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What happens when life is lived elsely

Awaiting Light

elsely: 1. Not authentic  2. Not according to design

Each person receives a soul when born, and this soul dictates direction and clarity. As described in Awaiting Light—Understanding the Development of the Soul:

“The soul determines personality, the types of things that draw our interest and attention, our pace in absorbing information and performing activities, our pull towards certain times of the day and seasons, our comfort with temperature and weather variations/frequencies, our moods and mood over-all, our intuition, and our drive to live. The soul affects health and well-being, and generally works to keep the body in balance.”

When we live soulfully, we feel our needs and direction and we live authentically. When we live according to someone else’s idea of how we should live or according to our misinterpretation of how we should live, we are living elsely.

Elsely leads to unsureness, illness, frustration, mediocrity, and regret. Living an untrue-to-oneself life affects one’s partner, children, friends, and associates. Living elsely creates a life that is manageable, but lacking. Living elsely creates a life that is half-full.

To know oneself is not easy. Unintentional negative influence by caregivers causes people to veer from their true path. Societal expectations cause people to question their ideas and actions.

By understanding one’s soulful being, life can be lived fully and with satisfaction. Reading the book Awaiting Light is a first step towards understanding the makeup of the soul and examining personal traits and desires. Awaiting Light is available through amazon.com and its global distributors.

“The path to understanding is through openness to wonder and willingness to imagine. This book is written so that all can know that their actions matter and that their personalities and sensitivities have reasons for being so. Having this information assists in raising children to be their real selves and encourages adults to understand their natural interests and societally created pursuits. Having this information leads to accepting each person as he or she is, which brings balance and elevation of all.”

Giving up is not the best option

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Sometimes it is easier to give up than to fight for, aim for or live for. Giving up is one way to determine, but it is also a way to destroy. Both results can occur when a person gives up—be it fighting for a cause or fighting for continued life. Giving up determines that efforts will stop and that future possibilities are destroyed.

Yes, people need to know when a struggle is not possible, but not before they attempt and attempt again and try anew. Acknowledging defeat causes lowered balance in the body, lowered resistance, lowered opinion of oneself, lowered attempts at other things, lowered connections to other people, lowered connections to spiritual support, lowered enjoyment of pleasures, lowered sharing of experiences, lowered interest in oneself (less love for oneself), and lowered performance.

In cases where many attempts have been made yet nothing changes, people must be realistic and acknowledge reality. Fighting a terminal disease is a fight or a task. When it is a fight, it is all-consuming. When it is a task, it is part of one’s life, but not the whole life.

Life is much bigger than the disease or the lost cause or the forsaken dream. Each of these “challenges” is part of the picture that is life. Part, not all—not even a large part, just a part. The real challenge is to live fully while experiencing the painful and exhausting segments of existence.

Living with vitality and with determination. Yes, these forces of a directed life can bring purposeful and sustaining living!

Balanced thinking—a personal calibration

imbalanced thinkingPhysical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual balance: the guarantee for balanced thinking.

When a person is out of kilter in any of the four components of health (physicality, emotions, intellect, and spiritual component), the imbalance can cause thinking that is faulty and narrow. Just one component being off is enough to skew thinking that is broad and wise.

What can cause imbalanced thinking?

The list is long:

Too little sleep, too much sugar, too little intellectual stimulation, too much distraction, too little striving for understanding, too much emphasis on superficiality, too little movement, too much expectation, too little awareness of oneself, too much distancing, too little deep breathing, too much indulgence, too little willpower, and too much procrastination, (The list is not complete, but it is enough.) Too much of some things and too little of others. Not enough balance.

Letting others decide for us is imbalanced living. Choosing the choices and path of someone else is imbalanced choosing. Watching others be hurt and not defending them is imbalanced behavior.

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What can balance thinking?

  1. Caring for the body with nourishing foods, intellectual stimulation, movement, music, adequate sleep, and proper hydration.
  2. Caring for the feelings of emotional wellbeing: spending time with others, spending time in nature, spending time with animals, and spending time alone doing nourishing activities.
  3. Caring for the intellect through intellectual stimulation (notice that this requirement appears twice).
  4. Engaging in spiritually uplifting activities, alone and in a group.

A personal calibration

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I, _______________________ (fill in name), am ready for balanced thinking. I recognize that life is not meant to be challenge-free and so I vow to bring balance to my life so that I can live broadly and wisely. I am ready to care for my body, my emotional wellbeing, my intellect, and my spiritual connection. I know that I can change the habits that prevent me from living as I should, which is my true self. I am realistic and know that I can make the changes necessary. I can balance!



