself-Living:

“Natural death is painful for the survivors, but because it is “natural” is easier to accept. Deaths through accidents, disasters (natural or not), struggles such as wars and territorial conflicts, or other human-handed causes are harder to digest. These deaths cause more lingering effects…”

The message: Those left behind, the ones who remember and despair, must be comforted and supported. They must be allowed to mourn and feel overwhelming sadness. The comforters must be patient and open to the mourners’ grief. Slowly, as time passes, the mourners will be pulled back into the world of living, because that is the natural flow of life.

I will visit the house of mourning in a few days. I will bring compassion.

Surfacing

soul connection

I have been underwater. Well, not literally. The last five weeks I have been in the US visiting family and friends, attending important family gatherings, and being not-Energy Guidance. I have submerged my connection to Spirit in order to fit in and be the person I used to be. That submersion of my true self has left me without words and without energy to share Spiritual wisdom. Now that I have returned home, I am slowly returning to the true person that is Renee Rothberg, voice of Energy Guidance.

A friend who reads my blog faithfully told me that she is waiting to hear my reactions to my time in the US. I reminded her that I write what Spirit directs me to write. I don’t write what I think, although I often, but not always, agree with Spirit. The words that appear in this blog are given to me; they are not my original thoughts. When you read the wisdom presented here, know that it is not from me but through me. Yes, through me.

Now that I am surfacing, I can sit quietly and receive. Here are the messages that Spirit wants me to share about my visit to my old life:

  • Environmental care should come before convenience. Think twice before using disposable plates, bowls, cups, etc.
  • Making time for family is nourishing and supportive. Even the folks that drive us crazy add to our well-being.
  • Airplanes are unnatural environments. Take care to be well-hydrated and well-nourished on flights. Be kind to the stewards and stewardesses and greet fellow travelers sincerely.
  • Trees are beautiful wherever we go. Taking time to notice them is as important as going to a tourist site.
  • Viewing people with a kind heart helps them be their true selves. Keep kindness before judgment.

Most of us know these wise pieces of advice, but we often forget to heed them. Knowing that they come from Beyond is helpful in remembering to follow them.

Too much stuff

too much stuff

Stuff. Too much stuff. Yes, most of us have too much stuff.

The stuff seems necessary at first, but then it controls. The stuff controls our living because it requires the time spent thinking about each item and storage of each item for use or for keeping out of sight and the time spent deciding whether to keep each item or to dispose of it and cleaning each item and additional evaluation of each item’s stay in our possession.

The more stuff we have, the more space we need to display, organize, store, and control. Or if we can’t add more space, then the stuff fills in more and more of the empty space in our homes til we can no longer control the accumulating forest of stuff.

Emotional and sentimental feelings often cause us to keep things we don’t need or like. Societal pressure often causes us to accumulate things we don’t need or want. Feelings of deservedness often cause us to accumulate without need. Feelings of emptiness push towards buying too much to fill the unfulfilled need to belong. Each of these causes pushes towards a home that is too different from the true essence of each of the residents.

Filling our homes with things we cherish is the way to bring harmony into our living space. Even useful utensils can be cherished for their helpfulness. Keeping stuff that truly entertains or uplifts is the way to infuse our homes with balance and peacefulness. Removing the excess can bring joy!

intangible reality

Spiritual practice, whether alone or with a group, can be conducive to interaction with intangible reality. Connecting to wisdom internal enables connection to reality beyond.

Internal wisdom is supplied by the soul, and thoughts channeled through soulful evaluation reflect spiritual connection. The physical actions that accompany spiritual practices extend the effects of the connection. The emotional depth of the concentration on spiritual connection can invigorate the connection. The intellectual quest to fathom the intangible invites contentment. Nourishment of the desire to have impact is attained.

When group worship is sincerely performed, the group can enrich each individual. When group worship is performed perfunctorily, the experience can alienate or bore. When group worship is forced, the experience can be blocked inwardly or can be traumatic.

Group worship that is spontaneous sometimes enriches, but sometimes incites. Group workship that decries other groups is worship misguided. No group has access to divine revelation over any other group. No group!

Spiritual connection, the link to intangible reality, is the historical practice for tying human endeavor to energy of the expanse.

Spiritual connection

Seeing is believing. Tangibility is reassuring.

Intangibility is baffling. The unseen is present, yet its intangibility renders it untrue or irrelevant or suspect. No viewable form is a reason for rejection and dismissal.

Intangible reality is actually rich in layers and in movement. There are relationships, guidance, and interactions in the intangible realm.

Undetected dimensions interact with our world. Those who are aware of possibility are aware of these interactions. Awareness is available to all, and it requires acceptance and determination to bring intangibility into everyday living.

The awareness expands intellectual processing. The awareness expands relationships and support.

Seeing is believing is for people who have lost the connection to beyond smallness.

Believing in the unseen is expanding horizons to experience life fully!

Painting by Sigal Chen Granot

Painting by Sigal Chen Granot

The more a person is in touch with his or her soul-endowed abilities, the more amazing the decorations of living. What are living decorations? They are expressions of life through art, dance, music, words, and arrangements.

Art that is not copied, but is pulled from inside is art explosion. It is expression of soulful seeing.

Dance that bursts forth is movement true. It is expression of soulful gratitude.

Music that is heard in the trees and in the wind speaks to the soul and calls for expression through voice and instruments. Soulful listening brings music that is connected.

Words formed into song or stories or shapes are transporting when the thoughts are pulled through soulful channels. The soulful touch elevates the ideas. Soulful expressions of living—heartfelt poetry, stirring prose, and inspiring presentations—weave soulful and physical living into one.

Living decorations are visible through gardens that take the breath away, by parks that call out for connection, and in individual efforts to share wonder. Arrangements of plants, flowers, trees, fountains, stones, paths, and spaces that inspire amazement and appreciation are arrangements that have been soulfully influenced.

Even a home can be soulfully designed when the inhabitants decorate according to their true feelings and passions.

Decorating with creativity is possible when outside voices are tuned out and inner guidance is turned on.

Alzheimers

As described in the blog post “Alzheimer’s prevention–what you can do for yourself”, a person who is affected by Alzheimer’s disease becomes a shadow of him or herself. A shadow is a person who looks like someone who once existed, but exists in physical form only.

The process of descending into a shadow happens over time. Throughout this process, the person sees life confusedly.

This blog post presents the view from Alzheimer’s at near take-over point. The disease has not yet transformed the person into a full shadow.

The thoughts of a woman in Alzheimer’s clutches

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One large

It’s a wall?

It’s a waterfall?

Oh-it’s a curtain.

Opening to the sky.

I see the sky.

The curtain is blue, yes blue. I see blue.

It’s a blue something—–blue tall.

The woman opened the blue she opened the blue…….

She talks to me she says she is Mollie, she is new here. The woman says she is NO she is not my daughter! My daughter has black hair.

Orange juice. The woman gives me orange juice. Her face is new. Taste of juice is like coffee. I want coffee!

COFFEE!!!!!! Not juice.

Here is my dress. It is green , or red. With flowers and buildings on it. The woman says to put it on. Her hands help me put on my dress. I like my dress with its yellow somethings.

The sky is trees and the trees are rocks like ……

The woman Mollie says something. Taste of juice.

Something on the floor. Two somethings. Girl says put on my feet. Feet? Girl moves somethings on my spatulas.

OWWW! Hurts my spatchufas! She takes them off.

Lay down.

The woman lives in a home for dementia patients. Her daughter, Mollie, has come by on her daily visit. In the past, Mollie and her mother were very close, but her mother no longer recognizes her. Mollie thinks she sees moments of recognition, but she is wrong. The recognition left a few months earlier.

Thwarting Alzheimer’s disease

Alzheimer’s disease can be thwarted. Thwarting takes the belief that the body can heal minor inconveniences like indigestion and sniffles without outside chemical remedies that seem to hasten wellness, but actually weaken natural healing abilities. Thwarting takes building communal ties and a dependable social framework. Thwarting takes creative thinking throughout one’s life.

Alzheimer’s disease brings an unwanted and miserable ending. Thwarting Alzheimer’s disease is worth the effort.

See How to Defy Alzheimer’s

Note: This blog post is spiritually advised. It does not apply to other types of dementia.

Alzheimers

Alzheimer’s disease is a relatively new form of dementia. It developed as people revised their lifestyles.