What is the purpose of this blog?


Energy Guidance Complete is communication with people and with divine energy. Sometimes the communication is bidirectional—when work is done through private EGC sessions. Most times, the communication is unidirectional—only from divine energy—and the information is delivered through the blog posts and the books.

Some people have complained that the blog contains too many shoulds: “people should…”, “you should…”, “efforts should be made…”, etc. That is a true assessment of the blog. It does contain many shoulds because we all should be doing many things that we aren’t doing.

Here are quotes from the first book in the EGC book series that explain why we have responsibilities for our world and ourselves:

The Gift of Intuitive, Dedicated Comfort is presented to help the reader understand the expectations that come with the gift of life during this current time period. People who live during this time of plenty must appreciate what they have been given. They must accept the responsibilities that come with the comforts of modern life. No gift is free. No gift is without a gift in return. Our super-speedy, super-sophisticated society requires dedicated and persistent effort to ensure that the world does not give way under the weight of uncontrolled desires. Intuitively, we must live as if we understand that our lives are gifts to the world, that we are here to link ourselves with the rhythms of the world, that we are caregivers of others and of the creatures and natural elements of the world, that our presence brings betterment to the world, and that each step we take resonates with the knowledge of our responsibilities. Our goal is to know our way and to know ourselves.”

“People must live within the boundaries of Earthly living,…”

“People tend to believe they are superior to the other creatures on the Earth. This belief is false.”

“Nurturing ourselves is vital to our being. Finding ways to bring joy, love, movement, challenge, acceptance, patience, warmth, and balance should be pursued.”

Many people want to ignore their part in bringing about:

  • Pain to other creatures (through industrial meat/milk/egg farming that is cruel; through killing of animals for decorative items; through overfishing and overharvesting; through laboratory testing, etc.)
  • Destruction to environmental balance (overuse of disposable items; irresponsible use of transportation vehicles, building materials, and toxic materials; overly selective use of food resources and products for “enhancing” our bodies, etc.)
  • Inadequate communication among people (reliance on drugs rather than making changes; proliferating the use of smartphones among children; relying on electronic communication rather than face-to-face communication; closing off from others; not inviting others to visit or to help; etc.)
  • (Mistreatment of other people is not being addressed here although it is a large issue.)

Each and every person can make changes that impact the issues listed above. No one is above caring for the Earth and its creatures and vegetation—no matter how busy they are, no matter how much wealth or power they have.

Should we feel personally responsible? Yes. Should we make changes? Yes.

If you feel put-off by all the shoulds in this blog, that is because you have been convinced by others that should is a negative word. It is not a negative word, so let that idea go. It is a word that expresses instruction and direction towards purposeful living, when it is used correctly. When divine energy instructs us to be mindful of our uncaring ways, we must pause and consider the message, and then find the path towards caring existence.

What is the purpose of this blog? An opportunity to receive knowledge that can then be used to create balanced, purposeful, and satisfying lives!

Light and Fluffy


Cute messages, catchy phrases, light lessons. These delivery methods propel information.

Deeper, meaningful texts require time and intellectual investment.

The information presented in my blog—not light, not fluffy. Sometimes cute, but sometimes stern. Catchy word play occasionally.

The information presented in my blog—spiritually inspired, spiritually connecting. The wording is not my own nor are the ideas expressed my ideas. I am the formatter and the decipherer of the information. The weight of the words is much greater because the words come through me, but not from me.

Here is a reminder from Spiritual Presence:

“People fill their limited time with unimportant and un-elevating wispy-fluff. They don’t realize the effects of empty and valueless time wasters. They think their choices have value, interesting dimensions, and resulting effects. Most often their choices have deficiency, narrow borders, and insignificant effects.

Wispy-fluff. Vanity of vanities. Empty undertakings.

Truly there are ways to live, ways to choose, ways to show love, ways to show affection, ways to transmit rules and requirements, and ways to interact with the environment. One simply has to decide to live in a sustaining and non-damaging manner. The choice is available to all.”

–    from Pond a Connected Existence

Treatment for Hunger

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When you feel hungry—hungry for affection, hungry for purpose, hungry for notice—the treatment is involvement—involvement in the lives of family and friends, involvement in community, involvement in activities in nature, involvement in active pursuits.