In the previous blog post, Alzheimer’s prevention–what you can do for yourself, guidelines were presented for strengthening against Alzheimer’s. The guidelines were listed, but not in order of value.

In today’s blog post, I am presenting the information from the previous post with the guidelines in the order in which they are most helpful.

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From the previous post:

Alzheimer’s disease is confusing. Life becomes unenjoyable and challenging. Memories hide and knowledge distances. Likes and dislikes are buried so that decisions are difficult to make. Aromas that once delighted now waft by unacknowledged. Flavorful foods once desired now become bland.

Alzheimer’s disease alienates family members and creates shadows. A shadow is a person who looks like someone who once existed, but exists in physical form only.

Alzheimer’s disease is terrible. It is frightening. It is defeating.

Alzheimer’s disease can be thwarted by eating nutritiously and appropriately for your body, avoiding unnecessary aids to the modern lifestyle, and connecting with others. Here are guidelines to strengthen yourself against Alzheimer’s disease’s confusion.

1. Build social connections.

The importance of social connections cannot be overemphasized. Interacting with other people is our natural state and is part of our health.

Strengthen family ties, join community organizations, invest in friendships. The social connections are like a cocoon that envelops us in resistance to external stressors and internal wounding.

2. Avoid stomach medicines.

For many people, stomach discomfort is avoided through the use of digestive impediments. Over-the-counter and prescription medicines are used for lessening or increasing digestive functioning. Not all medicines weaken the natural digestive processing, but some do, and their interference can lead to changes in sense functioning (taste, smell, etc.) that can then impact brain functioning.

By listening to your body and knowing the foods that make it feel nourished and well, you can avoid stomach discomfort.

3. Avoid ear medicines.

The body can heal most internal upsets. The body’s healing requires patience and awareness. Many people want immediate healing and doubt the body’s abilities to heal itself. Some ear medicines weaken ability to communicate with the body and contribute to weakening of communication in the brain.

Allowing your body to heal itself is the best path. Proper sleep, adequate water consumption, and healing foods usually restore health.

4. Use your brain creatively.

The importance of using the brain throughout one’s life is known. Creative thinking is even more powerful than doing brain exercises. Creative thinking such as writing poetry, choreographing a dance, and designing a garden strengthen the mind and focus its functioning. Creative thinking doesn’t need to be done every day for it to strengthen the mind, but the more creative the endeavors, the more resilient the mind.

 

These guidelines are general, but they provide important information if you are open to see it.

Note: This blog post is spiritually advised. It does not apply to other types of dementia.

Alzheimers

Alzheimer’s disease is confusing. Life becomes unenjoyable and challenging. Memories hide and knowledge distances. Likes and dislikes are buried so that decisions are difficult to make. Aromas that once delighted now waft by unacknowledged. Flavorful foods once desired now become bland.

Alzheimer’s disease alienates family members and creates shadows. A shadow is a person who looks like someone who once existed, but exists in physical form only.

Alzheimer’s disease is terrible. It is frightening. It is defeating.

Alzheimer’s disease can be thwarted by eating nutritiously and appropriately for your body, avoiding unnecessary aids to the modern lifestyle, and connecting with others. Here are guidelines to strengthen yourself against Alzheimer’s disease’s confusion.

Use your brain creatively.

The importance of using the brain throughout one’s life is known. Creative thinking is even more powerful than doing brain exercises. Creative thinking such as writing poetry, choreographing a dance, and designing a garden strengthen the mind and focus its functioning. Creative thinking doesn’t need to be done every day for it to strengthen the mind, but the more creative the endeavors, the more resilient the mind.

Avoid stomach medicines.

For many people, stomach discomfort is avoided through the use of digestive impediments. Over-the-counter and prescription medicines are used for lessening or increasing digestive functioning. Not all medicines weaken the natural digestive processing, but some do, and their interference can lead to changes in sense functioning (taste, smell, etc.) that can then impact brain functioning.

By listening to your body and knowing the foods that make it feel nourished and well, you can avoid stomach discomfort.

Avoid ear medicines.

The body can heal most internal upsets. The body’s healing requires patience and awareness. Many people want immediate healing and doubt the body’s abilities to heal itself. Some ear medicines weaken ability to communicate with the body and contribute to weakening of communication in the brain.

Allowing your body to heal itself is the best path. Proper sleep, adequate water consumption, and healing foods usually restore health.

Build social connections.

The importance of social connections cannot be overemphasized. Interacting with other people is our natural state and is part of our health.

Strengthen family ties, join community organizations, invest in friendships. The social connections are like a cocoon that envelops us in resistance to external stressors and internal wounding.

 

These guidelines are general, but they provide important information if you are open to see it.

Note: This blog post is spiritually advised. It does not apply to other types of dementia.

alzheimers support

Caregivers want to know what to do for a family member or friend who experiences life through Alzheimer’s-tinted glasses. Here are tips for caregivers.

Early stages of Alzheimer’s

  1. Routines are very important now. A daily life that is routine will help keep confusion at bay. Aim to maintain routines and accept their importance.
  2. Physical touch is very important now. You, the caregiver, need the touch as much as the person does.
  3. Physical exercise is needed. Whatever physical activity the person did before Alzheimer’s should be maintained, except for exercise that is extreme or disorienting. If the person was not physically active, but watched a lot of TV, find TV exercise programs and encourage him or her to follow along.
  4. Plan for the future. A person who becomes confused several times a day will most likely become confused more often as time goes by. Consider how you will handle the change, and don’t wait until you are overwhelmed to make your decisions. Be realistic about your abilities to care for the person.

 Alzheimer’s take-over

At this stage, the person has lost connection to time and self.

  1. The caregiver’s perception about the person is influenced by their history. At this point, history is only in the mind of the caregiver, not the person. Releasing history, positive or negative, can help with caregiving tasks.
  2. Fill the person’s living area with color: colorful pictures, colorful fabrics, and colorful furniture. The colors bring pleasure to the Alzheimer’s-tinged mind.
  3. Fill the person’s day with music: radio, recordings, live–no matter. The music invites memories.
  4. Face the person. Peripheral vision is jarring for a person who sees through Alzheimer’s-tinged vision. Touch that is too unexpected is jarring for a person who senses contact through Alzheimer’s-tinged sense of touch. When touching him or her, stand in front and move slowly.

Note: The suggestions about music, exercise, and planning for the future are frequently advised. This blog post is spiritually advised. It does not apply to other types of dementia.

Help

Addiction.
A word that means relinquishment.

Addiction is relinquishment of self-listening.
Internal communications are constantly happening.
Their purpose is to keep the body balanced.

Burying the dialogue below
booze
or drugs
or sex
or tobacco
or shopping
or food
or thrills

turns down the volume, but increases the crying out.

The addictive stranglehold of the sound mufflers
tunes out the internal communications, but increases interruptions.

Unable to hear the true voice of the body, the addicted person listens to the interrupting messages and follows their guidance.

Addiction offers a guided path to away from oneself.
Addiction is SCREAMING.

 

painMy ear hurt. It was sore to touch and it felt tender when I touched behind it on my neck. It started hurting after a plane ride, so I thought it was a result of the altitude change or air pressure on the plane.

When the pain continued longer than two weeks, I guessed that the cause was something else. That’s when I turned to Spiritual Presence and asked if I should leave it alone or intervene in its healing. The answer I received was to leave it alone and let my body heal it.

I abided by that answer although I re-asked the question numerous times over the next few weeks. Eventually I got used to the discomfort and felt confident that my body would heal. Two months later, my ear is fine.

The body can usually care for the small aches and pains and invasions by germs. The body is designed to do so, but it requires proper nutrition, restful sleep, and emotional care. When we intervene too early, we weaken the body’s natural ability to heal. When the body is mistrusted to heal itself, it loses its ability to communicate. Sudden pains become frightening and we rush to relieve them without simply breathing deeply and letting the body do its work.

I was raised to seek outside help the moment my body became ill. Learning to value its healing abilities has made me healthier and stronger.

wild flowers

Blossoming, captivating flowers
Fill the air with vision
Of fragrant beauty
To be had.

Lovely, coolish Spring days
Fill the nights with hopes
Of love and companionship
To be held.

Constant, melodic bird song
Fill the lungs with desire
Of expansive breaths
To be taken.

Spring in all its blossoming,
Fragrant, and melodic.
Magic, filling the
Life with freshness.