When you feel “hungry” for foods that have taste appeal, but little nourishment, the treatment is also involvement—involvement in activities that nourish the desire for an interesting life. These activities also include being with family and friends, taking part in communal activities, bringing nature closer, and being physically active.

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When you feel hungry for purposeful living, the treatment is all the things mentioned above and also exploration of spiritual connection.

Hunger is a good thing when it leads to satiation that is appropriate for the hunger type. Nourishment through foods that are meant to be eaten, activities that are meant to uplift, and connections that are meant to bring security and well-being.


Sometimes the Least Boisterous Person is the True Star—The Dos & Dont’s of Notice



(taken from my article of the same title on HealingAnswers.com)

In a gathering, there usually are the people who stand out. They generate more buzz, they attract attention. There are the people who mill around the buzz-makers and there are the people who make the buzz in the background.

The background buzz-makers are the real ones to follow, but they often don’t make the fuss that generates the action. These people do acts of kindness, make others comfortable, fulfill the role of support provider, and consider the needs of society. These people understand that they are obligated: obligated to care for their families and their community and obligated to remember the needs of the environment and of the creatures that inhabit the Earth.

There are stand-out individuals who not only generate buzz in the limelight, but also fulfill their obligations in much-larger-than-self ways. They, and the less visible obligation-fulfillers, receive notice in the spiritual realm where one’s actions really matter.

This blog post provides the Dos and Dont’s of getting noticed for behavior deserving of notice.

DO:  Fill your time with sustaining activities

Here are a few examples of sustaining activities from Pond a Connected Existence:

Spending time with loved ones! Playing with babies! Teaching children in the customs and traditions of one’s forebears! Singing! Dancing! Singing well! Singing flat! Artistic expression! Preparing healthful meals! Picnics!  Family gatherings! Gatherings of friends! Gatherings of people for life events—sad ones and happy ones!… Working with gusto! Working with integrity! Working in unison and working alone! Group activities that have a higher purpose! Group activities that bring enjoyment! Walking! Running! Jumping! Riding a bike! Riding a wave! Swimming! Moving for fun and moving for health! …

DO: Take care of the environment

Taking care of the environment includes planting plants, trees, and flowers. It also includes not littering and not being wasteful with the Earth’s resources.

DO: Take part in activities that bring betterment to the community and to the less fortunate

No matter how busy you think you are, you are not too busy to help out with a volunteer organization in your area (unless you are attending to a terminally ill family member which is consuming all of your time).

DO: Smile, even when smiling feels forced

A smile lifts the spirits of those who see the smile and the one who wears the smile. As an experiment, sing a song while not smiling and then sing the song again while smiling. Smiling simply changes one’s mood and one’s influence on others.

DON’T: Smile at a person if you are thinking bad thoughts about them

A fake smile cannot necessarily be detected by others, but it is recorded in the spiritual realm. Pretending to be happy when someone makes you unhappy is the incorrect approach. If someone really affects you in a negative way, either try to limit exposure to this person or try to change the dynamic.

DON’T: Fill your time with non-sustaining activities

Non-sustaining activities include small things like watching too much TV, playing too many computer games, eating junk food, complaining about inconveniences. Larger non-sustaining activities include things like participating in aggressive behavior towards other people, other creatures, or the environment; eating too much food; focusing on the lives of people who have no true relevance in one’s life (for instance, following the movements of a celebrity or keeping tabs on old love interests); pretending to like one’s job or partner or pastimes or this or that, when one is unhappy… – “Pond a Connected Existence”.

DON’T: Say no when asked to help just because you want more free time

Obligation to one’s community is much larger than many people think. Taking part in elections, taking part in cleaning up, taking part in communal rituals—these are the basic obligations on all. Beyond those acts, one should participate in bettering the community.  – “Pond a Connected Existence”

Saying no when help is needed does not earn notice where it matters. If you are feeling too tired, rather than lessening your sustaining activities, examine your less sustaining activities and consider lessening them.

DON’T: Be wasteful

Appreciate what you have. Don’t be greedy with your desires. In general, people want more than they need so try to be reasonable in your usage of resources that are not easily replenishable.


The notice being discussed here is not notice by the people seeking excitement. It is notice in the spiritual realm that considers the actions of people and provides spiritual connection or not.

The more a person strives to bring balance to himself or herself and to the family, community, and neighboring environment, the more possibility of spiritual connection and guidance. Balance within and with all lead to life lived purposefully and with spiritual connection.

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