From the book of poetry Connection, available at http://amzn.com/1511788259:Cover-Connection Poetry

Oblio-post3Dogs recognize dogs that are from their lineage. They recognize them through scent and corresponding stimulation of taste sensors. Dogs from the same lineage will form packs if they are allowed freedom. The pack will provide protection and sustenance to its members. The pack will fight dogs from other lineages and animals that threaten the pack. The pack is “family”.

buffalo

Buffaloes group by blood ties. They recognize connection through scent and corresponding stimulation of nerve receptors in the nasal cavity. A herd of buffaloes will contain grandparents, parents, and children, if they are allowed to live in freedom. The herd will link to other buffalo herds to search for food together, but they huddle in their family groups when natural disasters prevent escape.

friendships

People differ from other animals because their brains allow them to defy natural inclination to protect and group within the biological family. Like buffaloes, people naturally group by blood ties. Like dogs, people recognize lineage. Unlike buffaloes and dogs, people can adapt to live with very different people.

People can overlook the natural tendency to choose sameness and can choose “other” instead. The ability to adapt to general human behaviors enables adaptation to different cultures, traditions, and views. The ability to adapt to other people’s customs and ideas should enable understanding and acceptance of all people, rather than racism and fear.

The desire for ownership is the cause of human conflict. Wanting someone else’s land or possessions or abilities leads to arguments and ruthlessness and wars. Wanting someone else’s partner leads to manipulation and to regrets. Wanting someone else’s reality leads to wrong choices and conflicts.

The desire for ownership will be explored in the seventh book in the Existence-Me Elevated Living book series: Descending into War, Descending into Contempt.

shout

On the 18th of March, I signed an Exemplary Life contract to help me overcome my cravings for sugar. I wrote about the contract in this blog post.

Four weeks have passed and I am happy to report that I have kept the contract (with one month and a week to go).  I still feel the sugar pull, but the contract is keeping me focused. My body still craves sweetness so I have been eating dates to satisfy the sugar monster.

If any of you are determined to bring change to your life, I highly recommend using an Exemplary Life contract. The contracts bring focus, clarity, and insight together with support when the goals seem difficult.

The book Contracts for an Exemplary Life: Using Contracts to Achieve Your Goals is available through amazon.com:

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It’s never too late to change!

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“War, displacement, societal upheaval, familial upheaval, accidents that result in maiming or impaired mental functioning, and natural disasters—these events drastically affect health.  Some people survive these events with perception and sense of self intact; most people do not. The normal responses to difficult events are grief, blame, withdrawal, or incapacitation. To survive unscathed is unusual; to be weak, unpredictable, suspicious, fearful, hurt, sad, cautious, blameful, indecisive, or angry is expected. Minor changes to reality can be unsettling and can cause many of the same reactions. Few people are unaffected by the ebbs of life.” – from Pond a Connected Existence

Expectations of no problems in life are expectations incorrect. Life presents struggles and challenges because that is the nature of life.

Expectations of ease and fun are expectations misleading. Ease and fun can be part of life, but they are not to be expected, rather to be cherished.

Approaching the ebbs of life with creativity and courage brings growth and understanding. Taking the storms and seeing beyond them brings appreciation and satisfaction.

Cover-Contracts for an exemplary life

Often when we think about making changes in our life we think about personal goals like losing weight or getting organized. Personal goals are thought to bring us the most change.

How about looking at bringing personal change from a different direction–from bringing change through our relationships with others, rather than from change just within ourselves.

Contracts for an Exemplary Life offers ideas for bringing change through Me-with-Others contracts. Here are examples of Me-with-Others contract goals:

  • nourishing friendships
  • criticizing people less
  • treating service people with kindness
  • volunteering at a shelter, food kitchen, or facility for the elderly
  • attending communal events
  • being neighborly
  • developing a community
  • (for those with children) educating children about how to treat other people

By focusing on the relationship with others, personal growth can take place alongside the stated goals. The others focus naturally affects us in positive and nourishing ways.

Contracts for an Exemplary Life contains twelve examples of Me-with-Others contracts. There are also many examples of personal contracts, contracts to affect family relationships, and contracts for improving yourself through your relationship with the environment.

Contracts for an Exemplary Life—Using Contracts to Achieve Your Goals contains help for people who want to bring change. Contracts for an Exemplary Life is available on amazon.com: http://amzn.com/1518880746